Am I going to fail in life?
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Am I going to fail in life?
Since I've started out as a GCSE Student, I haven't been confident with myself, nor have I been happy with what I did in school,I'm having such an anti-social life and well...I barely have any friends.
But this year my exam results and past papers have really brought me down and it's brought me to the fact where I believe I'm going to fail in life. Everyone else in my year is so smart but I'm not. I mean I did an English exam in November I got a level 2.I did a maths module 1 and I got 3 marks away from a C. And ever since I got these results I cried my eyes out and it's got me having a very negative outlook towards life.
It actually made me see failure in my future life,that I'm never ever going to be an illustrator or something along the lines of art.It also scares me because I don't want to work in a Chinese Restaurant like my mum does and she worked 12 hours straight..I don't want that life and I want to make a difference to the world, make them smile at drawings or something. I don't want to be apart of the food industry. It really scares me..I don't want to end up poor or unemployed just because I didn't do well in my GCSE's.
I mean these exams really hit me hard, and I always revise for them and I end up failing anyway. So it;s made me think what's the point in working hard if I'm going to fail anyway?
I'm really scared..I don't want to fail, I don't want to be poor or anything.
This might sound silly but I nearly choked myself a week ago,and nearly commited suicide 2 times this year because I don't want to have an awful life and the fear of my classmates laughing at me and mocking me in the future... -
Re: Am I going to fail in life?
As long as you push yourself to work hard at whatever you love, you won't fail.
Maybe you're just not cut out for something academic, that doesn't mean that you can't be a success. Don't compare yourself to other people, most of them are sheep.. i know that you probably feel very lonely and hopeless at the moment, but maybe you need this to truly separate yourself from the herd and become youu, which is much more than what most people are able to achieve.
Do something unique with your life.. you don't need GCSEs to become an illustrator!! Some of the best artists never received formal education, so don't allow your school life to make you feel like a failure. Don't allow the people around you to make you feel confined, stop caring what they think.
I know that it's very hard.. i went through the same thing when i was your age, but now i'm so glad that i did.. being a loner made me feel depressed (and still does) but if i didn't feel like that i wouldn't ever draw or paint how i do now.. and i'm still a loser in most people's eyes, but a lot of them change their opinion once they see what i can do..
just stick with who you are, when you feel like a failure draw your guts out.. create something beautiful, exploit all the negativity you've got in your brain by putting it on paper.. or canvas or whatever.. just do something with it, anything
..when you're older you'll find good friends, much better than what you can expect at school.. so don't worry about that
and don't worry about anything, just plough through the crap.. and you'll be fine
(ps if you ever wanna talk or need advice or anything, feel free to pm me) -
Re: Am I going to fail in life?
It's not the end of the world.
I got all my GCSE's but since leaving high school I just floated about aimlessly, in and out of jobs, without a clue as to what I wanted to do. Now I'm 24 and finally going to uni.
There's always another way round any obstacles in life so never let it get to you. -
Re: Am I going to fail in life?
Probably not. The thing about GCSE is that you only really need the core ones, and if you work at your art skills, you can probably resit your GCSEs as you study art, if you need to, if you go to college. I don't want to patronise you and say "it gets better" because I know you're living in the present and the present must suck, but there is probably more support and opportunities for people who aren't fantastic at academia now than when your mum went to school.
When I took my GCSEs my life sucked. Then when I took my A-levels I stayed at the same school (which I couldn't really avoid) but if you don't like your school and you have the option of a local college, go somewhere you think you'll be happier, fresh start and all that.
The thing with going down the art route is that if you work hard enough, you can get into an art college on the quality of your work rather than your academia; they understand that many artists can be brilliant at what they do, but struggle to pass GCSE Science for example.
But I don't want to patronise you so I'll be honest. This part of your life is probably gonna suck, but if you start ordering prospectuses from art colleges you think you could go to then at least you'll be giving yourself motivation and direction. You'll probably get through it, and if you ought to be able to get yourself a decent job regardless of your grades at school. Just start getting experience young so you can make up for it if you don't get many GCSEs. Your life is on the precipice of beginning, so please don't end it. -
Thank you..Very much everyone.I can really see now that it's not the end of the world,I have never actually thought of that and thank you guys for understanding how I'm feeling at this moment right now.
