[Anonymous]

Anon in case she's on here.

So I recently told my girlfriend of 6 months that I loved her but she didn't say it back Just wanted some advice on what I should do. I'm 20 and she's 19 if that helps. Feeling pretty gutted at the moment and I know the obvious solution would be to ask her about it but I don't want to put any pressure on her or anything. Any advice would be appreciated

[Glow in the dark]

What did she say back/ how did she react? Some people show a lack of empathy, especially if they have been hurt in a previous relationship.


So you could well be overreacting, was you with your girlfriend in person?

[RollandGarros]

Who honestly gives a ****? Why do you guys even get into relationships?

They're like Rick Ross, they don't ****ing work out. Ever. Stop wasting your time and get down the gym and become perfect yourself rather than trying to become the perfect couple. Because you never will.

I honestly hope I never tell a woman in the next 5 years the words "I love you".

I promise myself I will wait until i'm ripped and 10% body fat percentage first.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Glow in the dark)
What did she say back/ how did she react? Some people show a lack of empathy, especially if they have been hurt in a previous relationship.


So you could well be overreacting, was you with your girlfriend in person?

Thanks for the reply. Yeah it was in person and she seemed happy that I said it and kissed me, but didn't say anything back. So I'm just a bit confused lol

[mobyfan101]

If she seemed happy and kissed you back, then she could, at worst, be unsure of how she feels about you and be a bit weirded out. At best, she might have been taken aback and wanted to say it back, but have been caught a bit speechless. Personally, since you're 6 months into the relationship, I'd point out that everyone has a different pace of saying "I love you". It's early days yet and it's perfectly acceptable that she might still feel the relationship is progressing towards the "I love you" point. Perhaps show your affection for a while through cuddles etc, rather than saying "I love you". It'll take the pressure off her to say it back, and eventually she will feel comfortable enough to say it. If she doesn't, other tensions will arise in the relationship, and at that point you need to have a talk about where you feel the relationship is going. Don't fret - it's highly likely that this is nothing to worry about

[Foo.mp3]

Try again in another 6 months pal and in the meantime just be glad you're getting your oats

[Anonymous]

(Original post by mobyfan101)
If she seemed happy and kissed you back, then she could, at worst, be unsure of how she feels about you and be a bit weirded out. At best, she might have been taken aback and wanted to say it back, but have been caught a bit speechless. Personally, since you're 6 months into the relationship, I'd point out that everyone has a different pace of saying "I love you". It's early days yet and it's perfectly acceptable that she might still feel the relationship is progressing towards the "I love you" point. Perhaps show your affection for a while through cuddles etc, rather than saying "I love you". It'll take the pressure off her to say it back, and eventually she will feel comfortable enough to say it. If she doesn't, other tensions will arise in the relationship, and at that point you need to have a talk about where you feel the relationship is going. Don't fret - it's highly likely that this is nothing to worry about

Great advice, thank you

[For The Love Of Giraffe]

You won't both fall in love at the exact same point, so it makes sense for one of you to get there first...but it sounds like she cares for you, so all hope is not lost yet! Just give it a while

If anything, at least she didn't say it for the sake of it (as most would), so when she says it, you know she would genuinely mean it and it's not just to be kind

[pinkangelgirl]

*awkward turtle*

[DaneCook]

(Original post by Bubbles*de*Milo)
Hah. Said this to my boyfriend during sex. Carried on and pretended he hadn't heard me..

Said it again a second later and he looks me in the eyes and says "I know".


Great.

Sounds about right. Although this is coming from someone who simply says 'cheers' to his girlfriend when she utters those 3 words.

And now reading back, if she read this she'd probably know it was me.

[sweeter than a cherry pie]

(Original post by RollandGarros)
Who honestly gives a ****? Why do you guys even get into relationships?

They're like Rick Ross, they don't ****ing work out. Ever.

I honestly hope I never tell a woman in the next 5 years the words "I love you".

I promise myself I will wait until i'm ripped and 10% body fat percentage first.

Of course relationships work out. Not all of them do, as the depressing divorce statistics these days show, and I'm sure the ones that do last until death have their ups and downs, but people do stay together and stay in love, and if you honestly don't believe that you must be so wrapped up in your narcissism that it's blinded you to the world.

And, you do realise you've implied it's going to take you five years to get ripped and down to 10% body fat?

[ViceVersa]

It depends how she reacted. If she was happy and super touched it means she's really glad you told her that but she isn't ready to say it back. 'Love' is a strong word and it could be it maybe means more to her than the average person, she's not ready, or past relationships has made her weary to say it back. Whatever it is I say be patient. If she's your girlfriend and the relationship is good there's no way she doesn't have feelings for you, so I'm sure she'll say it when she's ready. If you push her or start something about it, it might turn it into an argument and you might end up losing her. Eventually she will say it when ready and when there's no pressure to, so don't make her feel bad or anything for not saying it back. I know to you 6 months might be a lot but it's still sort of early. Good luck OP.