I doubt anyone remembers but a few months ago I posted asking for advice. Basically I'm 15 and I'm in my last year of sixth form so in a couple of months I'll be done with school. My mum really wanted me to go to university or do another set of A-Levels, but I wanted to start my career in acting as quickly as possible without studying random subjects just because my mum has this idea that my age means I should be sat at a desk.
Anyway, we were able to come to an agreement - I could pursue acting most of the time, and two evenings a week take a college class (cooking for beginners...not something I particularly care about, but more of a fun course than more education) and continue with my job (I work for my friend's dad),
But then around Christmas my brother died. I don't want to go into huge detail but he took his own life after a battle with severe depression. At first we were all grieving, naturally, but recently the family has gone back to 'normal', or at least the best version of normal we can be. Except for my mum...she's lost a child, I know, and I doubt she'll ever get over it, but she's taking her grief out on me. She's started being really, really overprotective - not letting me go out without adult supervision, constantly texting me at school to check up on me and insisting on driving me everywhere, even if where I'm going is a 2 minute walk away. I could deal with all that, but now she's going back on our agreement. She's saying I have to stay in full time education until I'm 18! That's over two years away! Now, I'm well aware she can't force me into it, but you could cut the tension in our house with a knife. If I ignore her texts at school she gets really angry and cries for ages, so imagine what she'd be like if I didn't listen to her on something like this!
Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with this? Preferably if you have experience with grieving parents, because I just don't even know how to talk to her about it. She thinks she's a bad mum for 'letting Jacob out of her sight' when he needed her, but all he did was move away for uni when his depression wasn't that bad. I guess she's afraid something happening to me if she doesn't control my choices (even though I don't have any MH issues) and I don't know how to get her out of that mindset.
She is seeing someone, by the way. She's working through her issues, just very very slowly.