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Rage.Hi all and thanks for taking the time to read this.
For the past 3 days i had planned with one of my close friends to go in to town tonight, sit in a pub for a while and then head to a club and have some drinks, yet, here i sit.
I asked him yesterday to make sure if he wanted to go tonight or not, if not i could have made other plans... Like go and see my girlfriend all day today. So, today arrived i was talking to him on Skype and he said he definitely wanted to go out and around 3 hours ago i told him "Okay, i will go for a shower just now, get ready and we will head out?".. Went, got ready, etc.. Came back to messages on Skype explaining that he didn't want to go out with just the two of us and that he would rather go in a group. This was the first thing it make me a little annoyed as he didn't bring this problem up once before.
He then asked me to go out with 2 people i did not know and someone that had slept with my ex 1 week after we broke up; this person was someone i used to speak to and generally believe was a pretty cool guy. I told him i didn't want to go out with someone like that, i told him i thought he was an okay guy - but it was just the fact he could have done that to one of his friends (at the time). Got a response saying fair enough and he understood.
Now, here is the part that really annoyed me. For the last 40-50 minutes i have been trying to get a hold of the friend i was supposed to hit the town with tonight, no answer. So, i don't think anything of it... Just think he isn't at his computer and i go on Facebook - I see he is tagged in a status saying he is going out with those 3 people.
Now, fair enough - he can go out and he can do whatever he likes... I am just more annoyed at the fact that he blew me off to go out with these other people and ignored me when i was trying to get a hold of him. Do i really have a right to be annoyed or am i overreacting?
P.S Sorry if this doesn't make much sense, i tried to make it sound as normal as i could. -
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Re: Rage.I would be annoyed too, and to be honest, he doesn't sound like a very good friend.
That being said, he could just be really dense and not realise he's being a prick? Unlikely though, especially if he's blocking your attempts to contact him. -
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Re: Rage.I have a friend just like that; she kept on urging us to make plans for the summer since it's our last summer together before we all go to different universities.
We were planning to watch the film Ted - just the two of us - and she kept on telling me how excited she was to be going. Around an hour before we were due to meet - when I was all ready to go - she told me that she'd just come down with a "terrible stomache ache" and therefore couldn't make it.
I was a little peeved, but what irritated me was when I logged on to Facebook around half an hour later only to see that she'd posted a status about how she was going for a meal with a group of other people I didn't know. I got really, really annoyed then. It was almost as if she wanted me to see it; perhaps that's what your friend, in this case, wanted.
I don't mind at all when people cancel, but what I hate is when they blatantly lie and cancel when you're just about to go.
Anyway, long story short - whilst some people may say you're overreacting, I can actually relate to your frustration. -
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Re: Rage.It gets more annoying when i think about the fact that he told me he was having problems with his girlfriend, so i suggested going for a drink, which eventually led to this.(Original post by InkingTheSky)
I would be annoyed too, and to be honest, he doesn't sound like a very good friend.
That being said, he could just be really dense and not realise he's being a prick? Unlikely though, especially if he's blocking your attempts to contact him.
I also told him, due to circumstances in my life i would've loved a night out. But alas, here i am lol. -
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Re: Rage.Thank you for understanding first of all.(Original post by Rosa Arabelle)
I have a friend just like that; she kept on urging us to make plans for the summer since it's our last summer together before we all go to different universities.
We were planning to watch the film Ted - just the two of us - and she kept on telling me how excited she was to be going. Around an hour before we were due to meet - when I was all ready to go - she told me that she'd just come down with a "terrible stomache ache" and therefore couldn't make it.
I was a little peeved, but what irritated me was when I logged on to Facebook around half an hour later only to see that she'd posted a status about how she was going for a meal with a group of other people I didn't know. I got really, really annoyed then. It was almost as if she wanted me to see it; perhaps that's what your friend, in this case, wanted.
I don't mind at all when people cancel, but what I hate is when they blatantly lie and cancel when you're just about to go.
Anyway, long story short - whilst some people may say you're overreacting, I can actually relate to your frustration.
