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Why do guys text loads and then go silent?

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Yeah I can see that but it's been a few days now! Surely if someone's interested they'd find time for a quick message no? Or is that normal? Sorry not very experienced here so not sure what's the norm or a red flag!!

See you can never be too sure. Sometimes guys try to "play it cool" when they like you and not text you back, which to me is very inconsiderate and I never appreciate that, but sometimes they mistakenly think thats the way to do it. Don't know which idoit told them that, but some guys actually believe thats what you do with a person they like :confused:

.Or maybe he's just really busy because of a family problem thats popped up or perhaps worst case scenario he doesn't like you as much as you like him (his loss because you're great). But we have no idea, we can only ask him about it.

But I understand why you're asking this question, as I'm quite like you in that I would make sure to give someone I care about a quick text regardless of how busy I might be. But not everyone can be as caring and considerate as you and I! :smile:

I can only give you a big hug and tell you to eat some icecream, go out with some friends, see a movie etc. to stop analyzing it all and give yourself some time out. Boys are weird (quote from my brother for you) :s-smilie:

And by red flag I meant when a relationship has been firmly established (which it doesn't sound like yours is) i.e. dating for a couple months or whatever, crazy paranoia is generally a sign of really bad underlying issues in a relationship. But I wouldn't say thats relevant to your problem right now.

Reply 61

Emily.97

This isn't a male thing, this is something any one can do for a number of different plausible reasons. There really is little point reading in to something like this, otherwise it'll drive you crazy!

Reply 62

Anonymous #1

Original post by Emily.97

This isn't a male thing, this is something any one can do for a number of different plausible reasons. There really is little point reading in to something like this, otherwise it'll drive you crazy!

So what should i do then, just wait?!

Reply 63

Emily.97

Original post by Anonymous

So what should i do then, just wait?!

Just try not to think about it too much. If he replies he replies, if he doesn't, he doesn't.

Reply 64

Sabby888

Original post by Tinemither

You should totally let the guys who will message you back into your life. They're normally a little less attractive, or not at all, relatively well educated and not up for sex or nudes. Sound good? Good. Because only dicks, pricks and douchebags fail to respond to messages.

I may take a while, but if you can hold up a conversation as well as I can, you will always get a reply.

Awwwwww :3 Refreshing to read

Reply 65

Sabby888

Original post by Jaeger12

Also, I don't like the idea of texting. I personally think if you are really interested in each other you should be calling.

This.

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Novascope

Original post by Jaeger12

Also, I don't like the idea of texting. I personally think if you are really interested in each other you should be calling.

Omg I used to think I was weird because I would prefer talking on the phone to someone I was really interested in. I don't understand why some people don't like phone calls. They're much more personal, and you don't fall into the problem of misunderstandings.