Was I raped???

jesus maybe she was spiked? We don't know but that kind of tone doesn't help anyone, what are you hoping to gain? Nice anon by the way

It's not vague. She stated in the story that he carried on having sex with her even though she said no.
Non consensual sex= rape. It doesn't matter if she has a boyfriend/what is happening at the time.
Why are you refering girls as feminazi's because they are speaking against rape? You don't have to be a feminist to be against rape.

Whilst no expert, it sounds like you "consented" the night before, but was raped in the morning. These are 2 separate incidents and people are judging them as one incident. At NO point did you consent in the morning, so that was definitely rape, based on your version of events.
That being said, if the guy was sober and you were clearly drunk, then surely it was statutory rape the night before

Hold on, OP states a vague story, then at the end states she cheated on her BF.
It appears im the only person with balls not to argue this anonymously.

I have a strong opinion of false rape accusations, thats all.
I understand what rape is and when a person has been raped, but when a story is obscured, then, surely you can tell why im on the defensive?

Nonetheless im getting pebbled by feminazi's and white knights here.

Again, dead point.



1. Thats actually a very big point, because it allows her to justify whether she made a bad drunken decision or not.

2. Ok, OP casually chucks this in her post:
"
And I dont even know if I was up for it or not but most likely not since I didnt even want to do it with my boyfriend when I was sober
"

3. Where did I say she was covering up cheating? I mentioned previous times it sounds more like a drunken mistake.

4. Theres more to it than that. Show me cases of where people have been raped, and they didnt get any justice? (Within last few years).

Again, I stand by my point, I potentially believe OP made a drunken mistake, many others posted that too but had to delete their post from risk of being gang attacked by feminists or white knights who think they are fighting for the right kind of rights.
Im happy to continue debating, because I potentially believe my point, until OP posts further evidence, or seeks real help and support, its just going to look like another drunken decision.

I think the reason people are getting on your back is; whilst I'm there are false rape accusation because someone has cheated, how does posting a thread about it help their cause in any way? It doesn't help the victim at ALL in any legal way to make a thread on tsr about it? If anything, this is hurting her case socially, because the way op describes it, she consented in the evening (thus cheating on her bf) and then was raped in the morning.
I'm not really sure how you can come to the conclusion she is shouting rape to avoid it coming to light that she cheated, when she confesses to cheating in the op to begin with?

1. OP doesn't care.

2. Exactly, OP doesn't care.

3. Why are you repeating it constantly? like a ****ing parrot.

4. Go have a read yourself, why should I waste my precious time trying to educate you?


Alright stand by a point you can't prove. I hope you don't have drunken sex with a girl and it matches the description of OP's night, because believe it or not, that isn't normal. Stop falsely accusing her of something, close down your laptop screen and look out the window.

The only gain I see out of this is self justification.
If you got really drunk, conciously did something you regret, your best bet would be to blame it on being drunk.
Although having sex outside a relationship is taboo, so rape is the next best thing to justify ones feelings (again, not accusing op of lying, just skeptical)

4. Theres more to it than that. Show me cases of where people have been raped, and they didnt get any justice? (Within last few years).

Again, I stand by my point, I potentially believe OP made a drunken mistake, many others posted that too but had to delete their post from risk of being gang attacked by feminists or white knights who think they are fighting for the right kind of rights.
Im happy to continue debating, because I potentially believe my point, until OP posts further evidence, or seeks real help and support, its just going to look like another drunken decision.

http://www.loveisrespect.org/content/what-sexual-coercion/

It's not really a moral argument. What is your definition of force within coercion because repeatedly asking, trying to have sex with someone who is unwilling is a form of force.

If someone is drunk, they can't consent. Simple as. No ifs, ands or buts.

Actually this year the law defines coercive control outside of the threat of violence. UK law also uses case law in addition to legislation because the legislative procedure can be so lengthy. it's not a case of separating morality from legislation because you have 12 jurors whose morality and ideals impact their interpretation of legislation much like our interpretation differed. And then again you have a judge whose views can impact the interpretation during trial and at sentencing - when they review case law to apply a sentence.

If it has not been used already then the new law on coercive control is likely to open up avenues for different types of coercion in sexual assault. Unfortunately, lay people don't really have access to cases. Well, certainty not easily but coercion as I have described is used by the CPS in their decision of whether to take to trial or not..coming from the horses mouth.

That relies on the interpretation of "I kept refusing but he still tried". What does the OP mean by trying? Was this simply asking over and over again, before she finally said "Ok, put on a condom"? Or was it that he got on top of her, pulled his pants down, and she said "please at least use a condom"? The former wouldn't be rape, as far as I can tell, though obviously the latter would.

He had his pants down and was about to go inside and I DID say something along the lines of "I dont want to - you're forcing me" and that is when I told him to put the condom on and then he forced himself and that's when I kept saying no stop it it hurts but he still kept doing it and whenever I'd cry he'd stop then carry on and that lasted a couple minutes.

also to some of the people here I really was not worried about what my boyfriend was going to say at the time so no I was not looking for an excuse and I did tell him everything that happened (I did not just say the word rape or that I was raped therefore I did not cheat) and let him decide what it was.

He had his pants down and was about to go inside and I DID say something along the lines of "I dont want to - you're forcing me" and that is when I told him to put the condom on and then he forced himself and that's when I kept saying no stop it it hurts but he still kept doing it and whenever I'd cry he'd stop then carry on and that lasted a couple minutes.

also to some of the people here I really was not worried about what my boyfriend was going to say at the time so no I was not looking for an excuse and I did tell him everything that happened (I did not just say the word rape or that I was raped therefore I did not cheat) and let him decide what it was.