[Mr Anonymous]

Hi all, im an 19 year old sikh male adult. I really want to get my hair cut but my family will disown me if i did. My parents are very religious and there is absolutely no one in my entire family that has cut hair. Alot of the younger generation have trimmed beards but thats as far as it goes. My hair is up to my ass and it annoys me soo much. I get headaches sometimes and it gets really irritating in the summer. I trim my beard and my parents were devastated when they first found out, i really dont want to hurt them because i love them but im getting depressed being stuck in this position. I honestly believe that my parents want me to keep my hair just so my familys reputation isnt diminished but im contemplating just moving out and cutting it but i have no job or any support. Please advise me.. im really depressed atm.

[voodoochild]

I am actually so sorry to hear this, I don't really have much useful advice. If it's really so bad that you'll get thrown out for it I'd think about ways to move out the house and become self reliant as quickly as possible. :L

[Pn94]

Would they really disown you? You might be going a bit far with that conclusion, but you know best.

You could always try and get a doctor's note which explains that long hair gives you headaches, is detrimental to your health and what not - that could sway them. If not, then you'll just have to stick it out until you move out.

[M1011]

Would you look good bald? After all, it's not your fault if all your hair falls out, that's just an act of God!

[kka25]

: (

I'm very sorry to hear this. I don't think I have any suggestions really; also, I'm a bit worried that I might be biased with my own ignorance towards your family's beliefs and culture.

How about your best buddies? How do they manage this? Is their someone that you can talk to? Have you talked to them?

[Soph.Jade]

Could you just give it a sneaky trim or would this not resolve it? or maybe cut off some of the layers underneath so it's not visible but feels a lot finer?
Sorry you're having such a bad time :/ sounds very stressful!

[Mr Anonymous]

Thanks for the replies. I cant really trim it down bc itll still be noticeable. Im not into my religion and feel very frustrated. Ive been to a doctor and he suggested getting an eye test the headaches that i get may be bc of an eye strain.

[Joeman560]

A guy i used to know had his in a plait and then put the plait into a round bun. It looked pretty good on him (if you're allowed to shave it would look better).

[AhzhaK]

Can't you become friends with/ point out people with short hair from "good" families at the gurdwara. If your parents are immigrants you could try and introduce them to families who have lived here for a couple of generations and have bevome more western, but are still well respected.
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[Mr Anonymous]

My parents are very religious, my dad does alot of voluntary service for gurdwaras so i dont think he'll understand. He didnt talk to me for 3 days when i trimmed my beard. My parents are conscious of what my family say as it will damage their reputation.

[hvh]

You could get it thinned out, which will take alot of weight off the hair, without it being any shorter. This could be a temporary solution to the headache problem, although not what you want.

They way they do it is they have a pair of scissors that literally cuts every other strand, therefore taking the weight off, but no noticable length.

I'm not sure it would work with your family, but maybe they would respect you more if you went to them first and suggested this solution and explained how much the headaches are effecting you? Take the better for your health route rather than the it will look better route?