I really do appreciate it and I will work hard in my art,Be my self and try to get pass the obsticals that are in front of me.They really made me smile and it's probably the best 3 pieces of advice I've ever had.its actually made me see that theres still hope in the future
Thank you for replying to this..I really do appreciate this
This was posted from The Student Room's iPhone/iPad AppLast edited by Rikathetika; 17-06-2012 at 00:37. -
Re: Am I going to fail in life?
At one point I was in the same boat as you.. ended up with U's and E's during AS , head of maths told me off , said I will never succeed in life if this goes on ( addiction problems) . The next year I sat all the exams privately which cost me nearly 500 pounds and now here I am about to start 2nd year in Astrophysics.
Don't give up OP. -
Re: Am I going to fail in life?Wow..Thank you for sharing your story.(Original post by liftorrot)
At one point I was in the same boat as you.. ended up with U's and E's during AS , head of maths told me off , said I will never succeed in life if this goes on ( addiction problems) . The next year I sat all the exams privately which cost me nearly 500 pounds and now here I am about to start 2nd year in Astrophysics.
Don't give up OP.
I'm glad your getting through it.
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Re: Am I going to fail in life?
Dont worry, I have exactly the same problem. I feel like i'm going to fail all my GCSE's and just waiting for the outcome is making me feel depressed, I mean i'm not even looking forward to my prom next week because i'm worried about how I will do and its just not helping because I can't change nothing. But I keep having these moments where I think, hang on if worse comes to worse then its not the end of the world and there will be other paths to take in life to succeed and don't worry about how friends make you feel when theyve come out doing brilliantly because at the end of the day, you are who you are and wether your clever, not so clever, academic, talented doesnt give anyone the right to look down on you no matter what it is in life. As for your art, your probably more good at that then them and they can't look down on you for that because your naturally talented where as they may be good at something else. Don't let it get to you no ones a failure in life, we all have different steps in life and this is just one of them at an early age where we are still not developed (mind wise) ourselves and we may think failing our GCSEs is the end of the world now but when it comes to it in later life we will probably laugh at ourselves thinking 'I wish i enjoyed myself more when i was this age instead of worrying over something that you cant change'. All in all, dont worry! People will back you 100% all the way! Hope this helped
because im feeling the same way.
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Re: Am I going to fail in life?(Original post by Kassey01)
Dont worry, I have exactly the same problem. I feel like i'm going to fail all my GCSE's and just waiting for the outcome is making me feel depressed, I mean i'm not even looking forward to my prom next week because i'm worried about how I will do and its just not helping because I can't change nothing. But I keep having these moments where I think, hang on if worse comes to worse then its not the end of the world and there will be other paths to take in life to succeed and don't worry about how friends make you feel when theyve come out doing brilliantly because at the end of the day, you are who you are and wether your clever, not so clever, academic, talented doesnt give anyone the right to look down on you no matter what it is in life. As for your art, your probably more good at that then them and they can't look down on you for that because your naturally talented where as they may be good at something else. Don't let it get to you no ones a failure in life, we all have different steps in life and this is just one of them at an early age where we are still not developed (mind wise) ourselves and we may think failing our GCSEs is the end of the world now but when it comes to it in later life we will probably laugh at ourselves thinking 'I wish i enjoyed myself more when i was this age instead of worrying over something that you cant change'. All in all, dont worry! People will back you 100% all the way! Hope this helped
because im feeling the same way.
You are a very positive person, and I really admire you for that.
Thank you so much, I'll read this again and again And also the other posts! to remind myself that it's not the end of the world. I really do appreciate this, thank you. You're right we will laugh at it in the end! Thank you thank you, It really does me alot to me.
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Re: Am I going to fail in life?(Original post by Teemo)
Don't worry too much about GCSE's, honestly once you get to A level's and past that you realise just how little notice any company takes of GCSE results.
Thank you, I will certainly think of that
