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Is it easy to make good friends in uni?

College was nothing like I thought it would be for socializing I decided to go to a college in a different area to try and meet new people but I was wrong I met no one close just acquaintances who I never bother with outside of college now I'm almost finished with college I'm wondering will Uni be any easier to make friends? In school it was easy everyone was just very easy to get on with I hope Uni is an easier place to make friends.
omg I feel the same, I thought I was gonna make close friends at sixth form but it didn't turn out like that :frown:


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Depends what you mean by "easy".

You have to make a concious effort to actually talk to people, you can't expect people to do all the work for you or blame other people if you have trouble making friends.

Also to make "good" friends you have to put effort into the relationship. You can't just turn up to class and sit with them and expect to become best friends. You have to try to socialise with them outside of university to, sometimes it'll be on you to do the asking of whether people want to go the pub after lectures or if anyone wants to go the cinema.

I would actually say that uni is a harder place to make friend. Not because people don't want to speak to you or get to know you. But because people are more independent at uni, you're not forced to work together (except in group projects) with the same low number of people all the time like in school or college.There will be a lot more people, and there is a lot more ground to cover.

Don't let this put you off though. If you make the effort and don't make excuses for yourself and let yourself see where you could be making mistakes and how you could improve. Then you will make friends. If you're not willing to do the above you struggle.
Original post by SophieSmall
Depends what you mean by "easy".

You have to make a concious effort to actually talk to people, you can't expect people to do all the work for you or blame other people if you have trouble making friends.

Also to make "good" friends you have to put effort into the relationship. You can't just turn up to class and sit with them and expect to become best friends. You have to try to socialise with them outside of university to, sometimes it'll be on you to do the asking of whether people want to go the pub after lectures or if anyone wants to go the cinema.

I would actually say that uni is a harder place to make friend. Not because people don't want to speak to you or get to know you. But because people are more independent at uni, you're not forced to work together (except in group projects) with the same low number of people all the time like in school or college.There will be a lot more people, and there is a lot more ground to cover.

Don't let this put you off though. If you make the effort and don't make excuses for yourself and let yourself see where you could be making mistakes and how you could improve. Then you will make friends. If you're not willing to do the above you struggle.
Do yeh want to go the pub after lectures or the cinema?
Original post by trustmeimlying1
Do yeh want to go the pub after lectures or the cinema?


Pub yes. Cinema...nah way too expensive.
Original post by SophieSmall
Pub yes. Cinema...nah way too expensive.
youre paying so whatever suits. Il have a triple vodka with coke cheers.
Original post by trustmeimlying1
youre paying so whatever suits. Il have a triple vodka with coke cheers.


One horrible drink coming up.

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