[e-manon]

Hi

I just wanted to ask this as curious question

What do you think about things like 'love at first sight' and 'true love'. Would be helpful if I got both gender views.

P.S. I'm only asking because of my Male friend. We discussed. But i'm not convinced he was serious.

[Schmucks]

I don't believe in 'love at first sight'. I think attraction at first sight can easily happen, but I don't think anything is dead in the water if there is not an immediate spark or connection.

True love is far too vague a term. If you genuinely love someone and they love you back, that would seem to me to be 'true'. I doubt that's what you mean though.

[Flibble22]

Love at first sight is purely physical since you know nothing about them at that point, unless we get all mystical and say that it is 'meant to be' and all that claptrap.

True love? I don't know if I believe in it, but I'm only saying that because I haven't actually found real love yet. There are many different levels of compatibility though that's for sure, and if you were at the top level of compatibility then maybe that could be interpreted as true love?

I do know however, that there's more to the world than meets the eye. So maybe.

I read in a book recently about two people who met in Peru (neither lived there) whilst exploring their mutual interest which happened to be shamanism. They've been together for over 20 years now. And a shaman blessed them as a couple even though they barely knew each other - it's as if he already knew what would happen.

Makes ya think.

[Kittiara]

I'm not sure about love at first sight. Attraction at first sight obviously happens - that physical reaction you feel, and that immediate interest, but I reckon love is something that has to develop and grow.

That said, I've met a couple who instantly knew it was meant to be between them, but I am not sure if that was a matter of luck, or whether they've romanticised what happened, or if it was really a case of love at first sight.

True love does exist, I think, but I think that it's rare. My great-aunt and great-uncle met under very difficult circumstances, and they had to overcome a lot to be together. Then they found out that they couldn't have children, and she was old-school so no children meant no sex. He stuck with her despite that, stuck with her when she started suffering from loads of health issues, stuck with her when her health deteriorated further and gave up his passion for woodwork to look after her. They grew old together, and when she passed away he didn't want to live any longer. When he developed dementia, and had to live in a care home, he thought she was there, ruling the place, and that thought made him happy. I think that the kind of love he showed and felt was true love - unconditional.

[e-manon]

(Original post by Schmucks)
I don't believe in 'love at first sight'. I think attraction at first sight can easily happen, but I don't think anything is dead in the water if there is not an immediate spark or connection.

True love is far too vague a term. If you genuinely love someone and they love you back, that would seem to me to be 'true'. I doubt that's what you mean though.

OK, so do you it can happen to anyone who believes in true love and love at first sight. Also do you yourself believe in true love?

[Schmucks]

(Original post by e-manon)
OK, so do you it can happen to anyone who believes in true love and love at first sight. Also do you yourself believe in true love?

I don't believe anyone would instantly fall in love, but I believe people can have an genuine feeling that someone they've met is someone they've wanted to make work long term from the first moment. I guess that's close enough? I've never experienced love at first sight, though.

True love, it depends on the definition. It's a vague term and something that people will differ on. If you believe the definition I wrote earlier, then yes I believe in true love. I don't believe it's easy to come by, and I believe that their are some people out there that are naive and narrow-minded, and what they feel as love isn't actually love (sadly, i've experienced people telling me they love me when actually, they didn't). But yes, I believe in true love.

[Ortegas]

Love, true love, a precious gem, is the residue of lust, a genuine acceptance of your former lover to be a quasi-family member. I have found that love, on the contrary to what young bug-heads of my age keep chanting, is not exciting, quite boring, almost silent and calm. Love is so precious because trust as an element in it is very hard to form in this date and age. Trust then leads to safety, and that's what love can offer.

Like every cell in your body, love for your partner will die, that's inevitable, either before or at the moment you die.

[odkfn]

I believe in love at first sight.

When I started my new job I was pretty nervous, you know how it can be - new people, new environment, new routine..

So after I'd been in the job a couple of weeks I got rotated into a different department and when I was getting escorted by the HR lady to my new desk and there I saw her sitting on my desk - tall, thin and from looking at her I couldn't help but feel she was exceptionally bright. So I sat down, kept my cool pretending not to notice her, rearranging my desk to how I like it when my hand accidentally brushed her. It's like it flicked a switch and instantly she lit up - from there it was a whirlwind romance sometimes she was off with me, other times she was on, but I loved the way she teased.

