Was this a controlling/emotionally abusive relationship?

As a woman <25, with many other female friends of the same age, I must disagree. It's not the norm to send pics like that to guys outside a relationship

Things will get better man I'm sure of it. Just keep your head up and be yourself. Someone will come round that you never expected.

From your side of the story, it definitely sounds like she was emotionally manipulative.

You can't control who you fall for, and it's okay to be angry, as long as you don't channel your anger back at her. Retaliating will still be giving her your time and attention, which will only prolong the situation.

You've done well to leave the relationship and not respond to her attempts to contact you. Many victims of emotional abuse don't get that far. I know it can be tempting to, but refuse to contact her again whatsoever; she will eventually focus her attention elsewhere.

Females and males are capable of emotional abuse. One, two, or even a dozen bad experiences shouldn't cause you to distrust an entire gender, but I'm sure you know that already.

My advice for future relationships, if you encounter another instance of emotional abuse, would be to warn them the first time it happens. Should they continue, tolerate none of it and turn your back on them entirely. That kind of person will likely never change, and it's not worth waiting around to see whether they do.

Cheers dude, I didn't mean it as a remark on you btw. I just don't want this one girl to screw up my view of all girls because of this one thing.
I think I'm just going to abstain from relationships for a long time. It took me long enough to get over the trust issues in the first place, cba to go over that again
I hope you do too, thanks

No worries, im aware i give a negative impression on this forum people see it the wrong way.

If you want a good relationship dont go for "party girls", instead the library is a better place to look

I know, but that doesn't seem to help. Yeah, you're right about the retaliation thing. I want her to know exactly how I feel, but she's going to deflect it anyway and I cba for that any more.

I know everyone's going to blow up at me, saying I'm attention seeking, making it up ect, but we did function for a while as friends afterwards. I did still have feelings towards her, not romantic just platonic. Like I said, she isn't a bad person imo. Just really selfish.
I also didn't have any other friends to talk to.

It's just that all these feelings are eating me up from the inside now. And they aren't going anywhere, I don't know how to diffuse them.

I know, I'm not making any statement on men or women. I've clarified it a few times. I have trust issues, but not towards women in particular. Just anyone who gets close with me.

People who do these sorts of things tend to not possess much empathy, so telling her how you feel will achieve very little, other than maybe giving her the sense of satisfaction that she's still on your mind. Don't show her that you care about her at all, even if right now, you do.

I'm not going to agree or disagree with your assessment, since I haven't met her in person, but do consider: would you still think she's not a bad person if you had several other friends? Sometimes you'll misjudge individuals because you lack a standard for comparison, or in other cases, you feel obliged to not label them a bad person because they are there for you when nobody else is.

Without sounding too generic, do whatever you enjoy, as long as it isn't harmful. Distract yourself from whatever you are feeling now, even if that seems like an entirely unfeasible proposition. I'm assuming you felt content with life before she came into the picture, so it's possible to feel content with life after too. The anger will diffuse with time, but if you don't find something to replace it with, you're going to be left feeling rather empty—and that's when you may begin to feel the desire to have her back. You don't necessarily need another person to replace her, be it a friend or partner; just find something you like to do, and do it often.

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Thanks for listening to this and taking the time to reply anyway anyway

It seems like it, I've seen a friend a go through something similar in the past. I know you said you don't have anyone to talk to, but are you at college/uni? Is there someone there to talk to about how you're feeling?