My Girlfriend went to the cinema with another guy

She might have a gay friend! Most girls do.

no that's not jealousy, that a bit of a red light in my opinion - we guys are always attracted to girls even those that we labels "just our friends" - that's how we are. for example, what were you other than "just a friend" before you and your girlfriend became an official couple? was this at the same time one of you was going out with another person? that's the thing - it always starts as "just friends" and more and more goes on later

Here are your options OP:

1. Get over it.

2. Break up with her.

Eh, I'd probably let it slide, unless she starts seeing this guy a lot, in which case it's probably a warning sign.

Well shes coming back to uni tomorrow which is in different country to her home, so guess she wont be seeing him alot in person now.

Personally i really dont see a problem with it. I wouldn't bat an eyelid if my boyfriend went to the cinema with a female friend, i trust him completely. I also know he would be fine with it the other way round.

I can sort of understand why it makes you feel insecure and i would suggest bringing it up with your girlfriend and talking it through if it bothers you that much (but try to just be logical first instead of thinking emotionally). DO NOT accuse her of anything or try and make her think it's wrong, because it's not. Maybe it's because she didn't tell you straight away that it was a guy so it made you feel like she was hiding something? I dont know.

I would be fine with my boyfriend bringing something like this up and saying he feels insecure about it, because we could talk it through. Once she explains more maybe that he is an old friend, reinforces that it is completely platonic, just a catch up etc it should make you feel better.
What i would absolutely not be okay with is if he didnt want me to do it again or accused me of anything, as the trust would be broken.

Also, whether this guy fancies her or not is completely irrelevant. If you trust her it shouldnt matter.

read some more replies.. are all you people crazy insecure?! CHILLLLLL. Its even less suspicious if its a friend from her home land. Granted I wouldnt go out of my way to make new friends with guys now.. but what about the ones im already friends with? Especially childhood friends that you grew up with? Went to the same school.. have lots of mutual friends.. families possibly know eachotehr etc. These are just old/home friends who are not interested in eachother sexually. Don't be so paranoid as to suspect every single man she goes near!! It is okay to stay friends. I for one, have a very close male friend who I speak to about allsorts - how hard uni is, friends drama (he knows my friends from home because he is from the same small town!), even my boyfriend quite a lot because thats a big part of my life now. And its absolutely fine. My boyfriend knows and after reading this thread i feel lucky that he's so chilled about it. Trust is so important in a relationship!

omg chill. she only went to the cinema.. no its not an intimate setting at all?! theres people all around you.. in front, behind and besides you. You're there to watch a movie. My boyfriend and I have also gone home for easter. He's been nagging to watch deadpool for weeks - I was not interested. One of the first things he did was go to the cinema to watch it with his friends who are interested (ok so it happened to be boys) but deadpool typically attracts a male crowd? not exactly a girly film is it, so its no surprise she went with a guy. They talked in the car - how else were they meant to get there, teleport? Ofcourse you'll catch up with old friends especially ones abroad. She probably updated her friend about having a new boyfriend etc!

You have NO reason to worry. If it turns out after all this she does leave you for him or something like that (very slim %) but still, then she wasn't the one for you. Relax.

Yeah i get what your saying. and just need someone to knock me on the head and tell me your being stupid with these kind of things. I just find the whole lets go to the cinema etc as a catch up kinda weird place to do so... like shes been out to dinner etc these last couple of weeks to catch up with people and thats fine to me.

Oh lol i wouldnt have come up, no one from her home knows about me... i think her family know of me but not that were together or anything.

Hi Everyone,

So i realise this is going to come off as a really jealous boyfriend and i'm really trying not to be that guy. But last night my girlfriend went to the cinema with another guy and it has really gotten to me.We've been together for a few months and shes gone back home for Easter break, so its turned into long distance again, shes from abroad. And i knew she was going to the cinema tonight, i just didn't know who and didn't give it much thought, only that i was jealous that she was going to see the new Deadpool and i've yet to watch it lol.

Anyway, she calls me when she gets back before bed like usual and proceeds to tell me about her and her friend going to the cinema etc giving no indication about the gender of this friend. It wasn't until she mentioned talking in his car for a while after the film when he drove her back did I find out it was a guy she went to the cinema with.

Now i cant shake the feeling of not being comfortable with the whole thing. I know i cant choose who my girlfriend hangs out with and should be comfortable with her hanging out with guys and girls. but just the fact it was to the cinema, which to me is quite a intimate setting, e.g. dark, just them two etc. and then sat in the car for a while talking when she got back i just cant swallow. As soon as she said sat in the car and talked she mentioned because you cant really catch up with a friend in the cinema which is fair enough.

Anyway, am i overthinking this and my insecurity taking over? How do you guys feel about your girlfriends going to the cinema with a guy?Cheers

If you're talking about going with a group of friends then fair enough.

But if yours like OPs gfs scenario where it's just the 2 of you then maybe they just don't find you attractive enough?

Hanging out with a few male friends is one thing. Going to the cinema with one of them then talking in the car for a while afterwards is another story. I don't even do that with friends of the same gender lol. I can't imagine going to the cinema with only one girl despite seeing her as a friend. There are cheaper, less secluded ways to hang out.

I don't blame op for being suspicious. Even if the girl is innocent, I doubt the guy she took with her had no bad intentions

Good on you for acknowledging the possibility of an LGBT affair

Equality is one of my middle names.

Why should it be different if it's a male or female friend?

smh at society today