[saibhandari]

Hi everybody!

I have a friend who is usually really nice, but since getting a girlfriend his friendly behaviour has disappeared down the drain.

He used to treat me as a close friend, even telling me I was one sometimes but now he just treats me as an acquaintance. Just yesterday we had a Skype conversation and it ended in a fight because he told me that he doesn't see the point in getting to know another of my close friends (who he knew before I knew either of them) because he has 'too many friends already'. Is it just me or is that the biggest piece of rubbish you've ever heard. He then went on to tell her that 'he doesn't like ignoring people but if he does there's nothing he can do about it'. Which is kinda mean in my opinion, considering that all she's ever done is be nice to him. Also, when we try to explain to him the fact that he isn't being kind he just says that he doesn't want so many friends.

As well as this, whenever he's upset (usually about rather trivial things), everyone in my group of friends comforts him but when we're majorly upset, he puts off talking to us for as long as he can, whereas he used to know when something was up just by looking at us.

Now of course we're not blaming it all on the girlfriend - she's a really sweet kind person. The problem lies within the way he reacted to having her. He seems to think that because he is happy, everyone else is too and every time we talk he finds a way to direct the conversation to her. This was fine at first because we were all extremely happy for him but as time has passed and his attitude towards us has changed it's making me and the others feel slightly meaningless to him.

All of this didn't happen very suddenly but it still hurts nonetheless.

Anyway the point of this rant was to ask the question - have anyone of you ever been through the same sort of situation and how did you deal with it? Because it's really putting a big strain on our friendship and if there was a way to sort it out then that would be great. Even somebody to talk to about this kind of problem would be fantastic!

Thank you and good bye from Serena!

[MRH94]

I went through the same thing which eventually led me to stop talking to him. When the relationship fell apart he became 'normal' again and I spoke to him about how he stopped bothering with us etc. Anyway, he is now in another relationship and we still hang out a lot. I think because he was so in love that he completely forgot about his group off friends which I guess can happen but I think by ignoring him he knew we were upset. Now we try to bring his GF along.. sometimes

[EckoGecko]

Sounds exactly like my friend.
Unsurprisingly we don't contact or hang out much (well, at all really...)
I've learnt to live with it and cannot wait to move away, go to uni and make new friends.

[saibhandari]

(Original post by MRH94)
I went through the same thing which eventually led me to stop talking to him. When the relationship fell apart he became 'normal' again and I spoke to him about how he stopped bothering with us etc. Anyway, he is now in another relationship and we still hang out a lot. I think because he was so in love that he completely forgot about his group off friends which I guess can happen but I think by ignoring him he knew we were upset. Now we try to bring his GF along.. sometimes

Thanks very much for sharing your story and giving me hope that it might turn out the same with me and my friend!

[MRH94]

(Original post by saibhandari)
Thanks very much for sharing your story and giving me hope that it might turn out the same with me and my friend!

No problem! Good luck, I hope everything works out PM me if you have any questions