Transgender people

Respecting someone 'as a person' includes respecting their gender and the name they've asked you to call them.



Not only is this massively wrong and disgustingly cissexist, it's also hilarious. If penis = man and larger hips = woman then how do you categorise a trans woman who started hormone blockers at the beginning of puberty and then took Oestrogen and so has 'womanly hips' but hasn't had bottom surgery?

I've never heard of a company being called he TBH.

Ok, I have nothing wrong with trains people just there is something that confuses me.

Say for example say there is someone that is a boy by birth feels they are a girl, why am I supposed to call them she before they have had surgery? Don't we call someone he/she because of their biological sex not their gender. If we don't then I'll start calling them by what they want, but for now it kinda confuses me.

Oh also I forgot the name but there are people that want to be called "they". Even if they don't think they are a gender, they still have a biological sex so why shouldn't we call them by that?

I don't want to hear about respect for what they want, I am just looking at this from the point of view of the English language.

Of course I WILL respect what they want I just want to know.

I have never come across anyone who wants to be called 'they', not even on the Internet. I'm pretty sure it's just a tumblr-thing like the 'otherkin' stuff...

I have never come across anyone who wants to be called 'they', not even on the Internet. I'm pretty sure it's just a tumblr-thing like the 'otherkin' stuff...

My pronoun is they.

Seriously, Well why. they is used to indicate more than 1 and you are not more than one

Singular they.

I have never come across anyone who wants to be called 'they', not even on the Internet. I'm pretty sure it's just a tumblr-thing like the 'otherkin' stuff...

So when somone is talking to you they would say how are they doing, to you.

............Right

You have used singular they to dispute the use of singular they. I'd heard this happens but it's beautiful to see it in the wild...

When someone is speaking to ME then they would ask 'How are you?' The same way you would ask anyone. If someone (friend A) wanted to ask someone else (friend B) how I am (maybe I've seen friend B more recently than I've spoken to friend A and friend B mentioned we'd met up) then friend A would ask friend B 'How are they?'

That just makes no sense,
any actual reason to why you did this

But you have literally just used singular they without any problems.

Because neither 'he' nor 'she' pronouns feel at all comfortable and I like some neopronouns but it's even more difficult to get people to use them than to use singular they.

In all honesty it's simply polite to refer to a person as their chosen gender, despite grammatical differences to reality.

What really pisses me off is when I see a guy/girl and refer to them as such (as never having met them before) and they get all offended and say things like 'how dare you refer to me like that, I identify as a man/woman! Refer to me as such'. Sorry if you haven't told a person in advance on how to refer to you or they don't know you, don't get offender.

The easiest way to avoid this is don't assume gender or pronouns. Being misgendered can be scary and invalidating. It can make you feel invisible. It can really affect your mood and your mental health. Use neutral language until you know the terms someone would want you to use. And do this for everyone.

So I have to refer to everyone a gender neutral? Gender neutral terminologies can actually be very be very rude because then you start referring to people as objects instead of people.

People are going to say offensive things, that are not mean spirited or even anything logically to be offended about. If you accept people may be human and get things wrong on occasion then there is no issue. The main problem I found with dealing with the LGBT and Womens society (they overlapped even in an official capacity) when I was at uni was this culture of being offended about anything with the slightest hint of being offensive. It took around 5 years to get a mens society because until last year it was deemed sexist due to the presumption it would segregate women and involve sexist discussions. It was only when it was highlighted that straight men were banned from the women societies meetings, but gay or transgendered men were not that it was allowed to be created unopposed.