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What sexism have you experienced personally? (male & female)

I'm interested to hear people's personal experiences with sexism, to and from both men and women: it'll be interesting to see examples of how widespread certain thoughts & patterns of behaviour surrounding gender are. This isn't a competition, I just want to identify and discuss recurring trends :colondollar:

I'll start with my own example: In college a few weeks ago I was walking to the library when I came across a group of A2 boys. One of them saw me coming and held the door for me, so I thanked him as I passed - but as I passed him I noticed that the only reason he'd held the door for me was so he could get a good look at my arse as I walked away. I ignored this, but as I left I heard him kiss his teeth and say "your bum is so flat, how do you call yourself a girl?"

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My sister was sent home from school because her skirt was too short and distracting for the boys.

Sad that a guy's education seems to matter more in those cases.
Original post by MrsSheldonCooper
My sister was sent home from school because her skirt was too short and distracting for the boys.

Sad that a guy's education seems to matter more in those cases.


I am in sixth form and it happens all the time it is so annoying! girls in my shool get sent home for wearing a skirt one cm above their knee:toofunny:

I was going to make a thread about this actually.
My Mum tells me not to cross my legs a certain way because it is too "boyish"
And I get told to clean up because it is a "women's job"
Our school has two buildings a girls and a boys as we are joining.

The girls can go wherever they want in our school, if we want to go anywhere we need staff to escort us, if we want to use the ONLY library in the girls school we cannot as "Boys are too loud and distracting".
we have had one of our toilet rooms purposed as a girls room, they have 12 rooms with more than 5 toilets in them and we have 1 room with 7 toilets.
the girls got to go on a ski trip this holiday as they are being rewarded, the boys did not as it is a girls only trip and we get nothing.
Fed up of this sexism
Original post by loveleest
I am in sixth form and it happens all the time it is so annoying! girls in my shool get sent home for wearing a skirt one cm above their knee:toofunny:

I was going to make a thread about this actually.


Yeah I was going to make a thread too. These girls waste the teachers time, why can't they follow the simple dress code? Am I right?
Original post by AlmostNotable
Yeah I was going to make a thread too. These girls waste the teachers time, why can't they follow the simple dress code? Am I right?


hmm I wouldn't say so.
I think sending home girls for small uniform issues is a bit :/. The teachers in my school look around to find the smallest flaws in our uniforms. sounds like they are wasting tine tbh. They could be doing so much better than starring at our uniforms all day.
Original post by Leona-L
I'm interested to hear people's personal experiences with sexism, to and from both men and women: it'll be interesting to see examples of how widespread certain thoughts & patterns of behaviour surrounding gender are. This isn't a competition, I just want to identify and discuss recurring trends :colondollar:

I'll start with my own example: In college a few weeks ago I was walking to the library when I came across a group of A2 boys. One of them saw me coming and held the door for me, so I thanked him as I passed - but as I passed him I noticed that the only reason he'd held the door for me was so he could get a good look at my arse as I walked away. I ignored this, but as I left I heard him kiss his teeth and say "your bum is so flat, how do you call yourself a girl?"

by the genatalia that's contained within your pants/panties
Original post by MrsSheldonCooper
My sister was sent home from school because her skirt was too short and distracting for the boys.

Sad that a guy's education seems to matter more in those cases.

that's such balls why the **** would you do that, why the **** are you even looking, you should be concentrating on the bloody lesson.
basically what they're saying is if we send the girl home and her short skirt the boys will be concentrate don the lesson, which i think is also balls.



lol do what you want bro, don't conform to someone elses standard and expectations of you

mum logic
many examples, few of them:
"girls are supposed to wake up early":sleep: like wut m8
"girls are not supposed to raise their voice"
"Don't play cricket, it's not for girls" :colonhash:
"sit like a girl" "speak like a girl"
"your not supposed to do that...cause your a girl" :shot:
"lol your a girl, your supposed to know how to cook" this pissed me off
"boys are better in leadership roles than you girls" (said to a group of girls) smh childish fellow
the skirt thing
"wives should be kept below their husbands in status" not to me but I was around when it was said to someone else
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General objectification

Belief that I can't do certain things (even as small as carrying boxes at work ffs - mate I can do that and I'm wearing heels)

Assumption that I'm dumb and disinterested in things like politics :rolleyes:

Assumption that I'm incapable of humour

Assumption that I'll get upset over minute things and react emotionally and negatively

Belief that my bum is there for everyone to play with

Belief that I'll take phrases like "I'd **** her" from strangers on the tube as a compliment

Assumption that I'd like a strange man who spoke to me on the bus to walk me home

Assumption that I'll give my phone number out like it's the Big Issue

The list goes on :rolleyes:
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couldn't reach an F1 magazine on top shelf in Tescos, asked employee to get it for me and he asks who it's for, I said it's for me, and he says "why would a lady like you watch racing?"

:hand: I was like "excuse me what?" smh tw*ts tbh
Original post by Leona-L
I'm interested to hear people's personal experiences with sexism, to and from both men and women...


This is in no way a big deal, and definitely doesn't compare to what a lot of people might have experienced, but I thought it's kinda interesting.

So here (UK) many people claim to be open minded and all, which is why when this happened it was kind of a wake up call for me. I was in the further maths class which consists of five people including me and the teacher. And it was some time after the January mocks this year, the school was refusing to give out results until they've all been collected and made into a report card. So we were trying to convince the teacher to give us results and we said that we won't tell. So I said if a whole village can keep Hannah Montana's secret, then the four of us can keep this. And everyone looked at me weirdly, and I explained that I was referencing the Hannah Montana Movie. And the girl (only one in the class) and the teacher (male) said we know the reference, but we don't get why know it.