This went on for months, I'd forgotten what my life was like without her...until...one day, I got into work and shook off the December snow that had accumulated on my jacket from the familiar morning walk and there she was on my desk...she seemed duller than usual. I knew what I needed to brighten up this dull day in the office, I mean I was normally first in so it's not like anyone was around to see it...I slid my hand up her slender frame...but she was almost impossible to turn on... It was like she was out of energy. I wrapped my hands around her and shook her...nothing....

It was then that I realised I'd accidently unplugged her.

I love lamp.

[e-manon]

(Original post by Schmucks)
I don't believe anyone would instantly fall in love, but I believe people can have an genuine feeling that someone they've met is someone they've wanted to make work long term from the first moment. I guess that's close enough? I've never experienced love at first sight, though.

True love, it depends on the definition. It's a vague term and something that people will differ on. If you believe the definition I wrote earlier, then yes I believe in true love. I don't believe it's easy to come by, and I believe that their are some people out there that are naive and narrow-minded, and what they feel as love isn't actually love (sadly, i've experienced people telling me they love me when actually, they didn't). But yes, I believe in true love.

WOW! You are an exact opposite of my friend he's a player and has had about more than 8 girlfriends this year, alone. I'm impressed that you believe in true love.

[e-manon]

This is so weird,no offence, if it is an offence to anyone, but I thought that there would be more girls on this thread than boys but it's quite surprising.

[mikeyd85]

Love at first sight: I wanna **** yer brains out - you're fit. It's not love, it's lust. Anyone tells you anything different and they're talking a load of *******s.

True love: Something that grows naturally when you spend time with someone you truly care about. It's a beautiful thing. You can't rush it, you can't "go looking for" it, but when it comes and it's reciprocated then you're in a wonderful place.

[ViceVersa]

I don't believe in love at first sight, but I do believe in love after first few sights though I definitely believe in true love and being in love.

[e-manon]

(Original post by odkfn)
I believe in love at first sight.

When I started my new job I was pretty nervous, you know how it can be - new people, new environment, new routine..

So after I'd been in the job a couple of weeks I got rotated into a different department and when I was getting escorted by the HR lady to my new desk and there I saw her sitting on my desk - tall, thin and from looking at her I couldn't help but feel she was exceptionally bright. So I sat down, kept my cool pretending not to notice her, rearranging my desk to how I like it when my hand accidentally brushed her. It's like it flicked a switch and instantly she lit up - from there it was a whirlwind romance sometimes she was off with me, other times she was on, but I loved the way she teased.

This went on for months, I'd forgotten what my life was like without her...until...one day, I got into work and shook off the December snow that had accumulated on my jacket from the familiar morning walk and there she was on my desk...she seemed duller than usual. I knew what I needed to brighten up this dull day in the office, I mean I was normally first in so it's not like anyone was around to see it...I slid my hand up her slender frame...but she was almost impossible to turn on... It was like she was out of energy. I wrapped my hands around her and shook her...nothing....

It was then that I realised I'd accidently unplugged her.

I love lamp.

Is this MEANT to be a joke?

[e-manon]

(Original post by mikeyd85)
Love at first sight: I wanna **** yer brains out - you're fit. It's not love, it's lust. Anyone tells you anything different and they're talking a load of *******s.

True love: Something that grows naturally when you spend time with someone you truly care about. It's a beautiful thing. You can't rush it, you can't "go looking for" it, but when it comes and it's reciprocated then you're in a wonderful place.

Not sure about Love at first sight, but on the other hand a wonderful explanation for true love.

[odkfn]

(Original post by e-manon)
Is this MEANT to be a joke?

It was an attempt at one, yes.

[Dee Leigh]

I don't believe in love at first sight.

I do believe in true love.

[Veldrin]

Love is fleeting, in the end it flies towards an endless abyss of pain and suffering. That's my view on love.

[Future African game vet]

I don't think I believe in love at first sight - I believe in SOMETHING at first sight though because I experienced it.

