How to find the right girl, if they never give you a chance..

How have you guys gone about meeting the right girl/guy for you?

I consider myself to be ok looking with good career prospects,a good sense of humour and a nice smile.

But i cant seem to find a girl that would ever give me a shot at dating her. I think it may be because of my looks if im honest. although i always dress pretty well...so it purely must be my face or something thats putting them off.

i dont get it atall....any advice?? or anyone fancy a coffee?? ha

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Reply 1

username1726117

I'm probably not the best person to answer this thread considering I'm practically invisible around women, but...

How do you meet girls? Are you asking them out on dates or are you too shy about it? Tell us about your experiences. :smile:

MGTOW?

Confidence

I know a guy who looks like a drug addict, dresses really messily and is really awkward but he always gets on dates with fit girls. He's just really confident and doesn't care what he looks like or what other people think of him

Reply 4

Drunk Punx

I've stumbled into every relationship I've been in. It's akin to flailing my arms wildly in a swimming pool and hoping to stay afloat.

And that's every relationship I've been in. No exceptions.

However, meeting the "right" person is a completely different kettle of fish. Same principles apply (sink or swim), but you only know you've met the right one after you've gotten into a relationship with them. And even then, things aren't always clear cut. Your relationship will be tested time and time again. Moving in with them is usually a big one, as is having kids. Sometimes, even getting through the day can be a test if neither of you are in a particularly conducive mood.

Reply 5

RachaelBee

I meet people by doing stuff. I've ended up with guys that people tell me are beneath me when it comes to looks, but whilst looks are somewhat important they need to have similar interests and a sense of humour. I met the guy I'm currently seeing while I was on tour with uni and I think he's amazing, nobody makes me laugh like he does but he's moving away soon. :frown:

Ironically on the trip itself I went for a different guy which was a huge mistake.

Reply 6

Ananaz

Original post by MechEng90

How have you guys gone about meeting the right girl/guy for you?

Made a thread on TSR :wink:

Reply 7

MechEng90

thats the issue though.

my friends are more the types of guys that just stay in our local pub. and outside of work university and the gym i cant really meet girls? and i guess im not overly confident either!

i am pretty funny,and ive been told im really sweet and thoughtful romantic etc...but unless a girl gives you the chance to talk to her to show her these qualitites i literally dont have a chance.

Reply 8

MechEng90

i dont really get the opportunity to ask them. In passing,i hope to catch a girls eyes and get a smile or something so i have a sign to know i can talk to them without feeling like im pestering them.

i guess i just always feel like i need a sign otherwise its unwanted?

plus alot of girls ive had experiences with have shot me down so i tend not to have the confidence anymore.

Reply 9

Ananaz

Original post by MechEng90

How old are you? I think societies are the best way to meet someone. But I totally get where you're coming from... I guess you might have to be a really approaching, confident person to make things easier.

Reply 10

MechEng90

Original post by Ananaz

25 ! 😣😢 haha.

Reply 11

Ananaz

Original post by MechEng90

25 ! 😣😢 haha.

It's not that bad, you still got a lot of time ahead of you!

Reply 12

MechEng90

Original post by Ananaz

It's not that bad, you still got a lot of time ahead of you!

i appreciate the positivity Ananaz however ill be bald and fat in 4 years time lol :tongue:

so i need to find a girl soon haha!

Reply 13

RachaelBee

Original post by MechEng90

i appreciate the positivity Ananaz however ill be bald and fat in 4 years time lol :tongue:

so i need to find a girl soon haha!

...I have had this conversation hahaha!

Reply 14

MechEng90

Original post by RachaelBee

...I have had this conversation hahaha!

hahaha i am intrigued?! lol you fear becoming bald and fat?? lol

Reply 15

RachaelBee

Original post by MechEng90

hahaha i am intrigued?! lol you fear becoming bald and fat?? lol

No I fear marrying someone bald and fat. :tongue:

Seriously I'm turning 25 in 2 weeks and I'm like okay, I need to crack on and find someone if I want to be married by the time I'm 30. The guy I'm seeing knows about this and finally asked me why if I don't plan on having kids and my (dead serious) response was "I want to look good in my pictures", then after laughing at me and telling me how shallow I am we discussed him becoming fat and hairy and how he's only 21 (22 in a week) but he needs to lock down a girl and get married fast!

Reply 16

Betelgeuse-

If you fall for me im only gonna tear you apart, told you from the start

Reply 17

Sir Richard P

Original post by MechEng90

Don't bother with these UK rotters, man. they don't brush their teeth, they're anti-social and they don't know how to talk to people. after you are done with university, ditch this dump and move to SoCal with me. the latina's there... holy mother****ing ****. sure we don't have castles or pseudo socialism (minus dental care), but we got sunshine, hoes, and lots and lots of freedom.

Reply 18

Drax101

Develop your confidence, this can be achieved through eliminating negative thinking, thinking more positively, being more optimistic (e.g-girls love confident men), sorting out your beliefs (women want a men who likes to talk, have a laugh, have a good time, have a family and YOU are that man). Know you are a good person, take risks, be proud of yourself, meet your goals, achieve things, take a risk everyday, accept yourself, look outside, trust yourself, believe.

Go to the gym, wear good clothes, groom well, have ambitions, hobbies, things to talk about, go to speed dating events, join on-line dating, join clubs, evening courses and you could meet someone their. Lighten yourself up. You could try approaching women and being jokey/curious/light hearted.

Other things matter too: confidence, character, ambition, humour, charm, playfulness, attentiveness, social skills.

Looks don't matter, it's all in your ahead, volunteer and try to talk to women, get your confidence up by talking to a lot of women. In my community, most of the men are not considered attractive, good looking but they all got the good looking women, you will see these men at shopping centre's, wherever. Trust me on this.

Good luck!

Reply 19

scnotcrazy

[QUOTE="MechEng90;64693183"]How have you guys gone about meeting the right girl/guy for you?

I consider myself to be ok looking with good career prospects,a good sense of humour and a nice smile.

But i cant seem to find a girl that would ever give me a shot at dating her. I think it may be because of my looks if im honest. although i always dress pretty well...so it purely must be my face or something thats putting them off.

i dont get it atall....any advice?? or anyone fancy a coffee?? ha[/QUOTE
Hey don't worry right your only 25 ok and believe in yourself if you do that and be confident then surely you will find someone.
There is someone out there for everyone, you just need to wait and see what happens. They could pop up at any moment and you might not realise that there could be a girl in your life already that you didn't expect to be the one but she could be.