I don't understand how people can get to the age of 18 and still not have had a bf/gf

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Well maybe I am the only one then that finds it hard to juggle studying and relationships.

You sound like you'd want to be in an arranged marriage? but I couldn't do arranged though.

Hell to the no, I wouldn't trust my parents to find someone for me & I don't even know if I want to get married lol.

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amelia_lily

Maybe some have strict parents?

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TercioOfParma

Original post by Venusian Visitor

Women don't have problems even if they don't wear makeup. I don't know why you are still arguing, if you check over all the "waah im a virgin" threads on here It's all males.

Well no ****, its because a certain strength of personality is needed for a man to be attractive to the opposite sex. In most cases it develops, but being whiny and self-pitying are extremely unattractive traits.

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Brixton drill

Original post by TheGreatImposter

Hell to the no, I wouldn't trust my parents to find someone for me & I don't even know if I want to get married lol.

You are confusing. :colonhash:

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Venusian Visitor

Original post by TercioOfParma

Exactly, if a woman i s whiny and self pitying it doesn't affect her at all. Men will still flock to her.

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Duke Glacia

Hyper anti social
No one ever looked me such way
Never had guts

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TercioOfParma

Original post by Venusian Visitor

Exactly, if a woman i s whiny and self pitying it doesn't affect her at all. Men will still flock to her.

For a one night stand maybe. Longer than that is goddam insufferable

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Vikingninja

All boys school until 16. Also bit crap in socialising IRL and because of this never really liked someone in that kind of way.

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Tom78

Original post by AngryRedhead

I apologise in advance if this comes across as rude or insensitive but, barring cases where you went to a single gender secondary school, how does someone get to, like, 18 or 19 and not manage to get a boyfriend or girlfriend? I was a total dork in high school but even I managed to get a boyfriend at 15.

The amount of butthurt on this forum is too damn high :toofunny:

Btw: I'm not talking about all those people who didn't want a relationship; but all those whiners on anon who whinge about not being able to get someone at 18-20

I had no action til I went to College, School was in many ways a dry and depressing place!

(edited 7 years ago)

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afs1999

1.In today's generation it's quite rare to get a relationship because it usually starts off with the talking stage which ends very quickly
2.Most people don't like to be labelled as 'boyfriend/girlfriend' because that's too exclusive instead just seeing each other
3.Not everyone is prepared for a relationship and most people have trust issues which plays a part
4.It doesn't make a difference if you have or not so no one should feel like they're any less because they haven't had a relationship
5.For me it's a matter of what if there's nothing to talk about and it ends up with an awkward silence
6.Many peoiple have strict parents who are against young relationship whih is understandable
7Some are just afraid of having their heart broken as they're too fragile or don't find it easy to open up to people.

Hopefuly now you understand why not EVERYONE has had a boyfriend/girlfriend

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Laurenafenete

Cant be bothered to be honest, there is always something else that I'm doing like studying for exams or doing an external project of some sort. Its not that I'm shy or anything, I have friends who are boys and I've never been to a single sex school. Just meh :moo:

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username1539513

Original post by Tom78

I had no action til I went to College, School was in many ways a dry and depressing place!

I'm sorry you had a bad time :frown:

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User182034

It's easy if you have no desire to swap spit with someone just for the sake of having been in a relationship.

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Proxenus

also is generally easier for a girl to get a partner providing the girl is at least avg looking. all you have to do is sit in the bush,stay still and men will walk in the bush until a wild girl appears. Like no work needed for girls

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Mr Smurf

Because I am ugly. I hate the way I look and girls do too :frown:

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IrrationalRoot

I didn't even mean to post anonymously, it was checked from before and now I can't change it.
By the way that wasn't a tip. It was a comment. No tip would help you.

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Dinasaurus

Original post by Mr Smurf

Because I am ugly. I hate the way I look and girls do too :frown:

I thought you got a girl, what happened?

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Moonstruck16

Original post by IrrationalRoot

I didn't even mean to post anonymously, it was checked from before and now I can't change it.
By the way that wasn't a tip. It was a comment. No tip would help you.

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dairychocolate

Original post by acupofgreentea

Never having been in a serious relationship =/= virgin. :wink:

Can you not read?

He specifically said 'meaningless relationships'.

Besides, we're on TSR so I just assume the person I'm talking to is a virgin, anyway.

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Anonymous #10

I really want a relationship, I truely do.

However, because I had and still to some extent have social anxiety and bipolar throughout most of my teens, I found it uneasy to make new friends, and especially, talk to girls. With time, I gained experience and confidence, went to university, had some interest from females at halls, gained the job I like and have a stable financial situation, but I still feel a total failure for a 20 year old, who hasn't had any sort of a relationship.

But once I see someone as obnoxious and ignorant as OP, I realize that this is not all my fault. Yes, tell me to be an alpha male because that's what every girl loves - a man that is able to pose as a potential husband, who can give maximum security. It's true, but why the need for arrogance? What a pathetic narrow perspective...

In my past but recent experience, on 8 out of 10 occassions (no matter whether this is online, text or in person), the girl was turned off by a simple matter like using the word "Listen" to begin a text in which I proceed to ask the girl directly whether she wants to hang out here at this time (how can you judge my entire personality based on a single word in a 7 day conversation that was flowing well. I'm convinced there was no other reason as I was direct in stating my intentions) and freezes all contact; like she knows every single detail about me. I don't even get a reply saying where I have gone wrong, which would be common courtesy to do that. Even if it's a simple "I'm busy"... I'd get the hint, I'm intelligent. I followed it up a week later, and still heard nothing, so deleted her number.

In another example, the girl wrote me off because I told her straight up not to disrespect me. In yet another example, the criteria of me not having a house made me a write off. I apologize, I forgot we all earn 250k/yr and can afford a house; just adds to the stress and wakes up the low points in my bipolarity - what do you know about it anyway.

I digress but the matter is simple. I will make the effort if a woman has manners, which I feel not many women under the age of 25 have taken out of their household. Even the bang average girls seem to be rude, and obnoxious, thinking they're a 10 and can get any man they want. Wrong. One of them I saw on YouTube, sitting in a dirty room, ranting about how misogynistic males are, adding how she hasn't been in a relationship for 2 years, and she'd be okay with all the hate she'd get in the comments, while at the same time doing a massive list on how you'd get swiped left on Tinder if you had a girl on the profile picture or wrote a stupid quote because it says nothing about you. I quickly came to the conclusion she needs sectioning, like most women who pick by such criteria.

I find that this 'lack of manners' thing is only the case within the United Kingdom and with younger women, mostly under 25, as I got a lot of better results when I went to Netherlands, France or spoke online with women who I later became friends in US. However, most of them just remain friends as it is through my hobby, which is music, and they're almost always over 25 and outside of my interest range. I met a girl who was 21 at one of these events, but she was in a relationship; yet we still somehow talk until today like we're in one.

There are of course normal women who have manners, but I'm still yet to find one. I came close yesterday, as it seemed to be going fine. We met on Tinder, I found her Facebook three days later, and on the fifth day, I get back that she's busy with dissertation when I ask her whether she's around in X at this time. But at least I got the "I'm busy". Not the response I wanted, but I'm mature enough to understand that she is either genuinely busy, or not interested. So I keep looking!

For the above reasons I prefer to focus on education, career and self-improvement, but I keep looking for someone who has manners, and someone who isn't so far up their backside, that they decide to make such a topic.

The OP also implies that as a man, the social etiquette states that I should not go onto a forum, and state my opinion, but it boils my blood when I see posts like these.

How's your Fiat 500 the parents bought you for your GCSE results? :biggrin: