being overlooked by the opposite sex

Thank you.

Can I make a honest observation?

Sure, free country and all that.

Bet you, and I am not trying to flatter you here, if the guys in your class knew you were single, you'd have offers.

And I do mean that.

No I rarely talk about myself. I do ask questions but I don't often engage in conversations even with my friends. it's not because I'm not interested I just struggle to engage and keep up, I can find conversations quite stressful if I don't understand the topic of conversation or don't feel I can involve myself or add anything of use or value to the conversation So I often just stay quiet and only speak when I have something to say.

Which led to one of my friends in the past always introducing me as "Sophie, the girl who will say nothing. But when she does say something it'll be hilarious". Because I'd usually just try to involve myself by adding quips or banter remarks...I never know what else to say.

Tbf I make an effort to look girly but I won't be surprised if people think I am.

Not talking about yourself can be a problem sometimes, opening up without question is about vulnerability and relation which is important to build trust with people, I learned that from experience after shutting a few people out a few years ago when I refused to tell them anything about me, not surprisingly they didn't trust me and thought I disliked them.

I think a lot of people mistake being shy and quiet for disinterest and rudeness, or snobbery and superiority, and that makes them feel quite uncomfortable.

I don't know about in real life but I can say with absolutely certainty that your contributions are valued here, and you shouldn't hesitate to give advice in real life. because someone would definitely appreciate it.

I don't talk about myself because I don't really get asked I guess. And I think it comes across as a bit self centred to just start talking about yourself if it's not relevant or not prompted with a question or by the topic of conversation. I'm fine with answering questions about myself, just never get asked really.

Yeah I agree, I think that is a common misconception. Though also people often mistake being quiet for being shy. Despite my anxiety in talking I'm not at all shy, I enjoy being social I just struggled to engage.

aha, I do try in real life. But people don't often come to me for advice...or anything really. And unsolicited advice is rarely appreciated.

Sophie, what kind of anxiety? SAD? GAD?

I have both, kinda makes it tough. For me, its like...driving a car, putting key in ignition, but there is no fuel

Social is mostly under control. I never used to be able to deal with socialising but I am doing a lot better now. If you told me 2 years ago I'd be fine with approaching people and talking about coursework now I'd have laughed. But I get on okay now with basic socialising....it's continued social interactions and friendships I struggled with.

But I do get general anxiety. I get very anxious leaving the house, going to new places, by noises, crowds ect.

I'm coping though and I manage

likewise.

We'll get through it.

Im not complacement tbh. gets me down like. I wana lose all that.

I got overlooked all throughout school. I decided to ask one guy I was fairly close to why once, he said that I had a particular 'stereotype' attached to me that made guys reluctant to be with me.

You can probably guess what that stereotype is.

Have you sought help?

yeh mean like a doctor or whatnot?

Not necessarily, most universities have a mental health service. Mine provides counselling session for students who feel they need it, whether advised by a doctor or not.

Well I spoke with satire, you definitely don't come across as homosexual. Actually you come across as a hopeless, heterosexual, romantic. I could be wrong though.

How old are you? Those nerdy girls mature to be the _best_ girlfriends. And I swear, they're the most open minded and inventive in bed too.

All those girls I used to fancy when I was 14 hahaha I look back and think wow, wtf. But those nerdy girls I used to take the piss out of they all grow up looking so elegant and are so smart and ah...

Seriously though. It might be that right now. But if it is then you're not at a loss because you're only getting rejected for it by immature guys. More mature guys will probably love it.

Nerdy girls are the best! (says a nerdy girl... just trying to make myself feel better...).