(Original post by SillyMilly)
I feel sososo much for you it is the most painful long winded process you will ever go for. But I promise YOU WILL get through it although it doesnt feel like it. For me when my ex left me It was all tears and sleepless nights for the first few weeks and if im honest thats not When its bad because it hasnt really sunk in, I had my friends taking me out keeping me occupied telling me he wasnt worth it, I had my family trying to cheer me up and people were willing to listen to me talk about him and be a shoulder to cry on and made a massive effort with me.
What was the worst and most painful point was when my friends and family got fed up of me still being heartbroken and I was told to snap out of it that was when I felt most alone and my heaed went into overdrive, Id cry myself to sleep every night Id think of all the good bits like when he took me to my favourite film, when he cooked me dinner when he told me he loved me when he asked me out blah blah you need to try think of all the bad points. Everything would remind me of him songs, food it was absurd even if a guy walked past with the same afershave as him I wanted to cry. I too felt like I was going absoloutly bonkers I was on the verge of going to the doctors and saying I think something is wrong with me because 6 months down the line I was heartbrokne.
However there were 2 reasons I virtually could not get over him
1) I kept in contact, for me it was the last line I had for him it was the only connection i had and I was to scared to let go, I kept him on facebook because stupidly when I went out I wanted him too see to like show him I moved on, of course it was obvious I was doing it for show and thus hadnt moved on. Even worse was I had to see photos of him dating and being happy with the women he left me for. I spoke to him becuase I thought it would make him miss me or want me back, of course it didnt it only made me feel more rejected, he also text me and sometimes told me he missed me and in my darkest moments I held on to that but actually he just wanted some no strings sex
2) I wouldnt let myself get over him, obviously be sad, cry be angry , miss him be in despair this is alll all normal but once yove had your few months of these emotions you jusst have to let go. I wouldnt get on with my life I wouldnt date or like guys I literally dumped my self in a hole of self pity and sorrorw and refused to get out of it, I thought I would be alone froever. As soon as I was proactive and thought why should i waste my life over somebody who clearly couldnt care if I was dead or aliv, my best revenge was to be better than him in every single aspect of life im not saying do that but thats what I threw myself into to get me over him, whether its sports, going out with friends working longer hours
After nearly a whole entire year im over him, it wont take you this long but there must be a time when you tell yourself you must get over him and go and make something of yourself. Its bloody hard and reading this advice wont seem to help now but I hope in 3 months time you can not care about him or what he thinks, keep him out of your life.; Sometimes my ex tries to ring me and I can happily reject the call without batting an eylid or even caring what it was he had to say, I feel upset sometimes but it doesnt rule my life and I would feel upset for r5 minutes the rest of the time I finally feel free and rid of the horrible breakup feeling