Getting jealous of other guys seeing girls above their leagues.

Tbh, she was not very confident at the time she met me. She changed a lot in porn, but that may just be the on screen persona. I didn't inspire her to do porn, certainly didn't expect it. Seeing her on babestation is a bit weird. She said she wanted to take Theology at university...

I've had a pretty bumpy ride so far so my internal danger guage is warning me to never ever date a guy like OP

God forbid I am 'too much hassle' and load 'so much work' on the poor man when all he wants is 'just more status'. The bloke just wants to have the relationship 'without making the relationship work' and to hell with being kind, funny, charming, interesting, and loving, because pfft, it's all about 'money and status', not that 'personality bs.'

Yeah, trolly OP, you're right. Totally baffling why you can't get these girls

Sure they may go home to their kids and whatever, but to me that is like an idea of prison.

I mean, I am wealthy enough in terms of my inheritances being enough for me to live on comfortably for my whole life/live around the world. But, I don't live in a comfort zones. In fact, I don't even spend my money. I am very stingey. It is totally not about money for me and you are right in that sense, the material use of money does not make one happy.

The thing is, I am never really satisfied in terms of achievement and gain. I got a 2.1 when I wanted a first, I was close all throughout third year. I did not attend graduation and was a depressed mess at home.

Part III Maths at Cambridge is way harder than the UG degree as well (and can be taken by non-Cambridge students as a one-year Masters). Or at least that was all true when I was there in the late 90s !

I feel the same. I want to have kids, but the idea of marriage scares me now. I may fall in love one day.




I feel exactly the same. At the moment i am puzzled if i even should work. My dad wants me to get into property development/rental business and just YOLO, but in a sense i feel guilty.



I got a first, you know what happened? My mum picked me up (75kg lol) in joy, and my bro gave me hi 5, 25 fb likes, and that is it...... If i got a 2.1 it would not really of impacted me that much.

Mate i am being serious. i worked so hard to get a 1st and it hit me, it did not matter at all. My family still would of loved me, and been proud, 1st class did not get me more women than i hoped for. Just live your life and stop going after goals endlessly to the point where you are paying women to show you affection, and you are investing all that time in something which people really don't care about. I honestly, and vast majority don't care if someone went to oxbridge or what not. i was picking up girls with a guy who is going to cambridge for computer science, i felt bad for him due to his lack of success of getting numbers. People really don't care about money, tell a girl you have over a million in property, she will say that is nice, she is not going to strip and be your sex slave. have a balance in life, that is the key stop aiming for **** and just let it flow. At the end i stopped aiming for a 1st, but still got it and was happy during the process of studying for a 1st as i did not put unneeded pressure on myself.

People do care about money for status/signs of social class/achievement. But not necessarily girls in terms of sex/relationships. I am going for the former I guess, I want prestige amongst my peers/family. I don't want to be seen as the kid for my whole life.

I thought looks is all girls look for, based on the majority on this forum.

If you're ugly, then you ain't got a chance

A guy who is good looking is not entitled to get a really hot girl. rightfully they should have a good personality. girls get with men for many reasons, some more on looks, others more on personality or job/status. you talking about status just shows how shallow and materialistic you are and that you want a trophy wife for the status and obviously for better sex too. your not entitled to anything, acting like you are just shows that your shallow, arrogant and superficial.

You seem to place an inordinate amount of emphasis on things like 'status', 'prestige' etc. I do not think that is a good attitude to have and it is probably one of the causes of your claimed lack of success with women. I doubt any girl wants to be seen as a 'status symbol'; or a trophy girlfriend so that you can impress your mates.

ummmmmm if you're only trying hard enough to get with girls for a one night stand , then you're not going to find a proper relationship

it's a psychological fact that guys and girls lower their standards for one night stands , so you can aim higher for a relationship if you put in the effort

Totally this.

I smiled reading your post, OP. I'm in a relationship that *might* be the sort you're describing. I'm mid-twenties, my boyfriend is mid-thirties. He doesn't look after himself, doesn't look young for his age, drinks a lot, smokes a lot. Doesn't have tons of money (I make more than him). I'm fairly attractive (probably not amazing, but find it hard to gauge). I don't smoke and I do look after myself.

Thing is, my boyfriend is brilliantly intelligent, and spontaneous, and interesting, and talented. He challenges me intellectually. He's adventurous, and amazing in bed, and we have lots of fun. We're very different, actually, but I learn from him and he from me. You need to realise that women usually aren't after looks in the same way as you seem to be after looks. I'd personally prioritise being able to share a bottle of wine with my beloved over having them have perfectly taut skin forever.

Maybe when you find a woman whose personality you enjoy, it won't seem like so much effort and you'll actually want to be proactive. At the moment I feel a little sorry for you.

Judging by your post you seem to have a very narrow view of the world. I'd say its either they have more appealing personalities (e.g a good sense of humour or humility), have better career prospects or maybe they share the same set of values and goals and passions as these women. Looks really isn't everything. And if it is to you then maybe girls know you're only interested in how they look and not deeper things and thus avoid?

Edit: by the way out of the above mentioned qualities, personality, sense of humour and the rest rank way above career prospects in terms of what is most important in relationships. It's just a few girls are really into the whole dating a rich powerful guy thing

Yet despite being an obnoxious shallow, arrogant ****, he gets a lot of girls.

I've met them, they are so hot.

The point is this guy feels entitled to have a hot girl which he doesn't whether for status or looks. If he doesn't like how things are then that's his problem, he can carry on moaning. Girls like guys for many reasons so it's ignorant for him to be saying who is entitled to a hot girl.

Lots of guys, even average ones get with hot girls so you saying that is not saying much. But many girls will not get with him as a WIFE because of his attitude of being very materialistic and wanting a hot girl as a trophy because he feels entitled to for his status.

He has not intentions of getting married.

His aspirations is to be the next hugh hefner.