[Anonymous]

Is there any point being in the closet if everyone thinks you're gay anyway?

I mean, it's nobody's business but really if you have a really camp voice, bad lisp, and don't act like a lad, then it means you are gay.

I pretend I have a girlfriend, because I want people to think I am straight at work.

But it seems like the more I talk about this pretend girlfriend, the more people realise I am gay.

[CJKay]

I don't know where abouts you are, whether you're in lower years of school, etc. but if people are convinced you're gay - at least here - you'll probably just be faced with "hah, we knew it"... and then life continues.

Of course, some places are a lot more homophobic than where I come from, so I can't predict the reactions of everybody.

[Norton1]

Have you ever heard of a 'glass closet' OP?

[JCC-MGS]

Lol if you have a lisp and don't act like a lad you're gay? You need to get out more kid

[PurpleMonkeyDishwasher]

It's probably not your mannerisms per se but people can usually tell when you're lying about something as big as being in a relationship.

[Reformed2010]

Come out to them only when you're absolutely okay with the prospect of negative reactions, even losing a friend. Otherwise you may find it a bit hard to cope with. I gave advice once to my ex to come out to his friends and family, it went terrible. But that's because in retrospect, we really didn't think about the harsh consequences of him coming out to parents who, in the end, are heartless bastards.

[bananaleet]

The glass closet was me and @op if you want to come out, do it. But people will realize about your fake girlfriend. If it's going to harm your career, which it legally can't through anti-discrimination laws etc don't do it.

But otherwise, if you feel like it's right, do it. If not, don't do it. It's your choice. Just think about things.

[seanfromtheblock]

I'm openly gay, but I don't think anyone at my work knows, simply because I'm not very camp and I've never seen any need to tell them.


One of the most important things to remember about 'coming out' is that almost nobody is interested in your sexual orientation.