well, I've never had the ability nor the desire to force myself to not feel attraction when I do - if I didn't like a girl, why would I be her friend in the first place? if I did "like" her, then either I'd give into my primal instincts and she'd either say yes or no, unless she was particularly ugly. there's a difference between the friendship between men/women and men and men, and women and women - there's no "sexuality" (unless there's homosexuality). why wouldn't there be sexuality between a guy and a girl that are at least attractive in each others eyes and they got along reasonably well? how does that *not* translate into either latent or apparent sexuality? men and women biologically aren't meant to be sexually inert, and women in particular are convinced that they can be, because they are the more picky gender, so it kind of doesn't occur to them. so men will suppress, strangely, their feelings, and women often won't even have them.