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that spark, how many people do you need to date before you find them

This is a question for both guys and girls, I would be interested to know from both the male and female perspective.

How many different people do you go on dates with before finding someone to form a relationship with?

I have dated around 10 different men (i'm female) and have not found someone to form a relationship with some people I have dated once others a few times, but it has never progressed further. I am worried it never will.

Sometimes it is clear there is no mutual interest from either side, other times its not reciprocal I have fallen for a guy only for them not to want to see me again other times they want to see me more but I don't feel that spark with them.When will I get that spark and they will too.
Never dated anyone. Never wanted a s.o.
Now I've been in a relationship for 2,5 years.
Original post by vonbroten
Never dated anyone. Never wanted a s.o.
Now I've been in a relationship for 2,5 years.


how are you in a relationship without dating first? I am confused?
Original post by anonperson12222
how are you in a relationship without dating first? I am confused?


My country doesn't have a dating culture.
Original post by vonbroten
My country doesn't have a dating culture.


what country are you from
Original post by vonbroten
My country doesn't have a dating culture.


sorry i did not consider that, apologies
Original post by hezzlington
what country are you from


A country where cold wind blows. :wink:)) Jk. I'm from Norden.
Original post by vonbroten
A country where cold wind blows. :wink:)) Jk. I'm from Norden.


England doesn't have a dating culture?
Original post by hezzlington
England doesn't have a dating culture?


England's not part of Norden...
Original post by vonbroten
England's not part of Norden...


Ohh norden as in Nordic countries? I thought you meant Manchester.
Original post by hezzlington
Ohh norden as in Nordic countries? I thought you meant Manchester.


Yep! No, you asked for countries sooo. Haha.
Original post by vonbroten
Yep! No, you asked for countries sooo. Haha.


Yes. I'm being stupid apologies.

But Norden isn't a country so it confused me.
Original post by hezzlington
Yes. I'm being stupid apologies.

But Norden isn't a country so it confused me.


Partly my fault. Sorry.
This is normal.

Finding somebody you are compatible with is very hard.

:wink:
now we have solved the riddle of nordic countries could we get back on topic, otherwise I may emigrate to Norway
Original post by anonperson12222
now we have solved the riddle of nordic countries could we get back on topic, otherwise I may emigrate to Norway


Haha.
Well, I'm having my first relationship ever, but if there's anything you think I can provide answers to, do ask!
Well, we cannot merely say when you'll find that spark with someone in a given time.

You've just got to meet as many people as possible, surely someone would have that spark for you just as much as you have it for them.

Sometimes, it can be really unexpected than anticipated.
Reply 17
Only had one 'spark'
Lots of lust
One love (different to spark)

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