Opinions on stay at home girlfriends/wifes?

I don't think it's the "healthiest" way, a lot of women suffer with postpartum depression and anxiety, staying at home for such a long period of time can make it worse, also children are hard work.

There is NOTHING wrong with putting your child in daycare! It doesn't mean you don't love your child.

Of course children are hard work, that's why I'd only want the person I trust most to do everything in their power to take the best care of them - their mothers or the wife of the house. Now, you're bringing up separate points. A stay at home mum can balance her child-caring duties with her own wellbeing. She can still find time to do things she enjoys, and nor does this mean she's confined to the parameters of her house. I think you've got a skewed view of what a housewife can do and her options. I'm pretty sure this way of living is far better than being an office drone, working for the profits of some random schmuck and wishing for more time to have kids once passing the fertile 20s.

You can leave your kids in daycare if you want to. I never said that you'd love your child less, you pulled that out from somewhere. But I'll leave my kids in the care of my wife, rather than a paid carer who has to balance a few hours between several dozen other stranger's kids.

Not everyone has grandparents (or other family members) who are able to look after kids.
And I disagree. This emerging culture of parents dumping kids in day care because both of them work full time isn't healthy.

Of course children are hard work, that's why I'd only want the person I trust most to do everything in their power to take the best care of them - their mothers or the wife of the house. Now, you're bringing up separate points. A stay at home mum can balance her child-caring duties with her own wellbeing. She can still find time to do things she enjoys, and nor does this mean she's confined to the parameters of her house. I think you've got a skewed view of what a housewife can do and her options. I'm pretty sure this way of living is far better than being an office drone, working for the profits of some random schmuck and wishing for more time to have kids once passing the fertile 20s.

You can leave your kids in daycare if you want to. I never said that you'd love your child less, you pulled that out from somewhere. But I'll leave my kids in the care of my wife, rather than a paid carer who has to balance a few hours between several dozen other stranger's kids.

Personally I'd hate being a full time house wife and having to completely depend on my husband for financial matters. I'm too ambitious and have too many things I want to accomplish to reduce myself to someone whose day only consists of cooking,cleaning,looking after the children etc.. My mum managed to be the most incredible mother to six children while having her own career too, and I admire her even more for her ambitiousness and ability to find a balance between work and home life.

There is NOTHING wrong with putting your child in daycare! It doesn't mean you don't love your child.

As someone who was raised mostly in daycare centres and by housemaids, I disagree.

Really, why?

Of course children are hard work, that's why I'd only want the person I trust most to do everything in their power to take the best care of them - their mothers or the wife of the house. Now, you're bringing up separate points. A stay at home mum can balance her child-caring duties with her own wellbeing. She can still find time to do things she enjoys, and nor does this mean she's confined to the parameters of her house. I think you've got a skewed view of what a housewife can do and her options. I'm pretty sure this way of living is far better than being an office drone, working for the profits of some random schmuck and wishing for more time to have kids once passing the fertile 20s.

You can leave your kids in daycare if you want to. I never said that you'd love your child less, you pulled that out from somewhere. But I'll leave my kids in the care of my wife, rather than a paid carer who has to balance a few hours between several dozen other stranger's kids.

Well, I felt quite neglected because of both my parents working full-time (with regular night shifts to boot); a housemaid/daycare only makes up for so much.

I know that you're quite the feminist about most things, but I'm afraid I'm given to tradition on this one in an almost non-negotiable way.

I'm seeing more and more of this **** as I get older. No kids to take care of, but the guy works while the girl just chills.

Obviously people are free to do whatever they want with their lives, and I'm free to view guys in relationships like this as chumps...


Wives*

Probably ****ing the neighbour while Mr is at work too.

I can make up for lost time with my children with extreme love for them when I get home

if I'm happy and my partner is happy then our children will be happy.

Also there are many stay at home mums/ dads that make a mess of it. It depends on the parent.

Staying at home gets so boring after a while

Just because you turned out "fine" doesn't mean a nurturing mother isn't necessary. It's essential in my opinion. Obviously your mum didn't have a choice at the time so that's understandable.

And no, not everyone has to work. I know it's trendy to downplay the importance of traditional family units these days but there are women out there that are happy to be stay-at-home mothers because they want to spend time with their children.

Fair enough, but I should point out that the only instance of this approach with which I have personal experience (i.e. my own childhood) was a phenomenal failure.

Not necessarily, Mrs..

Agreed.

Well, I felt quite neglected because of both my parents working full-time (with regular night shifts to boot); a housemaid/daycare only makes up for so much.

I know that you're quite the feminist about most things, but I'm afraid I'm given to tradition on this one in an almost non-negotiable way.

But you were talking about mothers specifically, also my grandma wasn't very loving or nurturing either but mum didn't have the choice at the time, again, I turned out fine.

Nothing wrong with day care, people have to work, it's life.