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Can't get a gf

I've tried for over a year now, to get a gf, I'm 18 in 2 months. My friend said it's because I can't talk to them(I can talk to them in person) but I can't over text and I can't flirt and am probably quite awkward doing that. Maybe it's because I'm ugly or fat I dunno. I'm 5ft 9 and weigh 10 stone 8, have a bit of muscle. Maybe it's because I am too nice to girls I like, or perhaps my body shape or looks. If you want I'll pm you what I look like(girls).

I think I dress nice,tbh I don't have any female friends, I lost the two I had when I told one I thought she was beautiful drunk and long story short they both treated me like a mug...because I suppose I am. I do go the gym but I don't seem to gain much muscle. I'm on tinder and hot or not, and a few dating sites(pretending I'm 18) but I do get matches/interests but I never get a message back :/ or if I'm talking to one I'll think it's going fine and then I'll get unfriended or removed of sc and I dunno. I used an escort the other day(I enjoyed that) but I want a relationship so if I could get any pointers off girls about my looks or style or something that would be good.

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Reply 1
Original post by Anonymous
I've tried for over a year now, to get a gf, I'm 18 in 2 months. My friend said it's because I can't talk to them(I can talk to them in person) but I can't over text and I can't flirt and am probably quite awkward doing that. Maybe it's because I'm ugly or fat I dunno. I'm 5ft 9 and weigh 10 stone 8, have a bit of muscle. Maybe it's because I am too nice to girls I like, or perhaps my body shape or looks. If you want I'll pm you what I look like(girls).

I think I dress nice,tbh I don't have any female friends, I lost the two I had when I told one I thought she was beautiful drunk and long story short they both treated me like a mug...because I suppose I am. I do go the gym but I don't seem to gain much muscle. I'm on tinder and hot or not, and a few dating sites(pretending I'm 18) but I do get matches/interests but I never get a message back :/ or if I'm talking to one I'll think it's going fine and then I'll get unfriended or removed of sc and I dunno. I used an escort the other day(I enjoyed that) but I want a relationship so if I could get any pointers off girls about my looks or style or something that would be good.


18 is not old.
University is a better place as you meet a lot more people away from home
Reply 2
Original post by M14B
18 is not old.
University is a better place as you meet a lot more people away from home


Yeah but it really depresses me and I crave some intimacy with a female, hence why I got an escort. I really want a gf, just to cuddle, do stuff with like go out on dates and stuff :/
Reply 3
Original post by Anonymous
Yeah but it really depresses me and I crave some intimacy with a female, hence why I got an escort. I really want a gf, just to cuddle, do stuff with like go out on dates and stuff :/


I think you are putting pressure on yourself
Male involuntary celibacy is one of the great taboos of our age. A much bigger number of males than females never have children and remain alone for the rest of their lives. Look up Steve Hoca on youtube, he has a lot of good material on this.
Reply 5
Original post by plstudent
Male involuntary celibacy is one of the great taboos of our age. A much bigger number of males than females never have children and remain alone for the rest of their lives. Look up Steve Hoca on youtube, he has a lot of good material on this.


The thought of being alone for the rest of my life makes me want to drink myself to death tbh
Original post by Anonymous
The thought of being alone for the rest of my life makes me want to drink myself to death tbh


I want to become a wizard so everything's going smoothly for 17 yr old me
Original post by Anonymous
The thought of being alone for the rest of my life makes me want to drink myself to death tbh


