Non-consent fantasies?

This sounds really weird, and I guess it is.

But I've got no idea why I feel this way, and I want some answers. Like girls and guys, who it happens to have their whole lives ruined, but I just feel as if it wouldn't affect me.

When I was younger, I actually wanted to be raped, so I could get my virginity out of the way. I knew this wasn't normal, but I thought it would go away. Then I started reading non-consent stories, and I really enjoy them. I still feel really weird about it, but I can't help what I like :/ I like ones that are really twisted too, which actually scares me. Is this what they call a rape fantasy, or something else?

I understand why rape porn is looked down on and banned? But if the people are acting, I don't see the problem, nor do I see the sick side to the stories (which people comment on, clearly doing it as deep stories, not something someone should actually like or get turned on by.)

To me, it doesn't seem so horrific. Is everyone so nonchalant about it, until it happens to them? Or is this a weird way of thinking?

This isn't meant to offend people who this has happened to, as it seems like a horrific experience. I really, really don't mean any offence. I'm just voicing my thoughts, and I'm really curious as to what other people think. I haven't written or talked about this before (probably because everyone will be disgusted, but my curiousity has gotten the better of me.)

I just wrote this as a bit of a rant, and kind of want to know if anyone else is like this? (I'm not expecting anyone to be) As this is really rare, isn't it? And people are looked down on for liking stuff like this? Why? I actually really want to know what people think.

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Reply 1

Anonymous #2

What's wrong with you? Of course you would care.

Reply 2

Anonymous #3

Once it actually happened (God forbid), you probably wouldn't feel the same...

Reply 3

TheArtofProtest

That's not rape. That's consensual sexual intercourse.

Reply 4

Anonymous #4

I was raped as a child, and it didn't have that much of an effect on me really. Being beaten up was worse. It was gross and weird because I was only seven so I didn't understand it, but I don't think it was as traumatising as schoolyard bullying, because it was one vile individual who raped me, yet it was all of my peers who bullied me. So for the rape it felt like the rapist was in the wrong, whereas the bullying made it clear that I was the weird one.

Reply 5

Erebor

The majority of women have rape fantasies, but these have nothing to do with the reality of rape. It's usually a fantasy that the guy who plays Thor will ravish you because you're so hot and he can't help himself. 50 shades is a good example of that, women dream of the absolute alpha male being so obsessed with them that he will do anything to posses them.

(edited 7 years ago)

Rape fantasy isn't uncommon actually, in fact I believe it's meant to be one of the most common sexual fantasies women report when polls about fetishes/paraphilias/kinks etc are done. However there's a big difference between a fantasied version of "rape" and actually being physically and sexually assaulted by a stranger. A lot of people don't really want to be raped, they want to be dominated sexually, coerced with some force etc which of course isn't the same thing. You can imagine you have no consent and be aroused by that, but realistically in the back of your mind you know you do, if you REALLY wanted it to stop, it could. Where as if a man has punched you in the face to floor you, then rips your clothes off with a knife and violently rapes you, that's never going to be any sort of pleasurable experience...well...for 99.99% anyway, there may be a tiny minority who would due to a specific sexual paraphilia, which you might be among, but it's impossible to say until you'd actually face that situation.

Ofcourse you'd care

Maybe I'm wrong but it sounds like you're confusing role-play and or enjoying being on the receiving end of dominance as 'enjoying rape'. If you're enjoying a sexual encounter, it's not rape. You're talking about forceful consensual sex. Now if someone random grabbed you and raped you wherever and in the manner that they chose, I can be certain you would not be okay with that.

Reply 10

hezzlington

I can't even begin to comprehend how ignorant and naive this thread is. The fact you're on anon suggests to me you know exactly what you're doing. Do you have any idea of how upsetting people could find this thread? You are trivializing one of the most horrific situations a human can endure, but not only that, you are suggesting you may actually enjoy it.

Reply 11

hezzlington

Wtf is with you people saying rape fantasies are common in women? Are you ******* insane?

Reply 12

stop888

Original post by hezzlington

Wtf is with you people saying rape fantasies are common in women? Are you ******* insane?

^This. People fantasise about rape? :indiff:

Reply 13

hezzlington

Original post by BeccaHP

Why is that insane?

Do you really need to ask that? You're asking me why I think fantasizing about being raped is insane?

Reply 14

anonwinner

Original post by hezzlington

Wtf is with you people saying rape fantasies are common in women? Are you ******* insane?

You're a beta male, probably a virgin.

Reply 15

Shiv Loves Maths

Original post by Anonymous

Lol you clearly have some sort of glamorised rape fantasies and you haven't even experienced rape.You wouldn't know how you would respond if you actually went through it.

Reply 16

chris_mm

Not sure if troll or just a f**king lunatic.

Reply 17

joey11223

Original post by hezzlington

Wtf is with you people saying rape fantasies are common in women? Are you ******* insane?

.....you understand what the word fantasy means right? It isn't uncommon from self reporting, but as I outlined, those who do report yes, likely mean they want to be dominated, not actually raped, a bit like the OP in all likelihood

and although incredibly unlikely, OP could be a masochist to the extent she might gain some enjoyment, or even that without being hurt she cannot become aroused. Again it is highly unlikely she is to that degree, but it is ignorant of you to say categorically the OP would not, as you don't know her sexually. Just like I could say no one would want to have "sex" with the silver birch tree in my garden, but I'd be ignorant to do so since it is quite likely someone would, I just don't pay much thought to the antics of dendrophiles.

Reply 18

Anonymous #7

I don't think OP is describing a regular "rape fantasy" that a lot of women have(i.e. being taken by a top-of-the-food-chain strong male who wants them so much he can't help himself sort of thing). I think what she's describing is more of a "misogyny/ degradation fetish"(i.e. women who get off on being beaten and abused, and often by ugly disgusting men because that's even more degrading)-Op is probably going to end up on tubmlr's rape porn blogs eventually...

Reply 19

hezzlington

Original post by joey11223

Being dominated in a consensual sexual environment and being raped are entirely different things.

You're calling me ignorant because I'm suggesting OP wouldn't enjoy being raped?