[Anonymous]

so theres this guy and for some reason he thinks i fancy him. we dont have mutual friends or anything so we often go to the pub/play pool/just hang out as the 2 of us. Im aware he fancies me a bit, but Ive told him we will just be friends.

But now im finding the way he comes across as a bit pressuring. For example, if I mention anything at all such as 'I like blond hair on guys' then he says things like 'Im glad you like my hair', even though im not referring to him! Its kind of difficult to explain, but anything i say I like about guys he twists it as if im talking about him and i dont know what to say.

Or he does things like talk about situations where me and him have sex (even though i dont want to) and he says things like 'you clearly find me attractive' and i just dont know what im meant to say.

I dont think he means it in a big headed or arrogant sense, I think he believes I really do like him! But i dont!!!

Any advice? Hes a good friend, but the sexual tension on his side is driving me crazy I dont fancy him at all!

[foolscap]

Come up with a witty retort, or next time he says something about you wanting to have sex with him just say "you wish, dream on", and pull a face that says you're serious. Don't let it get to you, in a way it's a compliment, he thinks you're good looking, and you can't blame him for trying I guess.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by foolscap)
Come up with a witty retort, or next time he says something about you wanting to have sex with him just say "you wish, dream on", and pull a face that says you're serious. Don't let it get to you, in a way it's a compliment, he thinks you're good looking, and you can't blame him for trying I guess.

i said something similar to that once and he asked me why not and i didnt know what to say

[foolscap]

(Original post by Anonymous)
i said something similar to that once and he asked me why not and i didnt know what to say

then say, because you're just friends and you don't fancy him.

[blondyx]

I don't think he thinks you fancy him when he says that sort of stuff, I think he is just trying to flirt.

[Ortegas]

He's just an idiot.

[Foo.mp3]

(Original post by foolscap)
"you wish, dream on"

Cos that's going to make him want to stop trying it on/discourage 'banter'

My take on things like this is that actually you have to be more direct/mature than that. If someone's making you feel uncomfortable/creeping you out with some of their behaviour then really you need to address that by communicating that it's inappropriate. If they don't take the hint then you need to reevaluate whether you're actually benefitting from spending time with such a douche at all

[FrostyLemon]

I'm wondering why you're spending time with him on your own when you know he fancies you? Just start talking about some other guy you like and make him your little best gay guy friend. That'll shut him up.

[systeric]

If you know that he fancies you and you aren't interested, why are you hanging out alone together? Methinks you just like the ego boost.

This guy does NOT want to be just friends with you, so stop stringing him along.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by midlandsman)
If you know that he fancies you and you aren't interested, why are you hanging out alone together? Methinks you just like the ego boost.

This guy does NOT want to be just friends with you, so stop stringing him along.

well i spoke to him today and he said its fine being just friends. and we hang alone together because we dont have any mutual friends.

why cant a guy and girl just be friends?

and why is it just as ego boost when i like him as a friend and ive told him thats all we will be.

FFs you guys need to man up and realise that just because we dont fancy you back it doesnt mean we're after an ego boost.