Have I done anything wrong?
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Have I done anything wrong?There is more to this than I'm going to write but details are irrelevant....
I slept with a guy that I work with...he's just split up with a girl that I work with...
I'm friends with both of them, him more so than her to the extent of going out on nights out with him and others from work.
I'm single and we often joke about how I 'need' sex, he's always made it secretly clear he'd like to have sex with me...so yeah we slept together. I feel quite bad since I work with his girlfriend too but it was just sex to distract us both, we both wanted/needed it!
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Re: Have I done anything wrong?It's tough because techincally no you havent as he was sinlge but I think she will struggle to see it as just sex, i know id be heartbroken if my friends slept with my boyfriend I think you should tell her about it first and explain it was just sex
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Re: Have I done anything wrong?How many girls view sex, as just sex, when it comes to a partner / former partner?(Original post by SillyMilly)
It's tough because techincally no you havent as he was sinlge but I think she will struggle to see it as just sex, i know id be heartbroken if my friends slept with my boyfriend I think you should tell her about it first and explain it was just sex -
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Re: Have I done anything wrong?(Original post by ct2k7)
How many girls view sex, as just sex, when it comes to a partner / former partner?
Well I dont at all I could neverhave sex without emotion so I wouldnt sleep with anybody who wasnt my boyfriend, but I think the OP just wanted sex -
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Re: Have I done anything wrong?SillyMilly, your values are making me attracted to you ...(Original post by SillyMilly)
Well I dont at all I could neverhave sex without emotion so I wouldnt sleep with anybody who wasnt my boyfriend, but I think the OP just wanted sex -
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Re: Have I done anything wrong?That's not very healthy either.(Original post by Anonymous)
She won't ever find out, we agreed to keep it between us if it was going to happen! -
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Re: Have I done anything wrong?All it takes is for one of you to slip it.(Original post by Anonymous)
It keeps arguments out of the equasion though. It was literally just sex and we've been in work together since, things are still the same!
SillyMilly, this is why I'm so against sex without emotion, it can very easily screw things up. -
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Dude! You broke the girl code!
JK lol is she really a friend though or just an acquaintance? Do you really feel bad about it? would you be pissed off if a "friend" slept with your boyfriend as soon as you broke up?
Ask your self that
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Re: Have I done anything wrong?I'd class her as an aquaintance rather than a friend yeah, I don't actually talk to her unless I'm in work and even then its strained!
I think I just feel bad as I know its not nice, she'll never find out though! Nobody will, it was just a bit of fun for us both. -
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Well I say oh well(Original post by Anonymous)
I'd class her as an aquaintance rather than a friend yeah, I don't actually talk to her unless I'm in work and even then its strained!
I think I just feel bad as I know its not nice, she'll never find out though! Nobody will, it was just a bit of fun for us both.
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Re: Have I done anything wrong?If she's not even your friend why are you bothered. It's cool you're concerned about someone else's feelings but it was just sex and you made no best friend girl code commitment to said girl.(Original post by Anonymous)
I'd class her as an aquaintance rather than a friend yeah, I don't actually talk to her unless I'm in work and even then its strained!
I think I just feel bad as I know its not nice, she'll never find out though! Nobody will, it was just a bit of fun for us both.
Plus her ex is going to sleep with someone else eventually, so sooner or later she would have to deal with her feelings about him moving on.
Let it go. -
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Well put!(Original post by Studentus-anonymous)
If she's not even your friend why are you bothered. It's cool you're concerned about someone else's feelings but it was just sex and you made no best friend girl code commitment to said girl.
Plus her ex is going to sleep with someone else eventually, so sooner or later she would have to deal with her feelings about him moving on.
Let it go.
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You have said they have broke up right, so it shouldn't bother you "Her" feelings even if she was you friend.But the fact that He insists to keep it secret means that he still cares about her and thinking for future with her,so in this case you have been used my Darling - do Not keep it secret
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Re: Have I done anything wrong?It might be a simple case of tact, rather than 'using' someone. I'm sure my ex will sleep with someone else before long, and I hope I will at some point too. But I wouldn't rub it in his face, and wouldn't want him to do that to me. You can still care about someone without wanting to have a romantic future with them.
