[Anonymous]

My family are going on holiday later this year for a week but I really don't want to go. I'm a girl and 18 years old but my mum has mentioned me staying at a relatives house... she prefers my older brother to be there to look after me but he wants to go with them. If they force me to stay at a relatives house, instead of staying at my own house for the week alone, despite me being 18 are they out of order? I know they don't really trust me but they have no reason not to. I've never done anything seriously wrong, they just have it in for me.

Is there anyway they can force me?

[bytail]

Do you have relatives nearby? Perhaps suggest you stay at home but have a relative/neighbour check in on you every so often? My parents have left me home alone for the past couple of years whilst they've gone away and have always been fine with it My grandparents just popped round once or twice to check I was okay and were always on the end of the phone if I needed them.

[SnoochToTheBooch]

I suppose technically if it's their house it's up to them who stays in it, but it is an arsey thing to do if they kick you out for the week.

[123maz]

id stay at home if i was you, i used to be left home alone when i was about 13 really - just lock the windows and dont watch crimewatch!

[I love shopping]

Yes, it is out of order to not let you stay at home alone. Just calmly explain to them that you're an adult capable of looking after yourself. Tell them that you'll be safe and sensible while they are away. They need to start trusting you to look after yourself because you're not going to be living with them forever! If they are worried about your safety, tell them you call them or other relatives every day to let them know everything is okay.

I suppose they can force you since it's their house and they are you parents after all. But if you speak to them maybe they'll change their minds.

Good luck!

[PinkMobilePhone]

As people have said, it's their house, so it's up to them if you stay in it or not. But you're 18...a lot of people actually move out and into their own places at 18...it's a bit silly of them to think that you need another adult to supervise you.

[MathematicsKiller]

Tell them that there is no need to worry.
Tell them that you already bought condoms.

[jumpingjesusholycow]

As others have said, it's their house so it's their rules, but come on. You're 18.

You just need to convince them that you're not a child, you can look after yourself and that they can trust you to take care of the house while they're gone.

[tamimi]

(Original post by Anonymous)
My family are going on holiday later this year for a week but I really don't want to go. I'm a girl and 18 years old but my mum has mentioned me staying at a relatives house... she prefers my older brother to be there to look after me but he wants to go with them. If they force me to stay at a relatives house, instead of staying at my own house for the week alone, despite me being 18 are they out of order? I know they don't really trust me but they have no reason not to. I've never done anything seriously wrong, they just have it in for me.

Is there anyway they can force me?

Legally, they can't force you to stay at your relative's or whatever, due to you not being a minor, but they have the right to ask you to leave the premise upon demand as you're technically a guest rather than a resident since you're 18, unless your name is enlisted on the property ownership documentation.

Morally, you just do whatever your parents tell you to do.

[Hopple]

If you have your own house key, agree to stay with a relative, then when you're with them go back home - tell your relative you want to be near friends or something. If you don't have a key, leave your bedroom window unlocked.

[Tim99]

(Original post by tamimi)
Legally, they can't force you to stay at your relative's or whatever, due to you not being a minor, but they have the right to ask you to leave the premise upon demand as you're technically a guest rather than a resident since you're 18, unless your name is enlisted on the property ownership documentation.

Morally, you just do whatever your parents tell you to do.

Agreed

(Original post by Hopple)
If you have your own house key, agree to stay with a relative, then when you're with them go back home - tell your relative you want to be near friends or something. If you don't have a key, leave your bedroom window unlocked.

I'd go with this.

(Original post by Anonymous)
My family are going on holiday later this year for a week but I really don't want to go. I'm a girl and 18 years old but my mum has mentioned me staying at a relatives house... she prefers my older brother to be there to look after me but he wants to go with them.
Is there anyway they can force me?

As tamimi says it's there house so LEGALLY they can make you leave. If it's a trust issue then it maybe hard to convince them otherwise.