Has my friend wasted her life? What does it mean to make the most of life.

I've got a friend who is actually 34 now and she's never been very sociable apparently. She's very quiet never had much of a social life and kept herself to herself most of her life. She's single currently no kids. She looks back and wishes she'd have made more of an effort to be a teenager/make the most of her youth rather than spending every weekend in her room. She has always worked out and climbed though she's one of those gym rats lol but is a loner at the same time (she's a nice person though). Someone who knows her said to us that she's a waste of life because she's never put herself out there, flirted with guys, dressed up or made the most of herself despite having a good body and having potential looks wise. Although she does ok education wise. Her reply was that she could say that other people have wasted themselves by not pushing themselves to their limits with exercise/sports and spending most of their lives overweight.

Does she have a point, is socialising and flirting the be all and end all or can you make the most of life in other ways?

Reply 1

Blondie987

Well first of all, her life is far from over so there is no way it could be wasted until it's over. Secondly, it comes down to how happy she is and what changes she wants to make, you can't decide on how to make the most of life from just your own experiences.

Reply 2

BristolFresher15

Original post by Anonymous

Does she have a point, is socialising and flirting the be all and end all or can you make the most of life in other ways?

Of course it isn't.

Either way, there is no single objective way of making the most of life.

Reply 3

1682795

Original post by Anonymous

That makes me want to push her in the right direction.

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Reply 4

Sly_uman

Original post by Anonymous

First you and your friend needs to question what is the purpose of life...... a contravertial issue, i know. For me this is definitely not putting myself out there, that guy that said that to your friend is just sad. But your friend should make the most of her relationships because they define our interactions with society and the person we are. People waste themselves when they judge others and make others feel bad or not good. So as long as your is friends is a good moral person who doesnt judge people and will offer you her support then she has done well in life especially if she can be there for other people through our her 34 years. What your friend shouldnt have said is the people who dont look after their bodies have wasted their lives. This is judging and showing her opinion to be correct when it really isnt. Everyone is different and individual and no person on the planet can judge them unless they effect others negatively. Maybe i am wrong and i dont care if anyone thinks so.....

Reply 5

revolver777

I'd sincerely hope there is more to it. Flirting and 'putting yourself out there' don't even make my top 100 list of most important things in life.

Reply 6

jamesthehustler

the purpose of my life is far from this i hate the club scene it's just overpriced booze and undercut drugs i so take an interest on a social level as a have friends to appeal too but i am slowly at age 20 phasing it out for client meetings with a bolivar, a glass of cognac and a nice diamond piece

Reply 7

karl pilkington

When you say friend are you referring to yourself? I am kind of in a similar position. Keeping fit and healthy is kind of pointless if you are missing out on socialising/partying. Life is about socialising as well as achievements as humans are social creatures.

Reply 8

hellodave5

Life inherently has no purpose.
If she is happy, then all is well. If not, then maybe changes would be beneficial. Everyone enjoys different things.
It is very rare that time spent awake is time wasted. Sure, things can often be perhaps better spent, but you could arbitrarily say that 'ad infinitum'

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

Original post by karl pilkington

No its not me im not quite as old as her, though i am quiet but not to the same extent. If you are in a similar position and think that being unsocial is missing out how come you dont change? How is keeping fit pointless without a social life? I thought it would be better than being unfit without a life.

Reply 10

karl pilkington

Original post by Anonymous

I am trying to change I am younger than her but the main problem is I don't have any friends in my area as my old ones left and the ones I made at uni all love in London now. Cute that you are looking out for your friend

Reply 11

Han-

Its subjective. If she wants to make the most out of her life - then she needs to do what she thinks will be most fulfilling.

In the same way each of us work towards different goals, which we think will enable us to make the most out of our own lives in our own way.

Reply 12

A321

If she's happy then who cares. Hate people who feel the need to question your choices or even ask questions that are nothing to do with them. :rolleyes: