[Anonymous]

Since I left School I literally lost my friends. When we were at school, we had a 'Friends' relationship. When we left school, it turned to a 'Person in my class who I occasionally speak to' relationship. They occasionally still speak to me, but only when I speak first. I think it's time to just forget about them. This is where it gets complicated.

I'm not a social person- full stop.

I really struggle to speak to strangers. I just can't think of anything to say. Everyone else seems to be able to naturally make a conversation last for hours. My conversations last for a minute at most :/

The people in my college are all older than me, no one that i'd really be friends with as they are all older and have their own group of friends.

As I have no friends, I don't go out much, so I can't even attempt to make new friends. I want a small group of great friends who I can go out with. It just seems impossible.

Anyone got any tips on how to make new friends for a socially awkward person? :/

[pinkangelgirl]

I used to be socially awkward and can sometimes still be

1 thing I've found is increasing your self confidence and just being friendly, smiley and positive helps you to feel better and attracts people towards you more

good luck!

[Anonymous]

(Original post by pinkangelgirl)
I used to be socially awkward and can sometimes still be

1 thing I've found is increasing your self confidence and just being friendly, smiley and positive helps you to feel better and attracts people towards you more

good luck!

But I can't be friendly and positive if I have no one to talk to

[SteveDawson]

(Original post by Anonymous)
But I can't be friendly and positive if I have no one to talk to

You have years to make new friends at uni, work, clubs etc your best bet would be to join some clubs or find a job if you havnt got one this will enable you to meet new people and gain confidence

This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my GT-I9100

[Anonymous]

(Original post by SteveDawson)
You have years to make new friends at uni, work, clubs etc your best bet would be to join some clubs or find a job if you havnt got one this will enable you to meet new people and gain confidence

This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my GT-I9100

I know I still have ages, but i'm bored this holiday so I have nothing to do and no one to go out with.

(It's worse cause my parents still think I am friends with my school friends so they keep asking me about them, like what have they been up to etc)

[SteveDawson]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I know I still have ages, but i'm bored this holiday so I have nothing to do and no one to go out with.

(It's worse cause my parents still think I am friends with my school friends so they keep asking me about them, like what have they been up to etc)

I see, tbh there isnt really much left of the holiday, but I know how you feel as I have been in the same situation and it does feel lonely. I strongly suggest you join a club or get a part time job if you dont have one, or even voluntary work so that you have something to do to keep your mind of this. But also this will help boost your confidence and it could make you more sociable but this might just be who you are as a person and like you I am not really one for socialising much but I have become more sociable after gaining a job and doing extra activities after college or in the holidays.

[snapper1]

There's not much point going as anonymous if you feel you have no friends IRL to spot you, people might have tried to get to know you on here otherwise.

All you can do is keep trying to chat to different people until you come across like-minded folk. I found it tough at sixth form but have amazing friends at uni, just never give up trying if you don't want to feel alone. Good luck

[georgiawilson]

I struggled making friends also, and I constantly awed everyone at school who had a their group of friends and there was just me. I find it difficult to speak to people, but I think the best way to make friends is just go to places where you know you'll find a common interest, even if you're shy you'll have something you know you both have a mutual connection over so just push yourself to talk to someone!

[Bollo's Lovechild]

Baby's got the bends

[bloodtobleed]

I started going to airsoft (paintball with BBs) about 4 years ago as I was invited by a friend who was going at the time. Really enjoyed it kept going back.
Became friendly with lots of the guys there and one in-particular is now my best friend. I was the best man at his wedding 2 months ago.
So.. like others have said, join a club, get a job or go somewhere where you'll find others with the same interest.