I Find it hard to keep Friends.
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I Find it hard to keep Friends.Hey all, I realised i have a problem, i find it hard to keep friends, I am quite shy and don't go out much except for every so often hanging out and mainly going college,
When i make friends its like im friends with them for a few months then some reason i just stop talking to them, i recently realised it has been happening loads and recently mainly during my time off college :/
I just dont know what to do and what is causing it >.<
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Re: I Find it hard to keep Friends.Do you really like these people that you make friends with?
Do you feel comfortable not having that many friends or does it upset you?
For me personally, I have my boyfriend and a couple of close mates. I regularly go out and socialise with them and whilst out I have a lot of people I know and will make conversation with. However, I would never go out and just hang out with these people. I am happy with that.
If you aren't this type of person. Then I am sorry to say it, but you need to get off TSR, ring up some people and make an effort to go out with them. Friendships are hard to maintain, especially when one person just can't be arsed to go out and do anything. You cannot expect them to continue inviting you out to do things when you constantly say no. People generally want friends outside of college, work, university. -
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Re: I Find it hard to keep Friends.Hey Hvh, Thanks for replying,
I am alright about it's just i used to be extremely out going, going out all the time then i realise the people i was with at the time all they did was want to get drunk :/ and i didnt want that,
after that i always made sure the people im friends with are fine people and my lateist friends i find they are awesome its just its hard for me to go out with them to anywhere due to they live about 10-20 miles away from me,
It makes it harder for us to meet up due to travel costs or/ any of us are working quite often :/
You have helped though, when i go back to college in sept, ill make sure to try harder with friends myself, it is my fault,
I just also find it hard to find people with similar hobbys to me, I'm a musician, film maker, graphic design.
But thank you Hvh for replying.
