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I don't understand how people can get to the age of 18 and still not have had a bf/gf

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Original post by AngryRedhead
I apologise in advance if this comes across as rude or insensitive but, barring cases where you went to a single gender secondary school, how does someone get to, like, 18 or 19 and not manage to get a boyfriend or girlfriend? I was a total dork in high school but even I managed to get a boyfriend at 15.

I'm 17, but the situation won't change by the time I'm 18, so it's because I'm aromantic asexual and my asperges's plays a part too:smile:
Original post by AngryRedhead
I apologise in advance if this comes across as rude or insensitive but, barring cases where you went to a single gender secondary school, how does someone get to, like, 18 or 19 and not manage to get a boyfriend or girlfriend? I was a total dork in high school but even I managed to get a boyfriend at 15.


No one asked me out that I was actually interested in. School was a popularity contest and it didn't matter how pretty or nice or smart you were - if you weren't rich and popular (and those two go together in my school), nothing was going to happen.
That's subjective. GCSEs aren't 'so easy' for everyone. :smile:
Original post by cranbrook_aspie
I'm 17, but the situation won't change by the time I'm 18, so it's because I'm aromantic asexual and my asperges's plays a part too:smile:


That's not an excuse, I have aspergers and am also probably asexual but I can still pull :wink:
says the asexual
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Too stressed out over my A-levels to even worry about not having a girlfriend. Priorities.
Original post by SinsNotTragedies
That's subjective. GCSEs aren't 'so easy' for everyone. :smile:


The majority of TSR are geniuses though, I'm sure they could handle it
"I don't understand how people can get to the age of 18 and still not have started up an eBay business to save money for university"
Even if you consider something to be normal because you are so used to it, that does not mean that this is the case for everyone else.
I'm used to spending Friday afternoons and evenings scrambling the floors of bookshops to find books to sell, but I always keep it in the back of my mind that this is somewhat unusual behaviour on a day when my peers would be having a night out.
When they are planning what to wear for prom, I am planning my TFL journey to the next annual charity book fair (similar dates for both). Which is perceived to be more 'normal'?
Anon because I keep going on about this lol but frankly I look awful, I need major plastic surgery tbh, I'm not surprised I've never been approached, just how it is meh
I don't understand how people can get to the age of 18 and still have such a narrow view of the world
Original post by sjohnson98
No one asked me out that I was actually interested in. School was a popularity contest and it didn't matter how pretty or nice or smart you were - if you weren't rich and popular (and those two go together in my school), nothing was going to happen.


So you could have had someone but you choose not to? That's fair enough; I'm talking about all the people on here who whine about it (usually on anon)
Original post by alexschmalex
I don't understand how people can get to the age of 18 and still have such a narrow view of the world


It's not hard to get a boyfriend you know. I'm not meaning that in some sort of 'oh look at me I'm so gorgeous' kind of way, I just don't understand how even male friends wouldn't have asked you out by now (presuming you had male friends)
i explained it in my final sentence. those on here who cry via anon are the emotionally immature types i was discussing, there are a few though who have experienced genuine heartbreak and are in need of help. but this is a risk i dont really see as needed pre uni tbh, focus on important things and then experience heartbreak and growing up when you become an adult.

p.s gcses are piss and not important, A levels stick with you all the way till your first graduate scheme.
17 on Wednesday and I will still be single. 18 next year and I will still be single.

Why? Because:
1. I've got other priorities right now
2. There currently isn't anyone I like
3. Even if I did like someone I wouldn't bother because it probably wouldn't last
4. Fear of being cheated on
5. Not pretty enough
6. Don't have any male friends
7. The only class I have where there are guys is english and I see them like once a week.
8. No one likes me
9. My mum is strict about these stuff

I can keep going on
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some people are more fussy
Well idk all ik is the reasons i am single is because it wouldn't end well to come out in a same sex school and can't deal with the hassle. Also even if i wanted a boy i don't see any at all because if you are someone who doesn't socialise outside of school it is very easy to go 7 years without hardly any opposite gender company, not that i'm bothered about this just stating a fact. Also well i'm too awkward and not good looking enough to get a relationship and it is kind of a low priority atm. hope that helps in some way
'Even male friends'?? But they are friends. :s-smilie:
Original post by welcometoib
i explained it in my final sentence. those on here who cry via anon are the emotionally immature types i was discussing, there are a few though who have experienced genuine heartbreak and are in need of help. but this is a risk i dont really see as needed pre uni tbh, focus on important things and then experience heartbreak and growing up when you become an adult.

p.s gcses are piss and not important, A levels stick with you all the way till your first graduate scheme.


I wouldn't actually say they were being emotionally immature, to be desired and seen as attractive is a universal human psychological need. If they cannot have that need fulfilled then whose to say a relationship wouldn't be what they needed?
To be fair, it's not like I was especially picky. Only really, really weird kids asked me out. Really weird. I don't whine about it, but it does undercut my confidence a bit. I've turned 18 and still not kissed anyone or been asked out by someone I like, even a little.

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