Date has stopped messaging me but says she's still interested...

shes not feeling you that much. Probably keeping you around just in case or doesn't have the balls to tell you the truth, she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Keep dating around don't waste your time on this one girl. Do you know if she's still dating other people?

No idea what she's doing (as she barely responds), she could easily have found some other guy who she liked more and as such has decided to ditch me. But just that's a theory, who knows.

I don't want to start dating others before I know for sure this one is over.

Maybe ask one more time directly and if it continues for a few more days, move on. Not much point trying when she doesn't respond.

Asked her directly and she admitted she wasn't looking for anything more serious or long term....while as I am.

However I've agreed to see her at least once more for the time being. Seems like this is turning into a bit of a casual/FWB situation. As I don't have anyone else that I'm seeing at the moment then I'm not opposed, though in the longer run I do feel like this might leave me feeling empty and unsatisfied.

shes not feeling you that much. Probably keeping you around just in case or doesn't have the balls to tell you the truth, she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Keep dating around don't waste your time on this one girl. Do you know if she's still dating other people?

Yeah this could be true. She might have met/is dating someone else but keeping you around just in case - of course it's just a theory but definitely very possible.

It kinda sucks because you don't want to ditch her and go out with someone if she actually is really busy or whatever but you don't want to let her lead you on. I don't think you should ask her again if she's interested. I'd wait another few days or a week and if she's still distant/doesn't talk to you, I'd move on. If it doesn't work out with her, you will meet someone else so don't worry dude.

If you're into someone it's not that hard to show it just by communicating, she could initiate a text to give him some kind of idea.

Straight up?

insight: you're the back up. the guy she'd come to if she runs completely out of luck on Tinder. IMO; this will not happen; so any likely event you're waiting for this; i'd suggest you move shop.

Solution: Abandon ship. or see if you can obtain a 'fwb' (unsure of success as this is both likely/unlikely); but i will not ever consider her a strong candidate even for that position.

she's just not into you that much; she wants to have her cake and eat it. go full cold-turkey on her ass and ignore the bitch

unfortunately you've pretty much hit the nail on the head.

I've been that "backup" guy several times now, and even before I spotted this reply I already knew what was going on here.
I too in the past have called a girl out and plain out asked her "are you actually interested" and she wrote a long genuine reply say yes etc and apologising profusely and then before no time she was back to her aloof flaky behavior.

She was also going out clubbing A LOT, which was a major warning sign.
she also refused to kiss me on our date making up excuses and when we were chatting by text afterwards she went completely silent on me...

by that stage i had enough and set her an abrupt reply basically telling her to forget it...

i happened to bump into her a few weeks later at a club and her friend was givng me evils. obviously she had filled her head with BS and painted herself to be the victim,

In the club i started dancing with some other girl, and the girl started to look very jelous. she basically came upto us and stood there glaring at me with folded arms and a poe faced look on her face. It felt great. I just ignored her.
Pity she didn't get to see me kiss her later on it the night.

take the advice of the guy i quoted and just get rid. After you get rid sometimes they will change their bahavior temporarily in an attempt to get you back on a string again. DONT FALL FOR IT. Within no time she will be back to her usual behavior.

learn to spot the signs that a girl just isn't that into you and next her ...otherwise she will keep you on a string indefinitely as backup guy. I was on a string for lik 3 mths before with one other girl.

Brother, that statement was made due to experiences i've had with women. even still to this day, i have at least 3 numbers of said women who i'd have gotten with but then started playing with me in this ****ed up manner (i save them and the conversations to serve as memory of the disgusting manner they treated me). most of these girls put me 'on the string' as well for a similar amount of time. fortunately for me, little did they know that i was playing all three at the same time (Just because i can. mwahaha). unfortunately, it was a back-burner for all three for the same amount of time.

I will not lie. i love how you handled the situation, but seeing how bitter i can get; i would've made sure that the bitter girl and her friend would've been there when i kissed the new girl in the club. i would've taken the dance to some new level of erotica in the club and Personally, subtly dragged the dance across the club till i was dancing & making out with the new girl RIGHT in the bitter girls' face; and done so with other girls in the club as well. just purely for banter.

looooool. why the hell was she getting pissed for? you weren't together and she was a bitch to you? tbh. this mainly sounds like an upgrade of a normal 'uninterested, but acting like it' girl. normally, after they've conducted their behaviour, they wouldn't care about how you are in the club. but i think she's the 'upgraded version' as it sounds like the victimised stories she told her friend were ones in which she was the 'good' person; who was seeking something of a relationship. and her meeting you at the club with her friend, meant that she had to keep up appearances in front of her friend so that her 'story' was true. personally, i'd be quite ashamed that i even considered someone like her to be with (as the evidence of her deception & manipulation to herself and her friend to believe she was the victim knows no limits).

Payback's a bitch. but.. a bitch i'm massively in love with. you get an upvote