It was not him who posted the status, it was someone else who posted it, but had tagged him in it - basically giving up the game. I only saw it because of the little bar at the right hand side, it showed someone i know like a status so i clicked it and saw this.
It is extremely frustrating. There is a group of 4 of us guys, all close friends. One of which i have known for 18 years (I am 19), and one i have known since my very first day of primary school. And the person in question.
I really feel... angry, frustrated, annoyed.. sad even.
EDIT: I forgot to mention; I would not have minded if he went out. Infact, i told him - I don't want to stop you from going anywhere so go out if you like. And he said "Nah it's cool, wanted you to go mate" - Yet... Here i am confining in all of you
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Re: Rage.Exactly. If i was just notified i wouldn't be the slightest bit annoyed. Feels as if he was trying to hide it.(Original post by safety_pin)
yeah i'd be annoyed too, it's always infuriating when you know they've seen your message/have been on facebook but haven't replied, too
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Re: Rage.+1 Speaking sense(Original post by InkingTheSky)
I would be annoyed too, and to be honest, he doesn't sound like a very good friend.
That being said, he could just be really dense and not realise he's being a prick? Unlikely though, especially if he's blocking your attempts to contact him.
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Re: Rage.This is absolutely understandable for you to get annoyed, I definitely would. I hate that kind of attitude. He is either very dense, a coward or just a prick. Has no guts to at least inform you about changing plans...
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Re: Rage.I know what you mean(Original post by OrangeUK)
Hi all and thanks for taking the time to read this.
For the past 3 days i had planned with one of my close friends to go in to town tonight, sit in a pub for a while and then head to a club and have some drinks, yet, here i sit.
I asked him yesterday to make sure if he wanted to go tonight or not, if not i could have made other plans... Like go and see my girlfriend all day today. So, today arrived i was talking to him on Skype and he said he definitely wanted to go out and around 3 hours ago i told him "Okay, i will go for a shower just now, get ready and we will head out?".. Went, got ready, etc.. Came back to messages on Skype explaining that he didn't want to go out with just the two of us and that he would rather go in a group. This was the first thing it make me a little annoyed as he didn't bring this problem up once before.
He then asked me to go out with 2 people i did not know and someone that had slept with my ex 1 week after we broke up; this person was someone i used to speak to and generally believe was a pretty cool guy. I told him i didn't want to go out with someone like that, i told him i thought he was an okay guy - but it was just the fact he could have done that to one of his friends (at the time). Got a response saying fair enough and he understood.
Now, here is the part that really annoyed me. For the last 40-50 minutes i have been trying to get a hold of the friend i was supposed to hit the town with tonight, no answer. So, i don't think anything of it... Just think he isn't at his computer and i go on Facebook - I see he is tagged in a status saying he is going out with those 3 people.
Now, fair enough - he can go out and he can do whatever he likes... I am just more annoyed at the fact that he blew me off to go out with these other people and ignored me when i was trying to get a hold of him. Do i really have a right to be annoyed or am i overreacting?
P.S Sorry if this doesn't make much sense, i tried to make it sound as normal as i could., i'm suppose to be going out with a friend tomorrow and he is acting similar to how your friend is.
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Re: Rage.Completely agree - surely no-one can be that stupid?(Original post by Rosa Arabelle)
I have a friend just like that; she kept on urging us to make plans for the summer since it's our last summer together before we all go to different universities.
We were planning to watch the film Ted - just the two of us - and she kept on telling me how excited she was to be going. Around an hour before we were due to meet - when I was all ready to go - she told me that she'd just come down with a "terrible stomache ache" and therefore couldn't make it.
I was a little peeved, but what irritated me was when I logged on to Facebook around half an hour later only to see that she'd posted a status about how she was going for a meal with a group of other people I didn't know. I got really, really annoyed then. It was almost as if she wanted me to see it; perhaps that's what your friend, in this case, wanted.
I don't mind at all when people cancel, but what I hate is when they blatantly lie and cancel when you're just about to go.
Anyway, long story short - whilst some people may say you're overreacting, I can actually relate to your frustration.