Personally, I had always been cynical of love; when I was at high school and college, no one ever inspired me. I'd see guys everywhere, talked to a lot of them- but I never felt anything... they were just people to me. It didn't matter how beautiful they were or how charming, no-one made me think "wow". There were a couple of times I developed little crushes... but these were mostly on much older men ( one of my teachers for example) - people who I looked up to and wanted to be like one day. I thought people were in relationships due to dependence and just not wanting to be alone... for the sake of having someone I suppose - it didn't appeal to me.

Then, one day my whole view changed forever- The 11th Feb 2009. (I even remember the date....)
I remember seeing him walk through the door into the crowded room in which I was sitting and everything stopped. It was as if someone had put blinkers on me, my peripherals were blurred, all I could see was him. I became incredibly nervous- so much so that I could feel and hear my own heart thrumming in my chest. I'm pretty sure I must have looked like a right gormless article - gaze gorping at him like that, but I couldn't help it. I wanted to just soak in every detail of him... it was a shock... because I had never felt anything like that before - it was so powerful (and still haven't since!). When he came over, introduced himself and shook my hand (and my Dad's hand) I almost couldn't fathom words to speak to him- then went painfully shy- but it was ok in the end. I relaxed, became more chattery, so did he and 9 months later we became a couple.

As for true love. well.... I THINK I believe in it- as I believe I have felt it. Because, it wasn't all about lust and desire.... the sex and passion was special to me and made me feel closer to him- but what I craved more than anything was just to be with him, close to him- to see him do well in everything he did. When he wasn't around, I would miss him so much it would physically hurt. I saw imperfections, but I didn't care because it made him who he was - there wasn't a single aspect of his personality I couldn't handle- there wasn't a feature I didn't love and should he have asked me to do anything, I wouldn't have hesitated for a second.

Perhaps that wasn't true love - perhaps it was, but either way it was special to me, and something I wont ever forget.

Love is what you make it, so whilst it lasts- make it good

[RomaInvicta]

(Original post by mikeyd85)
Love at first sight: I wanna **** yer brains out - you're fit. It's not love, it's lust. Anyone tells you anything different and they're talking a load of *******s.

True love: Something that grows naturally when you spend time with someone you truly care about. It's a beautiful thing. You can't rush it, you can't "go looking for" it, but when it comes and it's reciprocated then you're in a wonderful place.

TCR

[Meaty_man]

(Original post by odkfn)
I believe in love at first sight.

When I started my new job I was pretty nervous, you know how it can be - new people, new environment, new routine..

So after I'd been in the job a couple of weeks I got rotated into a different department and when I was getting escorted by the HR lady to my new desk and there I saw her sitting on my desk - tall, thin and from looking at her I couldn't help but feel she was exceptionally bright. So I sat down, kept my cool pretending not to notice her, rearranging my desk to how I like it when my hand accidentally brushed her. It's like it flicked a switch and instantly she lit up - from there it was a whirlwind romance sometimes she was off with me, other times she was on, but I loved the way she teased.

This went on for months, I'd forgotten what my life was like without her...until...one day, I got into work and shook off the December snow that had accumulated on my jacket from the familiar morning walk and there she was on my desk...she seemed duller than usual. I knew what I needed to brighten up this dull day in the office, I mean I was normally first in so it's not like anyone was around to see it...I slid my hand up her slender frame...but she was almost impossible to turn on... It was like she was out of energy. I wrapped my hands around her and shook her...nothing....

It was then that I realised I'd accidently unplugged her.

I love lamp.

You sir win all my internets :')

I don't believe in love at first sight, people are too complicated to understand at first glance. I do believe though that the way someone walks, dresses and presents themself can tell you a lot about someone. I wouldn't say there is such a thing as true love, but there defo is being more compatible with some people than others.

It doesn't just come down to interests though, on paper my mum and stepdad wouldn't work; he likes rugby, winter sports, punk music, and she likes rnb, acting and interior decoration. However, they both truly love each other, and embrace each others interests.

Love is real complicated, no new news there. i guess the key to finding love is to expose yourself to as many people at possible, so you don't miss anyone that would be compatible with you, and don't be fake, if they like your fake persona they probs won't like you.

Personally, there always has to be some personal attraction, but personality really does mean a lot.



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