[Movember]

i'm sure my dad used to do this when i was younger, but i have noticed it a lot more since i left home a few years ago and now since my sister has left home. whenever we go out and leave our rooms, he goes into our rooms and starts cleaning things/re-arranging things.

like for instance my sister left to stay at a friends house in a different city for a few days, within an hour of her leaving, he went into her room and started re-arranging all her clothes and belongings, cleaning the carpets and cleaning the bed. now her clothes and belongings were strewn everywhere, and the carpet had gathered general dust and dirt as all carpets do, but is he right to do this? it seems really controll-freak like.

even when i get up in the morning to go to the bathroom, my dad will walk into my room within a couple of minutes to make my bed, open my window, re-arrange the stuff on my desk to 'make things tidier' in his words. he even complained for a while that i hadnt made my bed- i couldnt because when i wake up, i need the toilet straight away then make my bed after, but he doesnt listen to my reasoning. when i go to the gym, he always go into my room to dust down my desk and re-arrange all the papers on it to 'make it neater'.

Is my dad right/justified to do this and what are your opinions on this?

[Miraclefish]

It may be that he suffers from a mild case of OCD. It sounds harmless, and as long as he's not invading privacy, and is merely trying to make the house you share a little tidier, if you can live with it and it doesn't cause any issues, then let it be.

[NathanW18]

I'd say making your bed and opening the window is okay, but not rearranging your things.

[london_toon]

Your Dad is only trying to keep things clean, nothing wrong with that.
Seems like he might have OCD or something, maybe he doesnt want to annoy you with his cleaning so does it when you're not there.

[hvh]

Sounds to me like he has OCD to be honest.

I wouldn't make too big a deal out of it, he can't help it. Plus, saves you doing it

[deuxchatsnoirs]

To be honest I'd thank him, I'd love someone to clean my room! :P

[Ham22]

Probably better start booby trapping your room.

[Clare~Bear]

I'd love it if my parents cleaned my room for me without making a fuss - my mum does hoover my room if she's hoovering upstairs anyway. Although I wouldn't want them rummaging through my stuff.

[beccafairy]

just let him know if there are certain things you don't want him to rearrange? sounds like he's just house proud/maybe a little OCD, but i don't see any real harm in it.

[JongKey]

(Original post by deuxchatsnoirs)
To be honest I'd thank him, I'd love someone to clean my room! :P

Nah I have a very organised pile of mess, i know where everything is even though everything is everywhere. I go nuts when my mum comes in and 'cleans' everything lol.

[DorianGrayism]

Yeh. My mum does this. I tell her not to, but then she will eventually do it anyway.

She rearranges stuff on the table, which means I don't know where it is.

I know it is a mess but I know where everything is in the mess. SO when she moves things around, I cannot find anything.

To be honest, I think she does it because she has nothing else to do and it is part of her routine. It is like hoovering. She will insist on doing it every day even though the carpet looks fine and while I am watching TV.

[crocker710]

I'd imagine he'd prefer his house tidy rather than a bomb site.

[haverstock]

He's playing the typical 'mother' figure, and just wants things to be clean and tidy! It could be OCD as some people suggested, but I think that you shouldn't jump to conclusions without assessing any other OCD-like symptoms. I would be glad if any of my parents did the same for me rather than nagging me about it all the time!

[Movember]

(Original post by Miraclefish)
It may be that he suffers from a mild case of OCD. It sounds harmless, and as long as he's not invading privacy, and is merely trying to make the house you share a little tidier, if you can live with it and it doesn't cause any issues, then let it be.

he has invaded my privacy and continues to do it. i had made a few notes on poker (they were at the bottom of a pile of papers face down). he had gone into my room when i was out, re-arranged those papers, saw the notes and then proceeded to make rude/sarcastic comments whenever he saw me about gambling.

[london_toon]

yeah re-arranging some papers into a neater pile and making your bed isnt OCD lol, its being normal. Plus as a Dad, he just wants to be an adult and keep things clean.

[loze21]

Oh god, this is exactly what my mam does and it drives me crazy. She only does this when I'm not in the house though but she rearranges things and even chucks things out without asking me! I tell her not to do it but she never listens, I don't think it's right for someone not to respect someone else's privacy.

[carnationlilyrose]

You say you left home a few years ago. If you have another home elsewhere, then this is his home now. I never set foot inside my sons' rooms until they left home and started paying rent to somebody, then I went in and gutted the place and redecorated it. It's their room to stay in when they come to visit, but when they go, it reverts to my house and it gets kept how I want it. I don't go and muck about with their stuff in the house they pay rent for. That's their territory, obviously.

[Cake Faced Kid.]

I would hate that if it was me. Maybe talk to him, let him know that you find it a little strange. You could compromise, allow him to make your bed and open your window, but not to rearrange your things? Seems very invasive if you ask me.

[Movember]

(Original post by Cake Faced Kid.)
I would hate that if it was me. Maybe talk to him, let him know that you find it a little strange. You could compromise, allow him to make your bed and open your window, but not to rearrange your things? Seems very invasive if you ask me.

thats what i thought. its very invasive and i dont like it but apparently people who have posted think its normal and i cant complain.

[Astronomical]

It's his house, I presume, and so he is not invading anything. He owns that room and is merely allowing you to keep an eye on it for him. Absolutely nothing wrong with him wanting to keep his house tidy, despite your best efforts.