Lesbian bff.....

So after being friends with her for 8 goddamn years(!!!!!) she decides to come out. Don't get me wrong, im not homophobic but i don't feel comfortable with my best friend being a lesbian. Im not starting to think she tried to hit on me at one point in life and i probably didnt even notice!!!

I'm so lost and so disappointed she couldnt tell me earlier - did she not trust me enough or something?? I feel like i cant asking her for 'boy advice' anymore as she will tell me not to date them because she is into me secretly........ Ive tried to hint to her that im not ok anymore being such close friends. ive avoided her in school and she did notice but didnt make the link....

Has anyone bean in such situation?

i dont care about gays but i had a right to know from the beginning

stop twisting everything i say!!!!!!!

i dont care about gays but i had a right to know from the beginning

stop twisting everything i say!!!!!!!

There is no point in claiming you are not homophobic and then ranting and raving about how uncomfortable you are. Do not think that because she is a lesbian, she wants to get in your pants. She is your friend and it has taken her so much time to tell you and if this is how you have responded, you are not a very good friend. Feeling unsure, uncomfortable, or whatever is not the end of the world. She would probably be respectful of that and try and help you. However, she probably saw your potential to be the way you have been and so it stopped her from confronting you. She is not trying to change you. If she makes a move on you, then you can handle it but in a much more mature way. You can ask her for boy advice - girls ask me for advice on girls and boys and boys ask me for advice on boys and girls; your sexuality does not make an ounce of difference.

Do you understand how difficult it is to come out? To be comfortable enough to tell those you think are going to stand by you and help you through the difficult times? Clearly not. To her, it probably looks like 8 years meant nothing. I suggest you have a good hard look in the mirror, shout grow up, and go and be the rock she needs you to be otherwise, leave her to move on and be happy.

(@sfaraj - Thank you )

i dont care about gays but i had a right to know from the beginning

stop twisting everything i say!!!!!!!

i know lesbians in my all girls school, they dont crush on every single person you know, they have their own grilfriends and crazily they still have straight best friends who are supporting them

you say she could've said earlier, well people dont really feel they are homosexual till later in their life, so its a bit selfish

if youre not homophobic, then you should accept her as your best friend, she knows you're straight, doubt she would try to hit on you, and dating girls is not different to dating boys, she'll still give you advice...[/QUOTE

But it might be biased?

I havent told her this. i dont want her to cry. but it is unfair. i wouldnt want to have a guy friend of mine telling me he likes me after such a long time.

I havent told her this. i dont want her to cry. but it is unfair. i wouldnt want to have a guy friend of mine telling me he likes me after such a long time.

She isn't telling you she likes you omg
Stop assuming she fancies you just because she likes girls, yes that's right girls
Girls doesn't necessarily = you

whose to say she will like you?

whose to say she will like you?

but im the only person she talks to. who else is she going to like?

Im not saying she does but theres a good chance. shes obsessed with me. always commenting on my profile pictures and texting me 24/7!!!!

Oh no guys I forgot, i see where shes coming from now. I'm gay so that means I fancy everyone with a vagina

I havent told her this. i dont want her to cry. but it is unfair. i wouldnt want to have a guy friend of mine telling me he likes me after such a long time.

but im the only person she talks to. who else is she going to like?