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How do I get out?I have been friends with a girl for 6 years, at uni she kept asking me to meet up etc and I wasn't too fussed as I had friends so I thought there is no harm. Since then she has been nothing but a burden on me and other people. She has depression, self harms and is very opinionated. I don't mind people talking about their problems but she constantly talk about her depression which then gets me down.
I went on holiday with her last week, I let her stop at my parents holiday home - it's not posh but does the job. It was the worst holiday ever, she was joined at the hip, she stares at me constantly and will watch me and talk at me whilst I am eating and if she doesn't agree with something you say you will go on at you until you give into her. I did all of the driving, she never helped tidy up and I found myself tidying and cleaning the house on the last day while she sat and watched TV. She kept spilling things on the worktops and and towels in the airing cupboard. I was annoyed as my parents don't have to let her stop and she isn't showing their place any respect. When on holiday she does what she usually does not bring any toiletries and kept asking to use mine, this time I said I hadn't got any - I just find it rude and she should but her own.
She even asked if I could drive 60 miles away next weekend to go to a festival - I don't get why as I have just spent a lot of money and we have just spent a week together. She is a lonely person with no friends and doesn't get that people in the past have had enough of her because she is selfish and controlling. How can I get rid of her as she gets me down a lot. -
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Re: How do I get out?Yeah I don't see how this plan could go wrong =P(Original post by hajinator)
Is she fit? Have sex with her and don't call her. That should ruin your friendship and she would hate you forever
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Re: How do I get out?Haha(Original post by Cephalus)
Yeah I don't see how this plan could go wrong =P
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Ahhh the good old nutter friend stories :P just ignore them until they get the message, when asked don't say that you're busy or anything just say that you need a break from her.(Original post by Anonymous)
I have been friends with a girl for 6 years, at uni she kept asking me to meet up etc and I wasn't too fussed as I had friends so I thought there is no harm. Since then she has been nothing but a burden on me and other people. She has depression, self harms and is very opinionated. I don't mind people talking about their problems but she constantly talk about her depression which then gets me down.
I went on holiday with her last week, I let her stop at my parents holiday home - it's not posh but does the job. It was the worst holiday ever, she was joined at the hip, she stares at me constantly and will watch me and talk at me whilst I am eating and if she doesn't agree with something you say you will go on at you until you give into her. I did all of the driving, she never helped tidy up and I found myself tidying and cleaning the house on the last day while she sat and watched TV. She kept spilling things on the worktops and and towels in the airing cupboard. I was annoyed as my parents don't have to let her stop and she isn't showing their place any respect. When on holiday she does what she usually does not bring any toiletries and kept asking to use mine, this time I said I hadn't got any - I just find it rude and she should but her own.
She even asked if I could drive 60 miles away next weekend to go to a festival - I don't get why as I have just spent a lot of money and we have just spent a week together. She is a lonely person with no friends and doesn't get that people in the past have had enough of her because she is selfish and controlling. How can I get rid of her as she gets me down a lot.
I had a friend like this (i am male, she female), absolutely barmey, she was nuts, screamed, cried etc when things didn't go her way, self harmed and things like that. In fact once she sent me a picture of her latest cut with a caption "the purpose was to die". Now, don't judge me, but i did not reply, i knew she was being nutty and vying for attention more than anything else, this is the key, don't provide the attention that they want and spell it out in clear language that she can't just use you. Again, nobody judge me, but I told my nutty friend on her birthday (also valentine's day, I suspect she liked me... A lot, not really a suspicion actually, it was rather scarily obvious) that she was too much for me to handle and after that i ignored her solid for a good few weeks. Got loads'a texts about how horrible a person I am and such like.
Moral of my little story is, if you still want her as a friend, don't do what i did, if you do, then go ahead :P You have to be cruel to be kind, people cannot rely on others when they're absolutely nuts, it's unhealthy.
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Re: How do I get out?She has even threatened me before and said a few times if I ever upset her she will come round and slash my tyres. She even slapped an off duty police officer in the face the other week in the pub cos she decided to start on him so he gave her an earful back.
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Re: How do I get out?(Original post by Anonymous)
I have been friends with a girl for 6 years, at uni she kept asking me to meet up etc and I wasn't too fussed as I had friends so I thought there is no harm. Since then she has been nothing but a burden on me and other people. She has depression, self harms and is very opinionated. I don't mind people talking about their problems but she constantly talk about her depression which then gets me down.
I went on holiday with her last week, I let her stop at my parents holiday home - it's not posh but does the job. It was the worst holiday ever, she was joined at the hip, she stares at me constantly and will watch me and talk at me whilst I am eating and if she doesn't agree with something you say you will go on at you until you give into her. I did all of the driving, she never helped tidy up and I found myself tidying and cleaning the house on the last day while she sat and watched TV. She kept spilling things on the worktops and and towels in the airing cupboard. I was annoyed as my parents don't have to let her stop and she isn't showing their place any respect. When on holiday she does what she usually does not bring any toiletries and kept asking to use mine, this time I said I hadn't got any - I just find it rude and she should but her own.
She even asked if I could drive 60 miles away next weekend to go to a festival - I don't get why as I have just spent a lot of money and we have just spent a week together. She is a lonely person with no friends and doesn't get that people in the past have had enough of her because she is selfish and controlling. How can I get rid of her as she gets me down a lot.
The fact that she has threatened you makes you a victim of violence. This is nothing to be ashamed of but you must act now.
1. She is not your responsibility
2. Stop seeing her - do not respond to her phone calls; do not make any contact with her. If she does speak to you say you are busy/have date/going out with mates/girlfriend etc
3. You are perpetuating her behaviour by responding to her
4. Call a domestic abuse number now - look them up there are some for men
5. She needs to seek urgent help - or she will not only drag herself down she will drag you down too
6. For insurance, I would inform the police that she has threatened you
And finally ignore the prats on this website with their stupid suggestions - honestly the youth of today -
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Re: How do I get out?She'll come round and slash your tyres? I would have ended the friendship straight after she said that. Is she crazy? I mean seriously. Just tell her to..go away. (putting it politely).(Original post by Anonymous)
She has even threatened me before and said a few times if I ever upset her she will come round and slash my tyres. She even slapped an off duty police officer in the face the other week in the pub cos she decided to start on him so he gave her an earful back.
