[Anonymous]

Ok, basically I have a friend from my cadets who has invited me to her birthday camp out thing soon and I would really like to go. However, my parents are very worried about me going and have not really allowed me to go because they feel that since it is overnight, there is going to be alcohol and girls there as well (I'm a guy) they assume I'm going to get pressured into shagging someone. I really want to go because I'm in Year 11, going into year 12 and have honestly never been to a proper party before, for various reasons, parents being one of them. How can I convince them to see things from my point of view and allow me to go? I feel like I have missed out on one of the fundamentals of teen life and I'm hating on it right now.

[hvh]

Year 11.. are you 16 yet? If so, they can't really stop you doing anything. Tell them that you are a trustworthy and do not want to miss out on this experience.

These situations always confuse me, since I turned 15 it was more of a case of telling my parents I was going somewhere, rather than asking.

If all else fails - lie. It's not like they have any trust in you to lose anyway, otherwise they would let you go.

If you do not feel comfortable with lying, compromise. Ask to go, but return home for a certain time and not stay out all night.

[Cake Faced Kid.]

Parents who are like this really annoy me, no offence. It's like they can't accept that in less than two years, their child is going to either go to uni, or most likely move away from home. If they don't let their children gain experiences like the party you're mentioning, it isn't going to stand you in a good position when the time comes. You could mention this to them, explain how you feel that you're missing out, assure them that you won't drink (even if you plan to), assure them that you wont go shagging a girl (even if you plan to, I wouldn't advise it), as hvh said, a compromise is sometimes the best soloution, tell them you'll keep your phone on and with you all night if you need to contact them or vice versa, and that you'll be home for a specific time the next day. Good luck

[Knighted]

Why in gods name do your parents think your going to be pressurised into having sex.

If anything your going to be the one applying the pressure

Just got mate, what they gonna do? kick you out of the house? ground you?

If you get grounded = read some books, gain intelligence.

If they confiscate laptop/internet = go outside, look at ****, go for walks.

In this day and age parents can only win with punishments by beating the **** out of you which is illegal anyways.

[Darkphilosopher]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Ok, basically I have a friend from my cadets who has invited me to her birthday camp out thing soon and I would really like to go. However, my parents are very worried about me going and have not really allowed me to go because they feel that since it is overnight, there is going to be alcohol and girls there as well (I'm a guy) they assume I'm going to get pressured into shagging someone. I really want to go because I'm in Year 11, going into year 12 and have honestly never been to a proper party before, for various reasons, parents being one of them. How can I convince them to see things from my point of view and allow me to go? I feel like I have missed out on one of the fundamentals of teen life and I'm hating on it right now.

At 16...? Really..? (Assuming you are 16 of course )

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(Original post by hvh)
If so, they can't really stop you doing anything.

Whilst he's still financially reliant on his parents, they have a fantastic amount of power over him.