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How did you feel after dumping someone?We have a thread on how it feels being dumped, so I thought I might ask how people have felt when they were the dumper? Do be honest, even if it made you feel good or exhilarated (as has been the case for me).
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Re: How did you feel after dumping someone?Something of a relief. Like a weights been lifted. I was certain I needed to let him go, then went through a lot of emotions, but then realised I was right. When I got used to it I had so much more fun for the months I was single before meeting my current partner.
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Re: How did you feel after dumping someone?Depends on the circumstances. I've had one where I felt pretty bad because we were getting on well, but the relationship had run its course. And another that felt amazing because she'd treated me badly and dumping her really upset her.
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Re: How did you feel after dumping someone?Free and relieved.
The relationship wasn't going anywhere, we were different people, our lives were going in different directions. He was nice enough but I don't think we were right for each other in the end. He wanted to move in together in the next academic year (when it was May at the time, and we'd only been together three months). Also, he effectively used me as a place to live for the last 3 weeks or so of it. But meh. -
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Twice relieved, once proud and resolute, and once absolutely crushed, really really unhappy. That was clearly a sign since I ended up getting back together with him and it's still going
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I've just dumped my boyfriend for doing drugs behind my back and lying about it. I'm devastated that I had to do it.
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Be strong!! 
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Re: How did you feel after dumping someone?I've thought for a long time that attempting to dump in a 'nice' way tends to mean that the one doing the dumping can get hurt in the process, as well as having to deal with endless texts, phone messages, and so on afterwards. When it is a mutually agreed break-up (which is still the best way) then this is perhaps inevitable, but more often the one doing the dumping wants to end it whilst the dumped one doesn't. My way, which some won't like but has always worked for me, is not to hold back on hurting or humiliating the other person, so as to feel in control, and also be sure that they won't want to have anything to do with me (nor pester my friends) . I'm sure some would think I'm a bitch, but when I've been the dumper, I've always gone out feeling on a high.
But nonetheless I do believe that one should bring up one's problems within a relationship before going ahead and dumping - sometimes the other person may not have realised they were problems. But if they won't listen or talk, or won't do anything about them, then it's time to do the dumping properly. And I'm absolutely sure I would deserve the same if the roles were reversed.
But I'm glad to hear that some others have felt some sense of relief and liberation after dumping.Last edited by NatalieLon1986; 4 Weeks Ago at 17:05.
