[Anonymous]

My parents are both retired, so they are at home all the time. I understand some people would love the company, but for me it's driving me crazy!

I feel like I can never get a minute to myself without them nagging me to do stuff, talking to me, telling me to get outside and off the computer, get a job etc. My mum has these weird mood swings where she'll be sad for no reason and take it out on me.

They hardly ever go out together, so I never get the house to myself, which I used to always love when they used to work (they retired about 2 years ago so it's been like this for a while ) Going from uni, where I have all the freedom and independence I want, to this is horrible

I see my friends usually about twice a week, but because they either work or are on holidays then I can't see them more. Even if I go see friends, when I come back home my parents are there :/

I'm trying to get a job but I can't find one, i'm trying to save up for my next term at uni so I don't want to spend a lot on going places. I live in a village which is about 30 minutes to the nearest big town, and I don't have a car, so it's hard for me to do anything which doesn't cost me a lot just on transport, as a return on the bus is £5.50

Just wanted to know if anyone else has this situation? I don't want it to come across like I hate my parents or i'm ungrateful that they're here all the time, I just wish i'd get some time to myself and I much preferred it when they worked, then came home in the evening.

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(Original post by Anonymous)
My parents are both retired, so they are at home all the time. I understand some people would love the company, but for me it's driving me crazy!

I feel like I can never get a minute to myself without them nagging me to do stuff, talking to me, telling me to get outside and off the computer, get a job etc. My mum has these weird mood swings where she'll be sad for no reason and take it out on me.

They hardly ever go out together, so I never get the house to myself, which I used to always love when they used to work (they retired about 2 years ago so it's been like this for a while ) Going from uni, where I have all the freedom and independence I want, to this is horrible

I see my friends usually about twice a week, but because they either work or are on holidays then I can't see them more. Even if I go see friends, when I come back home my parents are there :/

I'm trying to get a job but I can't find one, i'm trying to save up for my next term at uni so I don't want to spend a lot on going places. I live in a village which is about 30 minutes to the nearest big town, and I don't have a car, so it's hard for me to do anything which doesn't cost me a lot just on transport, as a return on the bus is £5.50

Just wanted to know if anyone else has this situation? I don't want it to come across like I hate my parents or i'm ungrateful that they're here all the time, I just wish i'd get some time to myself and I much preferred it when they worked, then came home in the evening.

I'm not in the same situation as you but I can understand it. I'm someone who needs quite a lot of personal space, so I used to dread weekends because my parents would be there the whole time. My parents have trouble understanding the concept of personal space, they're the kind of couple that are quite comfortable going to the toilet infront of eachother. So my mum would do things like barge into my room whilst I was getting changed, and at complaining her response was always, relax I'm not going to steal anything. What really helped me was moving into my sisters old room, which was the loft conversion. So now I can't hear them from up here, so it's like being by myself, when they want to get hold of me, they tend to ring my mobile rather than climb two flights of stairs although if I miss their calls and they come up atleast the stairs give me some warning and by the time they get here and unless it's important they forget what they're going to nag me about. My brother kind of moved into the shed during the day whilst he was living at home to get some space which worked the same, do you have anything like this you can do?

If not the other option would be to talk to them. Explain how you love being home, but how you're used to having personal space and it would be nice if you could have atleast x amount of time each day where they didn't disturb you. If they don't get it the first time, try again and if they still ignore you, if worst comes to worse get a lock. It worked for one of my ex's friends.

As for your mum, people rarely get upset for no reason. It may just be that you don't understand, that could be because she hasn't let you know why etc. Maybe next time she loses it with you, ask if she's ok and see if you can get her to talk to you.

[MancBoy]

My parents had to retire when I was 10. Yes they annoy me sometimes but I think to myself 'one day when your parents aren't here anymore you will miss their company'. Make the most of it. Life is too short.