[Anonymous]

It was my boyfriend's birthday yesterday, his family were on holiday so I thought I'd make an effort. I put on a nice dress, did my hair how he likes it and put all my make up on. I then wrapped his presents (I got him 8 in total, all things that he loved), baked him a cake and bought some candles and a card and set it all out on the table for him. When he knocked on the door, I lit the candles and then opened the door and told him to go through to the living room.

When he walked in and saw his card and presents and cake with the lit candles, he kind of sniggered and then said 'that's a bit much'. He must have seen my face fall because he tried to backtrack and said "I just meant you didn't have to do all this for me" but it was the way he laughed when he said it, like he was laughing at me or laughing at what I'd done for him.

I just wanted to make sure his day was like a birthday and not just any other day, with his family being away he wouldn't have had a cake or anything like that.


Just wondering how you'd feel if your partner said/reacted like this?

[Anonymous]

Men dont 'do' things like that and try and remain cool. I'm sure he actually really appreciated it.

[Anonymous]

Also if I'm being too sensitive, someone tell me!

[superduper9]

Wow! How amazing are you as a girlfriend! To be honest, that must be quite disappointing. Some people are great at giving presents but very bad when they're treated to one. Is your boyfriend that type of person? If so, then their reactions tend to be like this, mostly because they're not sure what to say or do. While its disheartening, don't read too much into it. I'm sure he appreciates you for such a lovely birthday but perhaps, didn't know how to convey it and it came out not how he intended. He's very lucky to have a girlfriend like you!

[ToastyCoke]

You sound like a top girlfriend. Some people aren't good at being surprised, he probably didn't expect you to go to all that trouble, maybe a card, present and a kiss. While his reaction wasn't great, I'm sure he really appreciated it.

[mynameisntbobk]

Don't worry about it. It was probably because he was embarrassed, if that was me, I would have done much more than sniggered. It's probably because he's never had any of it done for him before. Trust me, its nothing to be worried about

[Foo.mp3]

You're probably being too sensitive, how did he act for the rest of the day? Sometimes when we get nervous/feel a bit awkward we might smirk or snigger, this can be misinterpreted

[bloodtobleed]

I would have cried in joy for having such an awesome girlfriend.
If I were you and someone laughed at that amount of effort I would have cried in sadness.

I cry a lot.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for all your replies, I think I was just worried that he thought I was stupid. He was actually lovely for the rest of the evening so I think Im just being sensitive

[Anonymous]

(Original post by bloodtobleed)
I would have cried in joy for having such an awesome girlfriend.
If I were you and someone laughed at that amount of effort I would have cried in sadness.

I cry a lot.

Aw

[Vikki1805]

How did the rest of the day go?
He may have just laughed because he was so surprised and just expected it to be the same as any other day, perhaps he's never really celebrated birthdays, never bothered with a cake or anything special so he was shocked.
What you did was lovely and very sweet, don't feel disheartened.

[IndiaCaitlinn]

If the rest of the day went well then I wouldn't worry He probably just felt surprised that you did all that for him!

[ShredMaster]

The thing is, most girlfriends don't do that ever. I think he's just really surprised. You sound like an awesome person by the way, I'm sure he really appreciated it!

[doodle_333]

I did something similar (but also a banner and stuff) for my boyfriend's first birthday at uni and he was a bit weirded out I think, he didn't laugh but looked like he didn't know what to do, the thing was I'd always had birthdays at home been a big deal so I wanted his to be the same but birthdays for him had never been much of an event so he was just suprised and it was a bit weird...it's probably something similar

[Lord Hysteria]

You're absolutely lovely.

It was my boyfriend's birthday recently and I did something similar except the first present on the pile was his favourite picture of us framed ... he had tears when he saw it ...

[ct2k7]

You sound like a really nice girlfriend. He sounds like he really wasn't expecting that.

If my girlfriend did that for me, she'd know by the end of the day that I'd really appreciate it, by showing her in my own way.

Unfortunately, for my birthday, I was in a different country, and well, she didn't say happy birthday, nor did I get a present from anyone. In fact, I don't get presents so I wouldn't know how to react to getting a present for my birthday or anything at all.