Original post by tazarooni89My school fees were around £10k a year, which for most middle-class families is probably not astronomical.
My grades were 10A*s for GCSE and 5A's for A-Level (though one of them was General Studies).
Personally, I think it doesn't really matter which school you go to, and that when it comes down to it, your grades are almost entirely a result of how hard you worked for them. Private schools have some good and some bad teachers like any other school, with no magic power to make you become more intelligent or get better grades automatically.
I think the reason that people tend to do better at private schools is because they're part of a culture where academic success is considered very important, your "social status" at school and in life is heavily dependent on how well you're doing academically, you're constantly comparing yourself against hugely successful people, and getting a grade C is considered to be gross underperformance rather than a "pass". That kind of environment tends to make people want to work hard, gives them the confidence that top grades are achievable wth hard work etc. so they're more likely to do it.
I think I would have done pretty well academically regardless of which school I went to, because even if the school didn't provide that kind of environment, my parents and my family overall were very education-oriented, wouldn't have been satisfied with less than top grades in anything, was full of other very successful people etc. So I would have still felt the incentive to work just has hard. Obviously I can't say for sure what I would have got had I been at a different school, I'm just speculating. But it's certainly possible to do just as well at a state school, and many people do.
I would say it was worth my parents' money, yes. Not because of the impact it would have had on my grades (because I disagree that private school is just an opportunity for people to "buy good grades"). Rather, I think it was worth my parents money for the same reason that it's worth buying yourself a nice house to live in, or paying for a five-star hotel when you go on holiday, or spending money on going out rather than staying at home in one place. I would consider school to have been some of the best years of my life as a result of how luxurious the environment was in terms of comfort, the activities I got to do, the experiences I had, the people I grew up with etc.
If you were at Disneyland for a limited amount of time and money wasn't an issue, you'd want to go on every single ride, visit every shop, stay in the nicest hotel they had etc. and similarly we attend school for a limited amount of time too, so I think it's worth spending the money to gain as much of a variety of experiences from it as you can.