The teacher said "it's creepy" and I replied "why, she (referring to the girl) knows it?". And she said yeah "it's okay for me because it's a kids movie", and I was like "Umm so it's sexism?". And the teacher couldn't change the subject any faster! lmaooo I bet the girl would be on her facebook sharing a something about how she supports LGBT and that she's a feminist. The stupidity is REAL! Especially because people like that would have been okay with me watching the movie since I'm gay, of course that mentality is wrong since this movie isn't just for females and kids, but yeah.

Creepy my ass, I swear some people are just too much. Like I'm from the middle east, and I swear if I had said that in a year 12 class back where I used to live and in my old school nobody would have batted an eye. You'd expect this from elementary school, middle school maybe. But not from a damn 50 year old!!! (referring to the teacher here)
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Original post by AperfectBalance
Our school has two buildings a girls and a boys as we are joining.

The girls can go wherever they want in our school, if we want to go anywhere we need staff to escort us, if we want to use the ONLY library in the girls school we cannot as "Boys are too loud and distracting".
we have had one of our toilet rooms purposed as a girls room, they have 12 rooms with more than 5 toilets in them and we have 1 room with 7 toilets.
the girls got to go on a ski trip this holiday as they are being rewarded, the boys did not as it is a girls only trip and we get nothing.
Fed up of this sexism


Original post by MrsSheldonCooper
My sister was sent home from school because her skirt was too short and distracting for the boys.

Sad that a guy's education seems to matter more in those cases.


Idiots on the street is one thing, but sexism in schools is where it gets really worrying. I was at an all girls secondary so nothing to compare, but my sixth form seems surprisingly okay with dress code etc and equal opportunities. A friend who goes to a mixed school has told me about issues with girls' clothes - a lot of schools seem to have a problem with shoulders for some reason?

One thing I have noticed though, but not a deliberate thing done by the school as above, is that all the students with a GCSE point score of 7 or above (we do Pre-U global perspectives while the others do an EPQ) are all girls. There are only 5 of us but it's still disproportionate.
Many parents specified that they only wanted female tutors regardless of the gender of their children.

Clubs giving free drinks and entry only to women.
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Original post by gagafacea1
This is in no way a big deal, and definitely doesn't compare to what a lot of people might have experienced, but I thought it's kinda interesting.

So here (UK) many people claim to be open minded and all, which is why when this happened it was kind of a wake up call for me. I was in the further maths class which consists of five people including me and the teacher. And it was some time after the January mocks this year, the school was refusing to give out results until they've all been collected and made into a report card. So we were trying to convince the teacher to give us results and we said that we won't tell. So I said if a whole village can keep Hannah Montana's secret, then the four of us can keep this. And everyone looked at me weirdly, and I explained that I was referencing the Hannah Montana Movie. And the girl (only one in the class) and the teacher (male) said we know the reference, but we don't get why know it.

The teacher said "it's creepy" and I replied "why, she (referring to the girl) knows it?". And she said yeah "it's okay for me because it's a kids movie", and I was like "Umm so it's sexism?". And the teacher couldn't change the subject any faster! lmaooo I bet the girl would be on her facebook sharing a something about how she supports LGBT and that she's a feminist. The stupidity is REAL! Especially because people like that would have been okay with me watching the movie since I'm gay, of course that mentality is wrong since this movie isn't just for females and kids, but yeah.

Creepy my ass, I swear some people are just too much. Like I'm from the middle east, and I swear if I had said that in a year 12 class back where I used to live and in my old school nobody would have batted an eye. You'd expect this from elementary school, middle school maybe. But not from a damn 50 year old!!! (referring to the teacher here)


I've found that older people can be the worst though, which is more understandable than ignorance in our generation (which is allegedly more enlightened). Double standards surrounding children is something not talked about often enough as well, the general view being that it's okay for women to watch kids films and be close to children but men who are good with children are automatically creeps. In primary school the best teacher my class had ever had was reprimanded for talking to his students unaccompanied and lending us books etc, generally being a decent person and the kind of teacher you'd look back on with fondness in years to come - eventually he was fired. Meanwhile the reception teacher was an evil bitch who got away with humiliating children for years. If he'd been a woman I doubt they'd have disapproved of his kindness.
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Original post by MrsSheldonCooper
My sister was sent home from school because her skirt was too short and distracting for the boys.

Sad that a guy's education seems to matter more in those cases.


It seems it is more that it violates the rules
Original post by joecphillips
It seems it is more that it violates the rules


Don't be silly, it is obviously sexism.
- When you complain about being catcalled, you get asked what you were wearing
- You're advised not to go out alone at night
- You're told not to talk loudly because it's not ladylike
- You get weird looks if you tell people you're doing STEM subjects
- You get told that you can't do this because you're a girl
- Everyone assumes that you can't take a joke.
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Original post by DiddyDec
Don't be silly, it is obviously sexism.


It's amazing how people can break a rule then claim it is sexist when they are punished for it
"Men are all arrogant b*stards, lazy tw*ts and self obsessed, bulls*itting a*sholes."
Common courtesy of my mother.

Otherwise I am constantly at battle with my sociology teacher (open radical feminist) who marks down me and the only other male person in the class, ignores the girls' cheating during essays and assessments, is openly biased against men in all ways and disregards perfectly valid answers in discussions from me and him, claiming it is because we are underperforming and not doing as well as the girls, despite doing equal to or better than them with our other teacher (male). I'm pretty sure that's sexism, right?

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