I know the feeling. Listening to Steve Hoca interview others who share this life makes me feel better. You are not alone. There is nothing specially wrong about you. This happens because you were born male.
Youre only 17 so youve still got time! Im 18 and have never hugged a girl!
Just be yourself around girls and you will attract someone who loves you!
Ive no idea what an escort is tbh, but it doesnt sound good!
Youre in a better situation to me! Ive got no friends and im a repellent to girls!
I can barely talk to anyone in person tbh so its really difficult.
But just be yourself and act confident around people!!
I'm 18 and I haven't even had my first proper kiss. I feel so lame and pathetic because of it. I'm not 'pretty' or remotely attractive, so I have no help in that department. Plus the fact that I am really insecure which leads to me constantly feeling judged when I meet new people or try to talk to people, resulting in me being a socially awkward mess. I'm probably known as being the weirdly awkward and quiet one haha. I know how you feel , I crave such miniscule relationship things such as being able to hug them or just having this amazing best friend. Hopefully I might find this person one day, and you will as well, undoubtedly. Maybe uni might be the place :smile:
Original post by FireFreezer77
Youre only 17 so youve still got time! Im 18 and have never hugged a girl!
Just be yourself around girls and you will attract someone who loves you!
Ive no idea what an escort is tbh, but it doesnt sound good!
Youre in a better situation to me! Ive got no friends and im a repellent to girls!
I can barely talk to anyone in person tbh so its really difficult.
But just be yourself and act confident around people!!


An escort is basically a legal prostitute, I don't have many friends either, and I don't really get the chance to hang around them.
Reply 11
Actively searching for a girlfriend will probably do more harm than good. Enjoy your time now and wait until uni: I didn't have my first kiss until I was 18, and I didn't get my first boyfriend until I came to uni last September.
Have you ever asked a girl out for a date?
Original post by Anonymous
I'm 18 and I haven't even had my first proper kiss. I feel so lame and pathetic because of it. I'm not 'pretty' or remotely attractive, so I have no help in that department. Plus the fact that I am really insecure which leads to me constantly feeling judged when I meet new people or try to talk to people, resulting in me being a socially awkward mess. I'm probably known as being the weirdly awkward and quiet one haha. I know how you feel , I crave such miniscule relationship things such as being able to hug them or just having this amazing best friend. Hopefully I might find this person one day, and you will as well, undoubtedly. Maybe uni might be the place :smile:


I'm 18 and I've basically never talked to a girl and certainly don't talk to any at all right now. I'm not bothered. If I find one I find one; I don't like any of the girls I've seen so far.
Original post by whydoidothis?
Have you ever asked a girl out for a date?


A few times...always a no, or I just see you as a friend.
Original post by Anonymous
I've tried for over a year now, to get a gf, I'm 18 in 2 months. My friend said it's because I can't talk to them(I can talk to them in person) but I can't over text and I can't flirt and am probably quite awkward doing that. Maybe it's because I'm ugly or fat I dunno. I'm 5ft 9 and weigh 10 stone 8, have a bit of muscle. Maybe it's because I am too nice to girls I like, or perhaps my body shape or looks. If you want I'll pm you what I look like(girls).

I think I dress nice,tbh I don't have any female friends, I lost the two I had when I told one I thought she was beautiful drunk and long story short they both treated me like a mug...because I suppose I am. I do go the gym but I don't seem to gain much muscle. I'm on tinder and hot or not, and a few dating sites(pretending I'm 18) but I do get matches/interests but I never get a message back :/ or if I'm talking to one I'll think it's going fine and then I'll get unfriended or removed of sc and I dunno. I used an escort the other day(I enjoyed that) but I want a relationship so if I could get any pointers off girls about my looks or style or something that would be good.


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Original post by FireFreezer77
Youre only 17 so youve still got time! Im 18 and have never hugged a girl!
Just be yourself around girls and you will attract someone who loves you!
Ive no idea what an escort is tbh, but it doesnt sound good!
Youre in a better situation to me! Ive got no friends and im a repellent to girls!
I can barely talk to anyone in person tbh so its really difficult.
But just be yourself and act confident around people!!


escort is someone you pay to fk
Fat, 5'9 and 10st 8? I'm a 5'7 female weighing 10st 9, a size 10 and not overweight, so I highly doubt you are. I think (and I know this is cheesy AF) you need to learn to start loving yourself before bringing anyone else into the equation; if you're confident then chatting to people becomes easier and you're more fun because you're not hung up on silly things.

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