[Anonymous]

Me and this boy have been best friends for about three years now. We were both previously in pretty long-term relationships so never really used to spend much time together as we both felt it wasn't really the "done thing" when we both had partners. Both of our relationships ended this year, due to various reasons, and now there are no constraints we've begun to hang out with eachother a lot more.

Nothing has ever happened between us - since we've both been single we've both been getting with other people for example on holiday and on nights out, and we tell eachother about all of this and laugh at the scrapes we each get into, but despite this I think there is kind of something (I don't know what) there between us.

It's funny because both sets of our parents think we're together. Also today we were watching a film together and at one point he had his arm around me, and then he was leaning on me, tickling me etc... just felt quite coupley but without any kissing or anything like that! It's as if that's a line that neither of us can quite bring ourselves to cross...

Just wanted to know if anyone had been in a similar situation? I've thought recently that maybe I do like him romantically, but can't imagine him feeling the same! And it's complicated anyway because he is going travelling in a couple of months and I'm off to uni... we just get on so well and I love spending time with him, and I do find him really attractive as well which is a bonus!

One other complication is that when I was with my ex, he was always a bit suspicious of this friendship, although we were never quite this close when I was in a relationship, we never spent any time alone together and didn't talk half as much or about as personal things, and there was no hint of feelings towards him at all then. But I worry if anything were to happen, my ex (who I am still on good terms with) would think it had been happening all along...

Just want an outside perspective really, sorry that this is so long!

[MelissaBabe]

So what what your ex thinks.. It's his loss.. And tbh it's best to just put it out there.. Ask him how he feels.. Or get drunk and just kiss him lol


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[BethaneyJ]

My ex used to be suspicious of my relationship with our mutual friend C. And even though at the time we didn't know it we must ahve had something there because, when me and C both became single our relationship just happened out of thin air and we've now been together for over 7 years! Make sure he feels the same and give it a go!

Screw what your ex thinks (or perhaps ask him what he thinks once you've spoken to the new guy).

Good luck. I hope you have a love story like ours <3 :3

[katiek-]

I was in a situation almost identical to yours!

I think the biggest problem I had was the fear of ruining our friendship. I didn't think he'd feel the same and that it'd make things awkward between us, but luckily it didn't turn out that way at all. We ended up telling each other how we felt one night and we've been together ever since Looking back all of the signs were so obvious, it just took us a while to realise

If you think there's something there, I'd say go for it; I know I'm a little biased but if you don't you'll always wonder what could've been. Just put it out there and see what he says because he might not feel the same - but he might.

As far as your ex goes, don't worry about it. Even if he does believe it's been happening all along the fact is that it hasn't, and he'll just have to accept that. It wouldn't be fair on you to put your feelings aside for his sake.

I hope things work out for you

[Anonymous]

Thank you all so the general advice is to just bite the bullet and go for it - pretty terrified but I'm going to wait a few weeks and see how (or if) things progress...

[BethaneyJ]

Let us know!!!

[Studentus-anonymous]

Ex's have a powerful ability to predict your next partner.