The one thing that plays on my mind is this - we were quite different in many ways - interests etc. - and she was initially not overly interested in anything besides looks/the fact that I'm older. However, as the relaitonship progressed, she felt able to open up to me about things she had never spoken to others about i.e. cheating, promiscuity, her parents' divorce, her eating disorder etc. So I think besides validation, I also became an emotional crutch - I like to think that I have always been quite good at inspiring trust and forming emotional connections with people - hence my decision to go into medicine - which is partly why I claim to be level headed.
This is certainly a repeating pattern. However, the guy before me, whom she claims not to have felt so strongly for was even more disimiliar to her, yet they kept a relationship going for 2 years at a 6 hour driving distance. With me, she gave up so quickly - with her going to uni being the only variable.
The guy she is with now is basically her carbon copy in terms of interests etc. and is also superior to me in terms of looks etc. She claims not to trust him, yet I wonder whether she will stick with him, and not repeat the pattern due to their proximity, shared friendship group and greater similarity? Thus perhaps it does reflect upon me?