I don't understand how people can get to the age of 18 and still not have had a bf/gf

I appreciate you seriousness and thank you. How do I change my picture. is it is in the usual place?

I appreciate the fact it was a serious question. Given we're on TSR, I thought it was entirely possible you were asking it to be snarky.

Yeah, go to the usual place where you'd change your avatar and click the dropbox and you should see "EU Referendum" as a catorgery. Click and select an avatar of your preference and you're done.

I apologise in advance if this comes across as rude or insensitive but, barring cases where you went to a single gender secondary school, how does someone get to, like, 18 or 19 and not manage to get a boyfriend or girlfriend? I was a total dork in high school but even I managed to get a boyfriend at 15.

Easy if you're like me:

Fat, ugly, unphotogenic, no self esteem, no self confidence, no social life, few friends, no family, no relationship experience, work long hours, get very nervous about trying new things, boring personality, bags under eyes, pale skin, awful hair, can't cook, can't make people laugh, can't grow facial hair, fussy eater, awkward around new people, pessimistic, smoker/drug user, Conservative party member, needy, inferior to everyone else.

25 reasons for 25 years of being alone.

Demisexual, I'm not pretty, and the boys in my school didn't view me as a girl, they looked through me. I didn't exist. Meh. I was a nerd, I focused on my schoolwork instead. I had no time or interest or care for such things.I have a boyfriend now at uni but he's far too good for me. He's too bloody wonderful.Still a nerd btw, even at uni.

I apologise in advance if this comes across as rude or insensitive but, barring cases where you went to a single gender secondary school, how does someone get to, like, 18 or 19 and not manage to get a boyfriend or girlfriend? I was a total dork in high school but even I managed to get a boyfriend at 15.

If only you could convincingly do that to 'B', all your troubles would be over

I like Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Ghum lol. I understand Hindi films better than Urdu ones as I don't even speak Urdu (weird for a Pakistani I know)

It's difficult to explain, it's like my mind goes blank, I don't know what to say and then I start over thinking when it ever gets beyond the point of just being friendly. It's only ever an issue in person too, online I'm absolutely fine

Because:
a) I went an all girls school up until sixth form. Selection of boys from the local school was very limited
b) I went to a sixth form which was very cliquey. I was in the middleish (nearer to the bottom than the top) of the social hierarchy. An unspoken rule was that guys weren't 'allowed' to date girls below them socially. So even though I got quite a few comments about guys finding me attractive, they could never go out with me
c) (probably the biggest reason of all) - I was very insecure throughout my school years. Because I didn't like myself and I didn't like how I looked, I didn't believe that other people could like me XD

I study partner zoned him. BUT NOOOO

Lol that's the most classic Bollywood film. That and Kuch Kuch Hota Hai

Understandable! Probably because they can't see you, so there's nothing really to feel shy about - you can just be you.

Some people have standards. Whereas some people take the attitiude that anyone who will go out with me will do (probably your case if you were a total dork at 15). Whereas some would rather wait until they actually meet someone worthwhile.


That's what I did anyway. I'm glad I waited until I met someone actually decent and suitable, rather than cling on to the first person that came my way like some people do.

Your statement of somebody not 'managing' to get a boyfriend/girlfriend is, quite frankly, stupid - that implies the person is trying to get a relationship, which is not always the case. In fact, there are a lot of people that are not interested in relationships for a variety of reasons (can't be bothered, there isn't anybody they are interested in, etc, etc) and I have absolutely no idea why you even care.

Plus - did you really like your "boyfriend" (if you can call it that at such a young age) at 15? You used the world 'managed', which means to succeed in something despite difficult circumstances, which has connotations of you settling. Perhaps others aren't quite as desperate as you were to have some form of relationship just to 'say they had it', and are more self-assured that they don't need the validation of a boyfriend/girlfriend that you seem to need?

There are more I like but I dunno the names lol. I like Bride and Prejudice too lol.

I've been asked out a few times but rejected them all. It's not that I can't get a boyfriend, just don't want one yet. I'm personally not ready for a relationship.

Gosh, you're a really arrogant person aren't you?


Even I managed to get a girlfriend before 18, so why can't everyone else?

You can get A*s in some subjects with hardly any effort. Everyone can, can't they?



I'm sure this insulting arrogance is caused by severe insecurities in other areas. It's really quite sad.

Not all girls or guys are looking to get stuck asap.

The more posts of yours I read, the more I cringe.

Pffft, wouldn't be saying that if I asked you out

Lool that's a funny one