I'm a bit stumped at the moment. obviously the ideal is you all move away, but you have problems.
1. He's a sociopath.
2. You have no money
3. your mum doesnt want to move away and is abused anyway.
4. You have the mafia family to contend with anyway.
So the scenario is you talk about running away, your mum agrees, then she changes her mind or your dad comes after you or they call in the family and he lawyers.
So if you make a move you need to get
1. Your mom onboard. 2. have somewhere to go. 3 have the legal angles covered.
It cant happen without your mum, namely because she wouldnt leave without without your brother anyway, shs scared and with the diagnosis, shes probably thinking of hanging on long enough for your brother to escap and has pretty much given up after that. Perhaps she might change her mind if she had somewhere to go and she knew she had a good chance of resisting the family. If its old and established, even if its rich I have a feeling they would make it extremely hard to get support, so id almost save the effort.
You said shed consulted lawyers? So they are aware?
Your mum needs to talk to someone maybe from a refuge, so they cna help her see there is an opion of getting away and not being subject to abuse. Maybe shed settle for ten years peace than whats currently on offer?
Freephone 24-Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline Run in partnership between Women's Aid and Refuge 0808 2000 247
She probably already talks to them but she needs a fallback place to talk to someone who isnt scared of him. She needs to be carefull about the phone so he can never track who she is calling. The refuge might be able to get her to see things in perspective, shes being abused, but that she can leave if she wnats to and disappear. t cna only really be done without your dad knowing and then the domestic abuse unit cna slap some injunctions on him.
Seems to me she won do that though, becayse shed rather have a roof over her head than being in a refuge or on the benefits system. Theres also the aspect of getting your broither out of school as well. A refuge should be able to handle it and keep her safe, but they have limited resources and your dad sounds like the type who would ignore an injunction and get private detectives. I think your mum and baby borither are too bulnerable on their own without trystworthy friends.
The only thing i cna think of at the moment is if they do run, then the only other person she cna rely on is you. You could get a job and maybe a house so you could keep an eye on them. It would entail putting off uni for a few years, but its all speculative. At the moment i dont see your mum being strong enough to run and stay away from their clutches?
Can i have some more fedback please. Am still thinking, but for me unless your mum is willing to take action, then you have an almost impossible battle to try and protect her.
You could ofc get some evidence against him, but if hes a sociopath it might be hard to catch him out. Also if he every found cameras he would go ballistic.
This is the number for get connectedthe mix, which is a helpline for young people. 0808 08084994
http://www.getconnected.org.uk/get-help/abuse-and-violence/