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housemate helpright so heres the deal. housemate has his mum stopping over for a few days, which i agreed to as i thought it wouldnt be a problem. found out on arrival she doesnt speak english. now heres the problem. she keeps cooking me food that i absolutely dislike, the smell is disgusting and is making me sick, and gets angry pretty quickly if im not eating it. its bad and a lot more than i normally eat. now i asked my housemate to translate and tell her politely to stop, but funnily enough he wont because he thinks its hilarious. what can i do here?
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Re: housemate helpI dont trust translators, and i couldnt pronounce lithuanian properly even if i tried. I am actually so pissed off here, because the fridge and freezer is entirely filled with her stuff, and she took out my stuff to make room. So the food ive actually paid for has gone off, and im stuck eating this crap.(Original post by MacLean)
hahaha what a strange situation - google how to say 'your food tasts like ****' in her language. Or something a bit more polite if you prefer. -
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Re: housemate helpFrom the outside, it is kinda funny! I think you need to be firm with your mate and tell him this has got to stop, after all his mum is a guest in the flat you share. You should make that clear to him. Try telling his mum, with whatever little english she knows. I often find it better to go to the root of the problem, rather than deal with it through someone else. Maybe put it in writing and she can read it, perhaps understand it better. Out of interest, what language does she speak?
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Re: housemate helpyeah from the outside its ****ing hilarious, and hes not my mate. i dont even know him, i was forced into this house because its the only one i could find. She speaks lithuanian and no english at all. i dont even know why shes staying here.
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Re: housemate helpshes here till friday midday ive been told.(Original post by kyleball)
How long will she be here for, that should be your main consideration over what you do! -
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Re: housemate helpHahaha, lol I know its annoying for you but but it is kinda funny. How long she there for? If only a day or two Id just go out for a kfc or something, if shes there for a while then you need to ruffle some feathers and get the message accross through your friend or a translator or your gonna be in this situation the whole time shes there!(Original post by novaspire)
I dont trust translators, and i couldnt pronounce lithuanian properly even if i tried. I am actually so pissed off here, because the fridge and freezer is entirely filled with her stuff, and she took out my stuff to make room. So the food ive actually paid for has gone off, and im stuck eating this crap. -
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Re: housemate helpI have gone out, but she doesnt know that and cooks anyway so i get doubly ill. I cant explain this so yeah.(Original post by MacLean)
Hahaha, lol I know its annoying for you but but it is kinda funny. How long she there for? If only a day or two Id just go out for a kfc or something, if shes there for a while then you need to ruffle some feathers and get the message accross through your friend or a translator or your gonna be in this situation the whole time shes there! -
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Re: housemate helpIf you don't even know him and he wants to play these jokes, thats insane. I could understand if it was a prank between good mates. Anyways, if she's here till friday, then I suggest you get both of them together at the same time. Get him to explain in front of you that you're not interested in eating her food and don't take no for an answer. There are other ways out ....
1. get out of the house at lunch/dinner time
2. cook something terrible yourself and get her and your flatmate to eat it
3. pretend (or maybe you do) fall really sick after a meal to make a point
4. take all the stuff out of the fridge and throw it out
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Re: housemate helphaha ive tried these.(Original post by superduper9)
If you don't even know him and he wants to play these jokes, thats insane. I could understand if it was a prank between good mates. Anyways, if she's here till friday, then I suggest you get both of them together at the same time. Get him to explain in front of you that you're not interested in eating her food and don't take no for an answer. There are other ways out ....
1. get out of the house at lunch/dinner time
2. cook something terrible yourself and get her and your flatmate to eat it
3. pretend (or maybe you do) fall really sick after a meal to make a point
4. take all the stuff out of the fridge and throw it out
Ok the last few may not be realistic!!
1) she leaves it in the fridge and heats it up when i get back
2) i dont have the money for this, I have a tiny amount for myself
3) i did, she doesnt buy it
4) im not gonna do this for a number of reasons, mostly cos i cant afford it if they want me to replace it.
oh and as for getting them together, hes out of the house a lot, and even then wouldnt translate for me anyway. How would i ask his mum to come anyway, he could walk off and id have no way of explaining.Last edited by novaspire; 07-08-2012 at 14:44. Reason: p.s -
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Re: housemate helpid love to, but he has the upper hand here. landladys on holiday, my parents are gone, im in no way confident at confrontation and i dont have any way of getting back at him. im really miserable here right now.(Original post by superduper9)
Wow! Im out of ideas. Good old confrontation and warfare - always the best last resort? -
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Re: housemate helphonestly ive tried this. all of it. she either doesnt understand or brings food anyway. im starting to feel insulted that she doesnt think i can care for myself. and my housemate is a complete jackass, this much is clear already.(Original post by onechanceonly)
just clearly indicate you don't want any? it's not like you need to speak the language to make hand gesture saying no. Be polite and smile to make it go down well, maybe a positive hand gesture like rubbing on the arm
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Can't you try and make your own food instead?
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Re: housemate helpMate, I really strongly suggest you put your foot down. If he's going to be your flatmate for the rest of the year, he may start messing with you even more if he knows you're a bit of a pushover. Back yourself, be a man and just go into "don't mess with me" mode! Say all the stuff you've said here to him. Be confident, I'm sure you can do it!
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