Depressed; I Want To Take My Hijab Off

Whilst I strongly understand you need advice, why ask it here?
I suggest that you speak to an Imam, a Scholar, an Islamic Person that can guide you to do the right things
as not wearing the hijab is a sin in Islam
and maybe you should learn Islam properly

Either that or she's one of the people on here (whom I can't stand) that try deliberately to use the fact that they've been to KSA and most others haven't to mislead them for their own ends.

Reminds me of something I once read in a history book about travellers to the New World who would come back to the Old and tell fantastic falsehoods to an unwitting audience about what it was like.

I'm an 18 year old Muslim female

Hijab is not just a cloth on your head, it's obligatory, just as a man who keeps a beard.

Hijab stops the male gaze from eyeing you up and down, as the way women are portrayed today.

I feel your whole interpretation of Islam is wrong, and you've misjudged the concept of the Quraan quotes

Hijab is what differentiates you from the ones that are not Muslim, you have to understand that hijab isn't there to make you suffer, it's one of the best protections God has sent down for Females.

Would you pick a sweet that's unwrapped, or wrapped? Yes, I used that line, because it's a perfect example of how a woman who is covered, is pure and content with her beauty, showing it only to her Mahram. ( Husband, brothers, dad, son, nephew, uncle etc)

Also, as Ramadhan is so near, take this blessed opportunity to reflect to Allah, speak to Allah, as he "does not burden a soul beyond that it can handle" This is a major test for you and your level of faith, as we are all tested with trials and tribulations, so please Dear Sister, do not fall into this trap

O children of Adam, We have bestowed upon you clothing to conceal your private parts and as adornment. But the clothing of righteousness - that is best. That is from the signs of Allah that perhaps they will remember. (7:26)

Islam isn't there to make life harder for you, rather, you are making it harder for yourself

Private message me if you wanna speak about this one-to-one x

Is it not the case that many Western people live in closed off communities and compounds where they don't actually experience or see the other side of Saudi Arabia? I imagine this would be a factor in why some people can have such a different perception of life in Saudi Arabia.

as not wearing the hijab is a sin in Islam

hijab is not obligatory sister because the koran doesn't say it is

Again, anyone who lives in the real world knows that most Muslim men don't wear that. We're not retarded people that you can lie to you know.

WOW i cant believe u didnt know muslim men wear those. they do i'm muslim and my mosque teacher wears one. When u go to hajj ur supposed to wear one of those. Stop defaming what you dont know

Think he's trying to say that in everyday life most Muslim men don't wear that,they wear normal clothes

Hijab is obligatory as stated;

“O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allaah is Ever Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”[al-Ahzaab 33:59]

Allah knows best

Hello!

First of all, I'd like to say this thread is very hard to make for me since I've always portrayed myself as a 'proud' Muslim. I have been feeling depressed for the past, say, 4 years of my life. I'm turning 18 in the summer, and I have never felt so ugly, so depressed, so not my self. Imagine realising that you're not going to be able to do what you want in life... that you're living just to wait for death. That is how I feel. I feel completely trapped.

My parents are conservative, very strict, very scary. My father moreso than my mother. My extended family are like that as well, you do one thing that they don't like and you're put under fire by the whole ****ing country. I have aunts and uncles here as well, and if I were to take it off all Hell would break loose.

I just can't try and find justifications for some of the things in Islam. Like this verse in the Quran:
"Men are (meant to be righteous and kind) guardians of women because God has favored some more than others and because they (i.e. men) spend out of their wealth. (In their turn) righteous women are (meant to be) devoted and to guard what God has (willed to be) guarded even though out of sight (of the husband). As for those (women) on whose part you fear ill-will and nasty conduct, admonish them (first), (next) separate them in beds (and last) beat them. But if they obey you, then seek nothing against them. Behold, God is most high and great." (4:34)
This verse is in the Quran, it is not a hadith so you can say "oh that's just someone talking ****", it is the unadulterated word of God Himself.

I just don't see a reason for covering my hair, I can be modest in my thoughts, I can be modest without a hijab. I love God and I hope he forgives me but I just don't understand why? If He made me the way I am and He loves me, why does He order men to rinse their hands from my touch?
"And if ye are unclean, purify yourselves. And if ye are sick or on a journey, or one of you cometh from the closet, or ye have had contact with women, and ye find not water, then go to clean, high ground and rub your faces and your hands with some of it" (5:6) Am I created dirty?

I just don't see how this could be 'misinterpreted'. And it's not even just Islam itself, it is the Muslim community. The backwards thinking, the hypocrisy, the oppression hidden behind smiles and empty arguments to trick yourself into believing it's the right thing to do. I don't want to lie to myself, and to God and to my family and say I want to represent this and I believe in this and it makes me happy. It doesn't. I am depressed. I feel like ****. I feel like I am losing purpose. I feel like my dreams are too far to reach.

And I can't ignore it any more. It's been 4 years of constant **** and right now I am itching in my own skin. I am suffering so much and I know it might never end. Because I would be ridiculed and looked down upon and disowned by my own community/ family, nobody would want to marry me, I'm going to be pointed at my mothers who tell their children not to be like me. People are going to scowl in disgust when they hear my name. And I am a person who craves validation. If someone doesn't like me, I go out of my way to make them like me, so that would absolutely destroy me.

Funny how a cloth on your head can do that to ya huh? But I don't know how to live my life the way I want and not to hurt or be hurt by those I love and those I call "family". I just need help. I don't need someone telling me I will go to Hell. God is merciful and will forgive my sins. You are not God.

Any words of reassurance? Advice? Anything?

WOW i cant believe u didnt know muslim men wear those. they do i'm muslim and my mosque teacher wears one. When u go to hajj ur supposed to wear one of those. Stop defaming what you dont know

naa he even said before in a post that no man wears it if u scroll up its completely normal in the UAE most men wear it there and a lot wear it in western countries too like my teacher fo eg.
and what do u mean its not "normal" "they wear normal clothes" what u saying its not normal to wear that?

Stop lying. I did not say no Muslim men wear it and you will not be able to find a post where I wrote that.

"again, anyone who lives in the real world knows that most Muslim men don't wear that. We're not retarded people that you can lie to you know."

sure u said most my bad i did misinterpret but he reality is most muslims do. have u ever been dubai or any country in the UAE? pretty much every man i saw there they were wearing them and as i said before when we go to hajj its mandatory to wear it. A lot of people in the western wear it to as i said about my mosque teacher.im sorry but ur fist comment about this u made it sound like it was a bad thing (like i quoted above "most Muslim men don't wear that. We're not retarded people that you can lie to you know."

You added brackets that were never there to begin with. Look at you, altering Allah's words. Astaqfurallah.