[Anonymous]

I don't really know what to do in this situation...I guess you can say I'm a bit lost. I remembered this forum and decided to come here to get some advice.

Well I have a friend I've known for about five years now, he is male and I am female. Until recently we have just been friends, but for just over a month now the level of the relationship seems to be changing on his side and I am getting a bit concerned. I only want to be friends. We get along well together and I am not romantically attracted to him at all. Recently we have been meeting up twice a week, one evening we go out somewhere random, usually to the pub. On the other day we just watch a movie. I think this is good, I like meeting up. Although when we watch a movie sometimes when we are at his place he will try to hold my hand and then I pull away but I'm not being harshly obvious, I'll pick up a drink in that hand or use it to scratch my face or stretch my arms or something. He never tries to do this when we are watching a movie at my place because it is in the living room.

I just want to know how to make this stop because even though he is my friend this makes me feel uncomfortable. What I really want to know is how to make this stop without being direct and coming across as mean. Should I just not go to his place anymore? Hope it goes away by itself? It bugs me sometimes. I just don't want to cause hurt feelings about this situation.

[wateva]

just say ur a lezzer

[Whitechapel]

Leave it for a while. If it escalates into him asking you out/trying something then you'll have to reveal you're not attracted. There are no two ways about it, just let him down gently. And tell him you really like having him as a friend and that you still would like to do the things you do i.e pub/film etc

[Terence_A.]

Sounds like this poor guy's been friend zoned, but that's not your fault. Don't lead him on though!

[ShredMaster]

Just tell him you want to stay as friends. Be direct.