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The introverts guide to socialising

1) Ask people how they are even though you don't care
2) Make mindless small talk
3) Talk about the same things over and over until it's clichéd

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thanks, its a shame these tips wont work at all with an extrovert like myself
Original post by JigsawFalling
1) Ask people how they are even though you don't care
2) Make mindless small talk
3) Talk about the same things over and over until it's clichéd


Original post by Straighthate
thanks, its a shame these tips wont work at all with an extrovert like myself


1) Nothing works on everyone, not even medicines/therapy/contraception/operations have a 100% success rate everyone is different and thats good and fresh

Heres my guide

1) Gain confidence+humour


thats it really


Hard I know but thats all you need, you dont need insane looks, tons of friends, be an instagram celerity, have social power, academic power or physical power, you dont need mad talents, good genetics, surgery, £100 pick up lessons, just....

confidence and humour

confidence gets you there, it lets you approach ppl first, giving you a strong start, comment on anything theyre wearing/eating/saying show youre paying attention to them and start a convo, there are just ppl

just ppl, they get worried to, they eat, sleep and go to the toilet, theyre human too

humour-find things funny in unfunny things, my personal favourite is the

"the as opposed to" technique, someone says something a little obvious like its pretty bad weather today or looks like the bus is late and you say

"as opposed to those great sunny british days or as opposed to those on time first class buses"

its not professional comedy level, but its a start and wayyyy better than nothing
No hate on that, sounds successful but has it every backfired? If they all think youre confident and you FEEL confident either.....

1) You just ARE CONFIDENT by now?:h:

2) It has/may backfire on you in certain situations since you are not truly 100% confident? :redface:
Original post by JigsawFalling
1) Ask people how they are even though you don't care
2) Make mindless small talk
3) Talk about the same things over and over until it's clichéd


I'm pretty sure extraverts often find these steps of introducing yourself to somebody else mindless and dull, too, it's just a necessary evil in finding people you are compatible with. Extraverts will push themselves through more of it because they tend to value the potential end product to a greater extent than introverts do.
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Here's the things you have to remember:

Extroverts love to talk.
Introverts don't necessarily, but if the other person in the conversation is doing all the talking the introvert will feel as though they should be contributing more and will feel good about themselves if they get sone good chat in.

So, really, the person you're talking to wants to do some talking - learn how to throw them a bone and give them something to talk to you about. Then, when you see an opportunity to chinwag about something that you relate to, take it.
Reply 6
shall i try this goin into new 6th form omg??????

i have mastered this too tbh im rrly good at fake confidence lol inside ur like '!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!' and outside ur like ' :wink: :wink: :wink: :wink: :wink: '

unless anyone feels HEARTBEAT they'll never know ini

i am one of the ppl who assumed that u are very confident bc u seem like you are fam!!!!!!!!
ur ruse got me too :redface:

also i learned how to talk for dayyyyyyys to ppl idk just uno that stupid small talk
Can confirm, this works :yep:
Reply 8
ILL TRY ITS V DIFFICULT THO but uno ill fake the confidence... works every time

:biggrin: SMALL talk seems soooo pointless bc i actually wanna say 'i dont care abt any of this' but i CANT D:

and LOL I HAVE FRIENDS LIKE THAT AND its like 'how do u even have the energy?????' while i wanna sleep rip
Reply 9
Original post by JigsawFalling
1) Ask people how they are even though you don't care
2) Make mindless small talk
3) Talk about the same things over and over until it's clichéd


I will wait until I see all these role played in a video.
I did ask one person how she was and then she never shut up :cry2:
I did the same thing, just pretend you're confident until it's so normal.
Fake it till you make it brah
1) Get drunk.
lmao. What did she say after you said that? :redface:
1. fake it

2. learn things about people so you can ask about them later, e.g. hobby, pet, children, job etc... if you ask about something they care about it will look like you've listened/remembered/cared, be a genuinely engaging conversation and they will talk a lot so you don't have to

3. don't put too much pressure on yourself, better to be present and quiet and than force yourself to talk more than you're okay with and look miserable/leave early
If you're an introvert, why bother 'socialising'? Just stay indoors, nap, and play with your cat.
Original post by Freudian Slit
If you're an introvert, why bother 'socialising'? Just stay indoors, nap, and play with your pussy.


ftfy :smile:

On a serious note though, you've kinda got a point. Introverts wouldn't care about socialising, because they prefer not to. Don't blame one's lack of social skills on being introverted, one's just a failed extrovert :rofl:

EDIT: fixed after racial harassment :hand:
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Original post by Zargabaath
ftfy :smile:

On a serious note though, you've kinda got a point. Introverts wouldn't care about socialising, because they prefer not to. Don't blame your lack of social skills on being introverted, you're just a failed extrovert :rofl:


I guessed you would do this.

No I'm someone who can be an extrovert if I wish to be but I choose to be an introvert because I'm not about that going outside and talking to people life.
Original post by Freudian Slit
I guessed you would do this.

No I'm someone who can be an extrovert if I wish to be but I choose to be an introvert because I'm not about that going outside and talking to people life.


I wasn't talking about you specifically, when I said "you". :lol:
I meant it as in addressed to people who do claim it. As in You know who you are
Original post by Zargabaath
I wasn't talking about you specifically, when I said "you". :lol:
I meant it as in addressed to people who do claim it. As in You know who you are


You should really use 'one' then :colonhash:

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