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My friend doesn't understand 'no' :(

I've been friends with him for almost two years. He considers me his best friend. To me, he's a good friend.

However, recently he said he had a dream about us dating. Then he told me what kind of porn he watches. He kept it up for two days, by which time I told him to stop talking about it. He kept it up for a few hours before stopping, and I had stopped talking to him.

After the porn incedent, he annoyed me, I told him to stop but he didn't. I told him 3 times.


I'm scared & worried. I feel like he doesn't respect me
When I tell him to stop something. It's upsetting me an awful lot.

I don't know if I'm over reacting. And I don't know what to do.

I'm an adult (19) but at college we share 2/3 lessons together. It's
Impossible to be away from
Him.

It's distressing me.
Original post by Anonymous
I've been friends with him for almost two years. He considers me his best friend. To me, he's a good friend.

However, recently he said he had a dream about us dating. Then he told me what kind of porn he watches. He kept it up for two days, by which time I told him to stop talking about it. He kept it up for a few hours before stopping, and I had stopped talking to him.

After the porn incedent, he annoyed me, I told him to stop but he didn't. I told him 3 times.


I'm scared & worried. I feel like he doesn't respect me
When I tell him to stop something. It's upsetting me an awful lot.

I don't know if I'm over reacting. And I don't know what to do.

I'm an adult (19) but at college we share 2/3 lessons together. It's
Impossible to be away from
Him.

It's distressing me.


Maybe he wants a relationship with you?
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Original post by Ayaz789
Maybe he wants a relationship with you?


If we're being specific here, I would say he wants to bang you.

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Original post by Impressive
If we're being specific here, I would say he wants to bang you.

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Yeppp :biggrin:
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Original post by Anonymous
I've been friends with him for almost two years. He considers me his best friend. To me, he's a good friend.

However, recently he said he had a dream about us dating. Then he told me what kind of porn he watches. He kept it up for two days, by which time I told him to stop talking about it. He kept it up for a few hours before stopping, and I had stopped talking to him.

After the porn incedent, he annoyed me, I told him to stop but he didn't. I told him 3 times.


I'm scared & worried. I feel like he doesn't respect me
When I tell him to stop something. It's upsetting me an awful lot.

I don't know if I'm over reacting. And I don't know what to do.

I'm an adult (19) but at college we share 2/3 lessons together. It's
Impossible to be away from
Him.

It's distressing me.


Kick in the nuts usually works
Original post by Anonymous
I've been friends with him for almost two years. He considers me his best friend. To me, he's a good friend.

However, recently he said he had a dream about us dating. Then he told me what kind of porn he watches. He kept it up for two days, by which time I told him to stop talking about it. He kept it up for a few hours before stopping, and I had stopped talking to him.

After the porn incedent, he annoyed me, I told him to stop but he didn't. I told him 3 times.


I'm scared & worried. I feel like he doesn't respect me
When I tell him to stop something. It's upsetting me an awful lot.

I don't know if I'm over reacting. And I don't know what to do.

I'm an adult (19) but at college we share 2/3 lessons together. It's
Impossible to be away from
Him.

It's distressing me.


He doesn't respect you. He's the kind of guy who hopes you get drunk enough so he can have sex with you. Don't be alone with this guy because it will happen and you'll curse the day you didn't listen to your instinct.
First of all, id just like to say stay strong and keep up with your own mind set. Can i suggest you tell any member of staff who you feel comfortable with. If you say you sont want anyone to know about it (other students)
One solution they can do is move either yourself or him to another class...they can change the timetable around and make sure your safe within and outside college. Dont worry about any member of family being involved as you are an adult and i firmly believe theres no reason for college to imvolve anyone else
You just need to be firm with him and tell him to stop talking about it, if it continues then I would completely ignore him, he don't sound much of a friend.
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Original post by Ayaz789
Maybe he wants a relationship with you?


Original post by Impressive
If we're being specific here, I would say he wants to bang you.

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Original post by !!mentor!!
He doesn't respect you. He's the kind of guy who hopes you get drunk enough so he can have sex with you. Don't be alone with this guy because it will happen and you'll curse the day you didn't listen to your instinct.


Original post by Rock Fan
You just need to be firm with him and tell him to stop talking about it, if it continues then I would completely ignore him, he don't sound much of a friend.


Thank you. I txt him saying I needed space, but then he didn't respect that (again) and poked & laughed nervously at me.

From day 1 my gut was telling me something was off, but I didn't want to judge & so I gave him a chance.

I do feel pathetic for not believing my gut.

But I will avoid him.

Thank you to everyone who answered.
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Original post by M14B
Kick in the nuts usually works


Thank you.
I will if he keeps at it.
Original post by Anonymous
Thank you.
I will if he keeps at it.


Nah don't stoop as low as him, just completely ignore him and if he carries on report him to your college.

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